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This Is Me and My Life

They said it’s time I settle down If I can’t find a man of my own They will be pleased to help me with that They’re going to find me my man They’re talking about me As if they’re advertising me publicly Like I’m up for sale Ready to be picked off the dusty shelf Wow Do I not have my rights anymore What is life without your own rights Is life only complete when sharing with someone But what’s wrong with my free spirited life I’m happy I’m enjoying life freely and joyously I’m please to say my freedom is my happiness This is me my body and my life I hold the wheel but trust God to guide me My life isn’t perfect but I am living in the moment My freedom let’s me do as I please So put a stop to make me your business I maybe journeying alone but never lonely Who said happiness is only when coupling Happiness is your free will and to know God It’s unbeknownst when It’s unbeknownst whom My heart be captured by IF EVER But I’m not dying to get there to find out I’m exploring life in my fearless freedom Because the possibilities are unbounded This world is full of life and adventure I am a free soul seeker with a passion to experiencing my true self life And with that said This is me and my life I make my decision choosing my path And until then I’m driving solo singing loudly Akkina 2/4/21 For my best friend who’s family is trying to get her settle down and marry while she’s exploring her young life and adventuring this beautiful Earth...

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Bill Baker

Date: 8/11/2023 3:14:00 PM

Good for you, Akkina. Your poem sounds a lot like my wife Sara, before we met. She had made the decision that she had control of her own experience of life, and she didn't need a spouse to make her happy or fulfilled. I overheard her state that and made a point to meet her and compliment her on accepting herself before deciding she had to have someone with her to be happy. Eight months later we married and have been happily married for 40+ years. We're still independent thinkers. Bill

Paul Bell

Date: 8/9/2023 2:35:00 AM

Ideally, you should have said, get me ten men, cos that's ten free meals, or even forty if you play them along. Mind you, statistically, marriages don't last. lol

Paula Goldsmith

Date: 8/6/2021 11:21:00 AM

I just found this creative/wonderful- story/write. I love your line "And until then I’m driving solo singing loudly," Just keep looking. What do they say about "kissing many frogs to find a prince"???? Hope you are OK. Have a wonderful/blessed day writing away............

Brandy Nicole

Date: 3/6/2021 7:38:00 PM

When the time is right, your friend will find the right one- or the right one will find her. No need to push. I understand her family wanting her to find someone. Sometimes, it just doesn't happen, and that is perfectly okay. My best to you and your friend. :) Hugs, Brandy

Justin Abdool

Date: 2/25/2021 9:36:00 AM

Very Good Akkina. There's absolutely nothing wrong with being single and having more freedom. I enjoyed this write. Have a great day!

Anitha Jayasankar

Date: 2/24/2021 12:55:00 AM

Wow... Lovely... nobody can force anything on anyone... Anything that comes out by forcing, will not last long... in my opinion. Your friend has her own free will to live and explore the beauty of life. Hugs ~ Ani

Angela Crabtree

Date: 2/20/2021 2:50:00 PM

I agree with you 100%, Akkina. Your friend has her own life to live. Family thoughts and suggestions are okay as long as they don't interfere with what she wants to do in her own life. Great poem :)

James Inman

Date: 2/16/2021 10:16:00 PM

Hi Akkina, lovely thoughts in your poem. My older daughter just got engaged a couple of days ago.

Gordon Mcconnell

Date: 2/15/2021 8:25:00 AM

Good pen Akkina, with some wise counsel too. Your friend is so right just to enjoy life and take what comes her way. Have aq lovely day, Gordon

Paul Callus

Date: 2/11/2021 2:14:00 PM

Forcing a person to get married makes no sense, even if it's a result of good intentions. May your friend enjoy life without going to extremes, Akkina. ~ Best regards // paul

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/11/2021 6:19:00 PM

I think she’s going to be just fine. She is stubborn, strong minded and free spirit for sure. She’s moved out and on her own now in NYC. So yeah, she’s going to be just fine. Thank you, Paul... hugs ~

Gershon Wolf

Date: 2/8/2021 6:28:00 PM

Really!! Others have their own ulterior motives and agendas -- nothing to do with the single person's welfare at all... Couldn't agree with you more, Akkina. Cheers, Gershon

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/9/2021 11:49:00 AM

Some cultures still in the existence of controlling the affairs of their children... thank you, Gershon :)

Heidi Sands

Date: 2/8/2021 12:04:00 PM

Wow, I was led to this from your kind comment and I can identify with this completely. So well written Akkina and now a FAV too~ ! A nice surprise today :)

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/8/2021 5:03:00 PM

You honored me Heidi, thank you so kindly :)

Tom Cunningham

Date: 2/7/2021 8:26:00 AM

Everyone should have the right to happiness and to make their own choices. Well written Akkina. Hope your day is going well Tom

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/7/2021 7:36:00 PM

Thank you Tom :)

Rama Balasubramanian

Date: 2/6/2021 10:04:00 PM

Wow! Another wonderful right expressing the state of mind anybody who does not want get married unfortunately family and society pressure. In India they do. People are literally after you especially family. I agree with all that you said. I am adding you to my favourite poet list. Take care Rama

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/7/2021 5:38:00 AM

You honored me, Rama. I thank you very much. Hugs ~

Robert Pettit

Date: 2/6/2021 3:56:00 PM

It's not too bad to have an agent. Somebody might find someone extraordinary for her. Of course, the final decision to hitch is up to her. Good write.

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/7/2021 9:40:00 PM

Lol! Thank you Robert :)

Mystic Rose Rose

Date: 2/6/2021 2:56:00 PM

lol you can come join me I like to sing loud too, karaoke Queen, with red slippers singing ladi da , I love your spirit dear girl. You don't need a partner to feel complete, You need to be complete first and then if it happens, two is good. xo

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/6/2021 3:19:00 PM

Sounds like a great plan to me, Vie... Lol!

Linda Alice Fowler

Date: 2/6/2021 2:28:00 PM

Hi Akkina. I agree with this freedom to be whomever you are, and to explore our beautiful Earth. Hope she finds her true joy. Linda

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/6/2021 3:16:00 PM

Thank you so much, Linda :)

Panagiota Romios

Date: 2/6/2021 11:25:00 AM

Most of us, go through the same hassle! It's hard to be independent and a woman. Follow your heart. Far more exciting than hunting for the perfect man. That's my view,,,lol Pangie xx

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/6/2021 3:15:00 PM

She’s got a strong mind of her own. She will do as her heart desires... Thanks Pangie :)

Rico Leffanta

Date: 2/5/2021 11:04:00 AM

what if she doesn't like men or doesn't want to have children or he prefers men and not children? Always best to let people live their own life! Aloha! Rico

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/5/2021 2:46:00 PM

Lol! She totally likes men but she’s more of enjoying her young life now. Aloha, and mahalo ia ‘oe :)

Jennifer Proxenos

Date: 2/5/2021 9:59:00 AM

Arranging marriages, the Greeks I thought were the best at this and the richer the better. I am only half Greek, but our friends tried this on me too in the past, I said what you did 'This is me and my life' And look who I am married to, the most amazing Greek, rather Cypriot man ever! Hugs and blessings, Jennifer.

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/5/2021 2:40:00 PM

Awe, how amazing for you, Jennifer. I’m happy for you :)

Victor Buhagiar

Date: 2/5/2021 9:39:00 AM

Continue singing Akkina, You have your own free will. ~~

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/5/2021 11:07:00 AM

Thank you, Vic, much appreciate :)

Richard Lamoureux

Date: 2/5/2021 8:04:00 AM

Wise words! Blessings Rick.

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/5/2021 8:13:00 AM

Thank you, Rick :)

Harry Horsman

Date: 2/5/2021 6:41:00 AM

Such a complex subject, Akkina, Its hard to understand for someone like me, given the freedom of choice,, But for yourself it makes for wonderful poetry, the strength and power is all there. Good luck to your friend....

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/5/2021 8:12:00 AM

Thank you, Harry, I’m hoping too that she will live her life as she pleases. :)

Vijay Pandit

Date: 2/5/2021 5:51:00 AM

She should be free to choose her happiness--however she defines it. You are a wonderful friend to her, Akkina. Your poem gives her a voice.

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/5/2021 8:10:00 AM

She was in tears when I gave her this poem. She’s going to do what’s best for her and follow her dreams. Thanks my friend... :)

Janice Canerdy

Date: 2/5/2021 5:26:00 AM

Very descriptive and expressive, Akkina! Janice

Akkina Downing
Date: 2/5/2021 8:08:00 AM

Many thanks, Janice. :)