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Distinguishing Right From Wrong, Enablers, and the Enabled

My subject is nothing new. It's been around since Adam and Eve. Like the snake and the apple. It's the enabled kid who throws a ball through a window, while the enablers, his parents, praise him for his 'rifle arm'---and then that kid has no regard for others' property. It's the kid who tells mommy and daddy all the dirt on fellow siblings and is rewarded for it with carte blanche for continuing to do so---and then becomes the 'office snitch.' It's the rich kid who grows up with a 'silver spoon' in his mouth, who can't share anything with others. It's the poor kid who gets away with outrageous behavior, because of his 'circumstances.' It's the immigrant kid who everyone feels sorry for because he has to learn a new language, and who winds up getting away with murder. It's the difference between right and wrong, manifesting itself as a lack of accountability, leading to a lack of responsibility, resulting in complaining and whining, in claims of 'Unfair!'---all of which leads to an unearned sense of empowerment and entitlement,... ...ending in theft, in property crime, in embezzlement, and in worst-case scenarios, even in murder. Once the problem gets out of hand, once a monster or monsters have been created, it's very hard to force the jacks and jills back into the boxes from which they've sprung. Yet catch the problem early enough and it can be walked back to ground zero, where resilient, independent, responsible personalities are forged. So let there be a call to arms! --Parents and teachers, supervisors and managers, mentors, spiritual leaders, and all those in positions of influence: Take heed! Conduct inventory! Make sure you teach your charges right from wrong. Make sure your charges are accountable. Make sure there are consequences for your charges' actions and inactions. Do your best to consistently fit consequences to the (mis)behavior in question. Yours is a Solomonic role. And you have within you a Solomonic ability to carry it out. May we raise up generation of young adults who can tell right from wrong. May we raise up generations of responsible, accountable young adults. May we save the world from the twin scourges of false entitlement and irresponsibility. May we be responsible adults, my friends. April 03 2018 Entry in 'Social Justice Free Verse' contest, sponsored by John Hamilton

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Date: 4/18/2018 8:38:00 PM
Congratulations on your win with this fine and to-the-point piece that hits the nail on the head... the enabled and enablers. All of us who blame a gun instead of a shooter, blame police for trying to keep us safe, and on and on. Accountability is hard for adults anymore... I could go on and on but won't :) An intelligent piece that should be circulated.
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/18/2018 9:00:00 PM
Susan, were there a "Fave Comment" category on Poetry Soup, this one would be right at the top of my list. Appreciate your directness and refusal to be taken in by easy answers or easy ways out of the muck in which we're presently stuck. Kudos to you! :) gw
Date: 4/17/2018 7:28:00 PM
Gershon, you have summed up these social problems so well and granted wise advice for repairs. Amazing write...a Fave. Congratulations on your podium win in the contest. Sandra
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/17/2018 9:16:00 PM
Thank you for reading, thank you for your kind words---and congrats to YOU for your trophy winner, "Progress and Development." As you sagely show, "Progress" is often the opposite of what's achieved when there's "Development." :) Gershon
Date: 4/17/2018 4:04:00 PM
Back with well deserved congrats, Gershon. In times where there seems to be no such thing as 'too much'.
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/17/2018 9:12:00 PM
For example, I can never thank you 'too much' for your support and encouragement. You have stayed with me all these months, a faithful friend. Many, many thanks, Line.
Date: 4/17/2018 3:11:00 PM
An amazing write of common sense, which isn't very common any more. Congrats Gershon on a nice win!
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/17/2018 9:11:00 PM
John, thank you for your kind words, and special thanks for sponsoring this contest. I wrote the poem, specifically for the contest (which I don't often do), because I thought it was an outstanding opportunity to make a statement that matters. Thanks to you, many Soupers and I were provided that opportunity. :) Gershon
Date: 4/17/2018 2:57:00 PM
I'm so so glad to see you on the winners list:-) many congrats Gershon:-) hugs Jan xx
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/17/2018 9:07:00 PM
Jan, you are one sensitive soul: It has been awhile, hasn't it? And it hasn't been for lack of trying, but rather for lack of supplying (the goods). At any rate, I'm pleased too. Worked hard on this one, writing it specifically for the contest....One step at a time, at this point. Again, thanks for noticing, and for your constant support and cheerful perspective. :) gw
Date: 4/6/2018 9:22:00 AM
Yes, very strong message, much needed today! I especially liked the "Solomonic role" line, so true-
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/17/2018 9:08:00 PM
Thank you, Michelle. We need that Solomonic wisdom more than ever these days, I'm afraid... :) gw
Date: 4/3/2018 9:38:00 PM
"yet catch the problem early enough..." indeed tis society's responsibility to nurture potential, as neglect and abuse breeds it's own potential; the war is on. A striking write, my best to you in the contest Gershon :) xomo!
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/4/2018 12:04:00 PM
Maureen, your comments simply make my day! Thank you again and again for reading such a lengthy, slightly "soap-boxy" free-verse write. Wishing you only the best, always! :) Gershon
Date: 4/3/2018 6:40:00 PM
Bravo Gershon powerfully penned with such wisdom in your words:-) hugs Jan xx
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/4/2018 12:03:00 PM
Jan, thank you and God bless you for not merely reading such a long diatribe, but actually finding something good--something super, actually--to say about it...It's a privilege for me to be associated with you via Poetry Soup; I look forward to our every interaction. Thank you again, so much. :) Gershon
Date: 4/3/2018 4:24:00 PM
Awesome entry to the Social Justice contest, Gershon. Well said - strong powerful message.
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Gershon Wolf
Date: 4/3/2018 4:33:00 PM
Thank you, Line, for your gracious comment. I only hope that it's not generally perceived as a bit 'too much' for our times. Best always, Gershon

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