Tough Love

My evolving definition of Tough Love: Messages sent by someone with political-economic power over you, sent by an authoritative administrator of future positive and/or negative resources, intending some version of "my way or the highway, Win-Lose strategic communication. MyWay v. LoserWay proposals imply their victim's response will either result in Win-Win or Lose-Lose health and nutrition outcomes for both predator and prey within this rhetorical choice event of AngerFear motivators for LovePeace mutually co-mentoring WinWin outcome design. Predator is typically internally conflicted by the ambivalence of noble willpower while negatively co-mentoring mutually-competitive double-negative-negative intent. Decision of parasite, vis-a-vis Host's Tough Love Position heavily influenced by degree of currently known environmental support for WinWin option as compared to LoseLose game rules established by Host-Predator. Significant environmental considerations may be cooperatively positive and/or competitively negative with both the WinWin frame and the LoseLose oppositional-defiant frame, inclusive of, but seldom limited to, the parasite's relationship to the ToughLove Message Originator and Host. CoMentoring Parasites wishing to transition ToughLove messages from Ego-Self-Empowered Hosts, might suggest looking together at how the Parasite position Wins short-term and long-term and how the Host position Wins short-term and long-term regenerational health and safety-trends; Then compare those Wins to what the Parasite position Loses short-term and long-term and how the Host position Loses short-term and long-term what might be missed opportunities for optimizing regenerational health and contentment, love and peace by continuing the Parasite-Victim's current LovePeace status quo, v. AngerFear control and trajectory toward further disease and cognitive-affective dissonance. At this point, it might be possible for both the Hosting ToughLove Predator and the CoParasitically Present Victim to engage in some dialectical conversation about how we might achieve healthy cooperative peace with regenerative loving kindness, together. It might help, in this regard, to co-define perameters for "short-term" and "long-term", somewhere between the range of short as timeless-now PresentMoment emergence, and long as time's eternally regenerative self-consciousness, folding and unfolding and refolding and prefolding syntax within co-arising bicameral mindbodies. It could also be more positively regenerative, to agree on a scale of potential win and lose outcomes, with optimal win polarity described as PolyCultural Global Bliss and Peace and Love with Justice for all Earth Tribes, and lose outcomes trending more toward PolyPathological Eco-Dysfunctional Over-MonoCulturally-DisPopulating Screaming Chaotic Voices of Deadly Irrational and Eternally Damned Dismay, Fear of Internally/Externally Empty-Landscaped Fear becoming Our EgoCompeting Selves. EcoPresent Presence speaks and acts, nouns and verbs, causes and double-bind effects, our ToughLove tipping points, teaching ourselves how we might win less anger and fear to win more mutually loving peace Internally cooperative intent and positive-willed mindbodies, as Externally regenerative time-articulating nondual co-arising gravitas, grace, timeless elating gratitude, bicamerally balancing ecoconsciousness.