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Truly amaze me ...
They possess the super-human

Strength to birth a child - one of
The most painful and demanding
Feats of endurance known to our
Species - yet they have the
Self-confidence to be meek and

Tender, with the gentle and sweet
Fortitude needed for motherhood ...
They have the extraordinary insight
To look into your eyes and know
What you're feeling ... they can be

Completely confident in who they
Are, and yet totally vulnerable in
Who they want to be ... they can
Have the strength of ten men in
Bearing young, and the sexuality to

Bring a hundred men to their knees ...
They are at one moment the most
Simple creatures in their need for
Love, and at the next so complicated
That they are unfathomable ...

They can be the most loving and
Accepting people you've ever
Known, or the most frighteningly
Fierce and formidable foes
Imaginable ... they can lay bare

Their soul before you and give it
Up with passion, or build walls so
Strong that nothing but time can
Bring them down ... they can let
You believe, in their confidence,

That you are the strongest being
Alive, or remind you that the very
Fires of Hell are at their beck-and-call ...
They are EACH and ALL an amazing
Creation of utter perfection and

Grace, and like brittle snowflakes,
Uniquely wondrous and different
In every way, at one moment a
Mystery beyond comprehension,
And at the next, the most delightfully

Familiar soul you've ever encountered ...
Their tears flow as freely as their
Laughter, and they are as spiritual as
They are sensible ... they measure
Their own elegance by how they

Feel INSIDE ... about themselves.
They are at once outspoken and
Demure ... they may need to be
Held and told everything will be
Alright, or they may need to take

The lead and be honored ... they
May want to hear about your
Wildest dreams, or need you to
Really LISTEN to how they feel ...
They may want YOU to take control

And show them your deepest desires,
Or they may need to have their
Every wish fulfilled ... they may want
You to be endlessly mysterious, then
Lay bare your broken spirit on the

Altar of their passion. A woman may
Want to look perfect, with every hair
And detail in place, or she may run wild
Through the rain ... she may share the
Fires of her deepest lust and desires,

Or she may make you feel the cold
Regard of her wrath ... she may want
You to be firm and forward, and then
Desire only tenderness and care ...
She may cry at your funniest joke,

Or laugh at your saddest story, and
Expect you to understand ... she
May howl at the moon in madness,
Yet require you to keep her sane ...
She may endear you with her ferocity,

Then frighten you with her kindness.
She may love you more in her anger
Than she ever could in her joy, or
Adore you for your carelessness,
Yet despise you for your attention.

A woman is the perfect vessel and
The ultimate contradiction, on
The pedestal one moment, and
At your feet the next. Their bodies
Are warm and cold, salty and sweet,

Rough and smooth, with hidden
Wonders and responses all their own,
First trembling at your lightest touch,
Then needing the firm press of flesh,
Every soft inch a sublime adventure,

Every subtle curve a joy ... but
Their minds are keen and as
Sharp-edged as any razor ... they
Can cut you with their words and
Their stare, then leave you bleeding ...

They are elation and anger, vigor
And vulnerability, coyness and
Carnality ... in a moment they
Can drag you through hell, or carry
You to heaven ... they can be angel

Or demon, mother or daughter,
Temptress or torturer ... they can
Make you the king of their heart,
Or remind you of your absolute
Insignificance ... they are told from

Birth that they are inferior to men -
Weaker, softer, more fragile - yet
Despite that they are more determined,
More durable, more wise, more
Diligent, more deft, more caring,

More tenacious, more hard-working,
And more intuitive, than most three
Men put together ... they can be
Great moms or be great boxers ...
They can be successful professionals

Or stay-at-home wives, they can
Do most jobs as well as any man,
And do a hundred other things that
Many men are never even taught!
They can teach, fight, love, paint,

Play drums, be weightlifters,
Ballerinas, truck drivers, nurses,
Army sergeants, cooks, seamstresses,
Basketball players, florists, pharmacists,
Doctors, lawyers ... women can

Wear dresses or they can wear work
Pants, they can wear toe shoes or
They can wear hockey skates,
They can wear ponytails or they
Can wear hard hats, they can wear

Steel-toed boots or they can wear
Stilettos, they can wear overalls
Or miniskirts. I believe that one
Of the primary reasons that they
Have been marginalized for so

Many centuries, is that men knew
That if women ever DID start doing
The things that men have always done,
Everyone would find out that women
Were BETTER at 99% of those things,

And would start demanding equal pay
And equal rights! That is starting to
Come to pass, and I think it scares
Many men ... women are told their
Whole lives what they CAN'T do, yet

They spend their whole lives doing
Things that many men are incapable
Of, things that men don't care to
Do or want to do or have to do ...
Men are intent on making a living,

Yet women are what we live FOR ...
Women have forever lived in the
Shadow of men, but men would
HAVE no shadow without the
Sunlight that women shine on our

Lives ... if Woman really WAS made
After Man, it's because the Creator
Didn't get human beings right the
First time, and perfected the species
With the female version ... and most

Of all, no matter how much you
Learn about them, or how much
You may know of all these things
I've touched on, or how much you
Listen and absorb what they tell

You about themselves, you will
Never, ever, EVER, understand them ...
Yet there is absolutely NOTHING in
Heaven or earth, that is as wonderfully
Sexy and sublime, entertaining and

Enticing, intently intense, or
Imperfectly perfect, as ...


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Date: 4/4/2017 5:59:00 AM
A fantastic poem, superb free verse and deliverer of an important message.. You hit 100% on so many fronts and levels with this gem..A7 and a fav...
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 4/7/2017 9:01:00 PM
Thank you so much, Robert ... very much appreciated, my friend!
Date: 4/2/2017 7:44:00 AM
This poem is incredible... I am gay, and perhaps I see women differently, my relationships with women have always been different from straight relationships, I know that. But however and whatever. we are fighting for equality, and so are women, so often that is not recognized. So this poem of yours is fantastic. Nothing needs to be perfect as long as the intention is good :)
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 4/7/2017 8:59:00 PM
Thanks for that, Darren - I was obviously writing from a hetero perspective, and was not intentionally leaving anyone out or assuming that everyone, (or ANYone), should see it from my angle, just giving my personal view. Makes it all the more substantive for me that you could get something from it also, and you're right - equality is equality - it's really the same fight. I'm also not trying to insinuate that I know anything more about women ( or relationships) than anyone else, but rather trying to convey the wondrous appreciation I have for the female form and psyche, and all they contribute to humanity, sexually or no. NONE of us will ever have all the answers when it comes to relating, that's for sure, but the discussions about it will drive us on ... evermore. ;-)
Date: 3/20/2017 4:47:00 PM
Greg....this needs to be read by more poets. It's superb. I've long fought for equality. What a wonderful treasure this is. I'm faving it. Thank you for being such a wonderful example of an honest man. My favorite part was there reference to shadow and light. Delightful!
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 3/22/2017 1:29:00 AM
Thank you SO much, Eileen - that means more than you know, especially coming from an intelligent, insightful woman like you! I admit that I know little about the subject, but I tried to take an honest stab at how I feel, and how much I appreciate and adore you wonderful women ... and tried to do so without messing up or offending anyone, lol. This was fun ... I may add to it sometime. Thanks again, my friend! :-)
Date: 3/14/2017 2:24:00 PM
Wow! An incredibly insightful and moving piece... epic in its scope with deeply soulful thoughts. I smiled at the last verse... some things will always remain a mystery:-) Magnificent writing, a fave, 7+ a great pleasure to read. blessings, lynn
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 3/14/2017 11:29:00 PM
Thank you SO much, Lynn, that means a great deal to me ... this COULD have been much longer, but I know long poems are not often read, and I didn't want to lose peoples' attention. Maybe an addendum one of these days. Your kind words are very much appreciated! :-)
Date: 3/13/2017 6:31:00 PM
No comments are you kidding me!!! This is one poem that will hit number one very soon, this is stunning writing Greg, a definite 7 and a fave!
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Gregory R Barden
Date: 3/13/2017 10:21:00 PM
Thank you so very much, John ... as you know, your opinion is very valued by me, as I respect and enjoy your writing very much, and can tell when you say something that you truly MEAN it. I know I'm relatively new to the Soup, so I don't expect a lot of comments ... when they happen I am overjoyed, and I think as I get to know others more they will start commenting and reaching out, and I need to do more of that myself! Thanks again, my friend, for these very kind words. :-)