Get Your Premium Membership

My Father's Hands

Poet's Notes
(Show)

Become a Premium Member and post notes and photos about your poem like Sara Etgen-Baker.


My father, Edwin Richard Etgen II with me in the spring of 1999

 

 

I remember my father’s hands as a plumber’s hands—fiercely strong, calloused, rough, knuckle-battered, and dirty after a long-day’s work. Those hands shoveled; unclogged drains and toilets; repaired leaks; and installed pipes, commodes, and bathtubs. Those hands provided. I remember my father’s hands as a fisherman’s hands—perfectly patient, tenacious, self-confident, and unwavering as he held his fishing line and lure stabile, waiting for a fish to take the bait. “Keep your hands steady. Stay focused,” he prompted me when I asked him to teach me how to fish from his flat-bottom boat. Those hands fished longer than they ‘plumbed,’ rarely missing an opportunity to commune with nature, seldom losing a fish. Those hands fed. I remember my father’s hands as a treasure hunter’s hands—firm, certain, and capable, listening intently to his metal detector’s tones learning to discriminate the sound a good coin makes compared to the choppy, broken sound a junk target makes. Those hands searched, discriminated, and found soulful answers to life’s complex questions and dilemmas. I remember my father’s hands as healing hands—kind and comforting as he wiped away the tears that sometimes streamed down my face. Without saying a word, those hands loved, consoled, and encouraged—always righting my world. I remember my father’s hands—full of strength and hope as he took my trembling hands in his. Those hands gave me courage—the courage to reach up in search of everything impossible, leaving me with the unbridled sense that to do anything less was the greatest impossibility of all. Even now whenever I need courage, I can feel his hand around mine helping me to feel invincible once again. In my mind’s eye, I often see my father’s hands—every line and every wrinkle. They told a story about the kind of man he was. I’ll remember my father’s hands for the remainder of my life. I’m grateful for him, for his enduring spirit and presence which continues to grace my life despite his passing some years ago.
his hands tell a tale they did countless loving things they touched and guided they shaped and molded they encouraged me to reach they held the stars in place they held rising sun they sought deep understanding they chased lonely moon

Copyright © | Year Posted 2023




Post Comments

Poetrysoup is an environment of encouragement and growth so only provide specific positive comments that indicate what you appreciate about the poem.

Please Login to post a comment

Date: 10/8/2023 11:02:00 AM
A description of a wonderful man. Wish I had a plumber like him, not to detract from his other qualities. Blessings.
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/8/2023 2:50:00 PM
thanks, Victor, for you kind words about my plumber father. All his customers trusted him and adored him. He had a positive impact on everyone he met. Have a blessed evening...and thanks for stopping by, Sara
Date: 10/8/2023 8:56:00 AM
Great epitaph for your dad. Always think you're as good as your upbringing, and your dad, like my brother, a plumber, had those working hands.
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/8/2023 2:51:00 PM
thanks for stopping by, Paul, and for your reference to your brother's plumber's hands. Good to know. Have a wonderful Sunday evening, Sara
Date: 10/7/2023 9:35:00 PM
From what I gather from your poem, I feel that your father is a wonderful person, so industrious, caring and adept in many things... ! A pride to his children. As I have expressed earlier, I am a fan of your haibuns. My father too had so many similar qualities, but didn't know how to express his love so visibly. I am sure, as we are, blessed with such good parents that we have reached where we are now. This speaks directly to my heart, and think of my loving parents. "they held the stars in place". Love this line. Into my FAVE.
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/8/2023 4:40:00 AM
Thank you, sweet Valsa, for visiting my site and reading my Haibun. You're right. My father was a wonderful man. I'm glad you had a father who was similar to mine. My parents were both such blessings, blessings beyond my ability to adequately express at times. I'm grateful you are a fan of my Haibuns and I'm glad you had loving. I can sense their influence on you through your kindness and your words. Thanks for faving this one. You're a wonderful poet friend!
Date: 10/7/2023 1:45:00 PM
Sometimes it is the simple things, not the grand deeds, that spark the greatest memories.
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 2:20:00 PM
You're so right, Jerry. It's the little acts of love that also remind me of the love my father had not for me but for his entire family. Thanks for stopping by. Enjoy your Saturday, Sara
Date: 10/7/2023 10:38:00 AM
Sara you pen straight from the heart with so much love and sweetness! Your dad sounds as a dad should be….strong, kind and loving….lucky you to have had him and now your beautiful memories! Debx
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 2:21:00 PM
thanks for stopping by, Deb....Yes, I was quite fortunate to have had the father I had. He did give me a loving, stable home with endless memories. Have a pleasant Saturday, Sara
Date: 10/7/2023 8:54:00 AM
Lucky are the ones that have such beautiful memories to reminisce abt their father and parents, blessed you are dear poetic soul, and that is a very sweet picture, i loved seeing you, so gorgeous u and your father were there, i felt so very deeply as i read this,the way you write is flawless and rare! So original and well delivered, describing ur father to us all so well in this form. I love ur haikus, especially 1st line of 1st haiku and last two too! Another fave for me this is. You inspire me
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 2:29:00 PM
dearest Ink--thank you for stopping by and for making beautiful observations and comments. The picture I shared is one of my favorite ones of my dad and I. I cherish it as I do the memories he gave me. I'm grateful you felt deeply as you read my poem. Thanks for your ongoing supportive words and kindness. Thank you, also, for faving this one. You're a dear poetess friend, Sara
Date: 10/7/2023 6:57:00 AM
Beautifully written Sara, your father sounds like someone I would have enjoyed fishing with.
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 8:19:00 AM
thanks for stopping by, John, and for your comments. I'm guessing he would've like fishing with you as well. He was the quintessential father and fisherman. Have a joyous day, Sara
Date: 10/7/2023 6:43:00 AM
Another excellent haibun and this one is to touching.. I started writing one about my father and described his knuckles bruised also... You father was a wonderful caring man and you have described that so well here...As always your haiku complete the poem perfectly... like dessert after a main course..
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 8:21:00 AM
thanks for stopping by, Silent One. I'm grateful you found my poem touching. Yes, my father was a caring man, the quintessential father. How interesting that you too were writing a poem about your father describing his bruised knuckles. A small world indeed. I do love coincidences. Your comment comparing my Haiku to dessert was priceless. You made my day. Have a blessed dear, poet friend
Date: 10/7/2023 6:05:00 AM
High poetic praise for a revered father. Reminds me of the old country song: Daddy's Hands. So nice that you have such fond memories. Some aren't so lucky
Login to Reply
Woody Avatar
Tom Woody
Date: 10/7/2023 9:46:00 AM
It's by Holly Dunn. Nice video with it on YouTube
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 8:26:00 AM
thanks for stopping by, Tom, and for your praise. I wasn't aware of the country song you mentioned. I'll look for it via the Internet. Yes, I'm grateful to have so fond memories of my dad...not everyone has had that experience, which saddens me. Hope you have a special Saturday, Sara
Date: 10/7/2023 5:51:00 AM
This really does make you recall your father's (and uncle's, and granddad's) hands. So much description.
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 8:22:00 AM
thanks for stopping by, Andrew, and for commenting on how descriptive my poem was. I appreciate you and your comments, Sara
Date: 10/7/2023 4:26:00 AM
Oh my Sara, this brought a tear to my eyes. A fav for my book of memories dear heart. Love and light, Vie
Login to Reply
Etgen-Baker Avatar
Sara Etgen-Baker
Date: 10/7/2023 4:33:00 AM
thanks for stopping by and for your lovely comments on this early Saturday morning. I appreciate your touching response to my poem. May you have a wonderful Saturday filled with light and love as well. Sara

Book: Shattered Sighs