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Men ...
  Giving advice to OTHER men, on women
    That's funny ... ironic "funny", I mean, (though I did chuckle)
      As if ANY man ever had a clue what women are about ...
        But, I suppose, I have learned a few things

Very painfully learned ...
  But NOTHING is absolute with women ... nothing is empirical
    So, I won't call my tidbits "advice", but rather "observations" ...
      That's as close as I can come, (or ANY man that I know, for that matter)
        OK, here goes - Firstly, LISTEN ... REALLY listen to her

That is, for me, the key to any relationship
  But if you really listen and respond with care to what a woman is saying
    Then you're off to a good start
      HONESTY ...
        We all tell little lies at times, for the sake of kindness

But strive to be forthright and true, always
  Or it will shatter the bridge before it's barely built.
      A sense of humor will take you a very long way with most females
        And it doesn't hurt your OWN well-being, either

To be positive, up-beat, happy, and funny.
    Yes, the old-fashioned, hold-the-door-and-lay-down-the-coat romantic
      (Unless she doesn't LIKE that sort of behavior, of course).
        Attention to little romantic details like your anniversaries ...

I mean anniversaries for EVERYTHING
  The day you met, the day you first said "I love you"
    The day you kissed, held hands, met her best friend, went to a concert
      Every little special moment you can remember ...
        The moments that put that "Awwww!!" look on her face

Flowers, chocolates, a four-leaf clover ... be creative.
  WORDS ...
    Be careful with your words ... they hear EVERYthing
      And they remember every little promise and special comment
        Even though YOU may not think of it the same way.

Find her likes and dislikes, and write them down, if you have to.
  PDA's - just DO it!
    Hold her hand in public, don't walk in front of her but beside her
      Brush the hair from her eyes, give her quick, romantic kisses
        Little through-the-day massages of her back or shoulders.

Avoid looking at other women at all costs!
  Be valiant and chivalrous, and cook her dinner sometimes
    Ask her how her day was ...
      Tell her how beautiful she is and compliment her
        NOTICE the little changes she makes in her clothes and jewelry

Discover her dreams and make them yours
  Leave your arm around her, even if it falls asleep
    Know the details of her childhood ...
      Don't kiss her ONLY when you want to be intimate
        * MAKE LOVE to her, don't just "have sex" *

Don't be satisfied until SHE is, (and learn how to nibble)
  Learn how to have mutual climax, (you'll thank me) 
    Learn the special places on her body that make her crazy
      (Nape of her neck, behind her knee, her ear, under her arm, palm of her
        Hand, dimples on her back, inside her thigh ... there are MORE!)

Find those places and make love to them with your hands and mouth ...
  Tenderly ... write naughty words there in cursive with your fingertips
    Make pleasing her in bed your most important job!
      LEARN what she likes and doesn't like, and be attentive to it ALL
        Learn how she likes to kiss, and do it for hours

Kiss her everywhere ... and savor every inch
  Kiss her with some of her hair between your mouths
    Kiss her upside-down, (trust me ... it's amazing!)
      Taste her like she's the most delectable, expensive candy you've ever had
        And then share it with her ... in a kiss

NEVER let her go to bed or say goodnight ANGRY or unsatisfied
  Find out what makes up her "Knight in Shining Armor", and BE it
    DO. NOT. CHEAT. EVER ...
      If you can't be faithful, you should not be with her ... period.
        Jeremy Piven once said, "The Fidelity Bank and Trust is a tough creditor,

"If you make a deposit somewhere else, they close your account ... FOREVER!"
  Learn it. Remember it. LIVE by it.
    Make her smile ... make it be your smile.
      Love her fearlessly, proudly, honestly, loyally, and DEEPLY.
        Dance with her at unusual times ... even if there's no music or dance floor

BE CLEAN, take care of yourself, wear what she likes to see on you
  Be polite and caring, and make sure others RESPECT her
    Always, always make her the most important thing in your life
      And make sure she FEELS that way
        Don't be possessive, but be protective

Don't be forceful, but be assertive
  Don't be angry, but be passionate
    Don't be weak, but be tender
      Don't be crass, but be sensual
        Don't act stupid, but make her feel intelligent

Don't act like a loser, but let her win
  Don't act indecisive, but let her choose
    Don't act foolish, but let her guide you
      And most of all ...
        Treat her like the princess or queen that she DESERVES to be!

I know this isn't everything, but it's a good start
  Besides, I'm still learning ...
    And NO ONE will ever learn it all ...
      Such is the sublime and wondrous enigma called WOMAN ...
        And we wouldn't have it any other way.

* I just wrote this entire poem for the "Men Your Advice To Another Man On Females" Poetry Contest, and then remembered it was for RHYME only! Such are the wages of growing old, lol. Ugh! *

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Date: 3/8/2018 4:13:00 PM
I REALLY LIKE THE FORM you chose. Some poems just find their own form. And something else to add. Is if you do all this a woman couldn’t help but to fall in love- truly, madly, deeply. It is a winner in my eyes. SuZ
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 3/11/2018 8:29:00 AM
That's so very sweet of you, Suz, and I so greatly appreciate the wonderful words you've given me ... if only the women around me could see me this way, lol. Perhaps someday ... thank you SO much! :-) <3
Date: 3/8/2018 1:28:00 PM
You are such a sexy man Greg! You have the opposite sex figured out. I hope you are not alone for much longer.
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 3/11/2018 8:27:00 AM
Oh, my, you're making me blush, Jean, and I don't do that easily, lol! Thank you so much for this wonderful comment - you're a doll! :-) <3
Date: 2/4/2018 8:41:00 PM
I don't know anything about you...but...If their's a woman in your life she better stand at the door with a bat to beat off the ladies who want to be respected. In your award winning advice, you and God have this how to treat us, all wrapped up and in the bag !Please, please love to read this in rhyme...go for it! bbn
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 2/10/2018 10:09:00 PM
Oh, that is SUCH a nice comment, Barbara, and I so appreciate the kind and thoughtful words! I like to fool myself and think I've learned a little something about women over the years, (in my many failures), but despite myself, I don't think ANY man will ever come close ... we can but dream! Blessings and many kind thanks to you, my friend! (I am twice married, twice divorced, and alone at present ... though I pray love is not done with me as yet. I have also been blessed to have known TWO soul-mates, though I lost both, neither of which were my wives, lol ... to have loved on such a deep level twice, is indeed rare and quite special). :-) <3
Date: 1/21/2018 2:39:00 PM
Gregory, this is good advice for the men. This would be good advice for my dead husband. He would have learnt a few things from this poem. Have a nice day my friend.
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 1/22/2018 8:09:00 PM
That's very sweet of you, Darlene ... thank you so much for the kind comments, my friend! :-) <3
Date: 1/16/2018 1:20:00 PM
I was mad when I saw the winners list for this contest, where's Greg's poem...oh yeah, forget the rhyme thing, this was the best!
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 1/16/2018 11:45:00 PM
I really appreciate that, John ... I was going to write a different version in rhyme, but I'd already said what I wanted to in the best way I could, and to try and emulate it in rhyme seemed ... anticlimactic, or something. My heart just wasn't in it. So pleased that you and others enjoyed it so much - that's what's truly important. Blessings, Brother! :-)
Date: 1/10/2018 3:02:00 PM
OMG, you did all this and then realized it had to be rhymed!!! I have done this kind of thing too . It's NOT a good feeling, but oh well, you came up with some stunning observations!! I would like to add, if a man did only one TENTH of this stuff, he would be good in MY book! (too bad my hubbie hates to read) Soupmail for ya on pharmacy advice!!
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 1/10/2018 9:52:00 PM
Thank you so very much, Andrea, I'm pleased you liked it - it was rather befuddling when I discovered it had to be rhyme, but then it was a result of my own stupidity and oversight, lol, so I hope I've learned a lesson! I will reply at length to your Soup Mail ASAP. Blessings! :-) <3
Date: 1/7/2018 10:52:00 PM
An easy FAVE for me, Gregory. Just have a good night's sleep - wait, have a nice romantic evening with a glass of wine etc etc... you have it in you to write another poem, you'll see.
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 1/10/2018 9:40:00 PM
lol - I like that, Line! Thank you so much for your kind comments - they put a smile on my face! Blessings, Dear Friend! :-) <3
Date: 1/7/2018 5:05:00 PM
This is an amazing poem full of thoughtful , caring , advice. It should be allowed in the contest anyway. Well written :)
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 1/10/2018 9:39:00 PM
That's very kind of you, Heidi ... I feel like re-writing it in rhyme would not do as good a job, but I may try it. Blessings, Friend! :-) <3
Date: 1/7/2018 1:53:00 PM
wow so amazing! I loved every bit of it...:) -luloo
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 1/10/2018 9:37:00 PM
Thank you so very much, Luloo - I'm pleased you liked it!
Date: 1/7/2018 12:15:00 PM
Hmmm, the first male to respond! IF YOU"RE GAY I"M IN!! HELLO--Just kidding lol---but you sure got all the gals going' but honestly it should be premiered in Cosmo but you'd have to get a switchboard of admins to deal with the calls!
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craig cornish
Date: 1/7/2018 12:16:00 PM
I must post an idea---give me a bit 8-)
Date: 1/7/2018 7:33:00 AM
Damn! It Rhymed, it rhymed! Maybe not in the written words, but the spoken words of truth were so relatable. Yup, yup, yip, a-huh, nodding my head in agreement all the way through. Incredible poem for the contest. Good luck. Jeffrey
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Date: 1/7/2018 7:26:00 AM
What you lack in rhyme you sure make up for in reason! Phenomenal job my dear; this woman's seal of approval! ;) xomo!
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Date: 1/7/2018 6:34:00 AM
Wow Greg!! I’m really glad you didn’t decide to delete this when you realized it should be rhyme!!!! This should be every man’s guidebook and manual! I think you have completely encapsulated the perfect man in this most insiteful write !!! A new favorite for me!!!
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