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Living With a Stranger - Emotive Write

You stare at me with vacant eyes It’s like living with a stranger Tears and tantrums we both despise Where is the man I once loved? Locked inside your own little world Sometimes a piece of music makes you smile But every day I know I’m losing you I’m losing you bit by bit I no longer get greeted with a loving kiss These days you lash out uncontrollably I get battered and bruised by your flying fist But I’ll never give up loving you NOT written from personal experience of living with someone with dementia 08~07~16

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Lilly Pad

Date: 8/21/2016 9:10:00 PM

a very nice write and for a lot of people a reality

Jan Allison
Date: 7/4/2021 11:34:00 AM

thanks lily:-) hugs Jan x

Mike Martin

Date: 8/14/2016 5:46:00 PM

How tragic, Jan. Well presented!

Jan Allison
Date: 7/4/2021 11:35:00 AM

thanks mike:-) hugs Jan x

Joanna Daniel

Date: 8/11/2016 4:34:00 AM

Oh! This is another touching write..I feel sad thinking of this..Very well written though:)

Jan Allison
Date: 8/12/2016 12:41:00 PM

Thanks Jo:-)hugs Jan xx

Lynn Marie

Date: 8/9/2016 5:02:00 PM

A most moving, emotion filled piece written with a grace and honesty that is a testament to your talent. The realism of your words are crisp, sharp conveying feelings that leap off the page. Tough write very skillfully penned. blessings, lynn

Jan Allison
Date: 8/9/2016 5:17:00 PM

Thanks Lynn thankfully this is a fiction write for me but sadly for some it is reality:-( hugs jan xx

Richard Lamoureux

Date: 8/8/2016 8:44:00 AM

Hi Jan, this is very good. Might I make a small suggestion? Last line second stanza consider "I'm losing you bit by bit". You have captured the essence and you don't need "dementia" to get your point across. For me it takes away from the overall effect.

Jan Allison
Date: 8/8/2016 8:58:00 AM

Thanks Richard I will make that amendment:-) hugs Jan xx

Vladislav Raven

Date: 8/8/2016 7:39:00 AM

Hi Jan, another write in which your words make it so real. That is a gift within itself. It is so well written, so real, i felt the anger welling up inside me. My anger is in the fact that this happens to people. To watch a loved one forget who you are, forget who they are is a pain i never wish to bare. An excellent write Jan. This has to be a seven and a fave for its realistc content. Have a wonderful day. Hugs....Mike. XX

Jan Allison
Date: 8/8/2016 8:18:00 AM

Thanks Mike for your insightful comment:-) hugs Jan xx

Tom Quigley

Date: 8/8/2016 6:26:00 AM

Tough write--glad it's fiction...

Jan Allison
Date: 8/8/2016 6:27:00 AM

Thanks Tom I know there are many people who live with dementia or care for someone who does - its a heartbreaking illness:-( hugs Jan xx

Connie Marcum Wong

Date: 8/7/2016 7:34:00 PM

Jan, deeply moving especially if you have someone in your life who suffers from this terrible loss of their memory. My best friend has forgotten me. She calls me Janet sometimes. All I can do is pray for her. To have a mate forget you would be unbearable. 7 ; )

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 7:47:00 PM

Oh Connie that is so sad and it must be so frustrating for her and heartbreaking for you:-(hugs jan xx

Arthur Vaso

Date: 8/7/2016 6:38:00 PM

This is so sad, you have expressed this situation so well! :)

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 6:44:00 PM

Thanks for your comments below - its such a heartbreaking condition my heart goes out to anyone with dementia and those who care for them it is so distressing for all:-( hugs Jan xx

Andrea Dietrich

Date: 8/7/2016 5:47:00 PM

It is a sad one. I guess some of them do get very violent. It makes you wonder. ARe they reverting to their basic personality?? That is pretty sad if they are!

Arthur Vaso
Date: 8/7/2016 6:40:00 PM

Dementia is terrible and often the person can become violent, and this is both men and women, this illness is not who they are, I guess one could say, when your mind starts to go, its who you are not, that is showing. The kindest and most loving people can have these symptoms. :)

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 6:03:00 PM

I don't think they are able to control it Andrea - I saw a programme with a lady whose husband had dementia and he was quite violent towards her it was absolutely heartbreaking to see:-( hugs Jan xx

Mike Hauser

Date: 8/7/2016 5:11:00 PM

Very moving piece!

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 5:20:00 PM

Thanks Mike:-) hugs Jan xx

Tim Smith

Date: 8/7/2016 2:39:00 PM

It is such a dilapidating disease Jan. I watch my Dad suffer through it. It has to be worse for a spouse.

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 2:51:00 PM

I agree Tim the carer must suffer so much seeing the person they know and love change beyond all recognition:-( hugs jan xx

Winged Warrior

Date: 8/7/2016 12:13:00 PM

A very emotional heartfelt write Jan...very believable... we all have a cross to bare...god bless...^WW^

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 2:05:00 PM

Thanks ^WW^ there are many carers out there who continue looking after their partner long after other people would have given up - living with dementia impacts so massively on everyone in the family:-( hugs Jan xx

Anne-Lise Andresen

Date: 8/7/2016 8:37:00 AM

- There are many who struggle with this grief, illness changing the man that we love and everything becomes very painful and difficult - A great writing, Jan - Best wishes and warm hugs // Anne-Lise :)

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 2:07:00 PM

Its such a terrible thing to live with Anne Lise - my heart goes out to anyone in this situation:-( hugs Jan xx

Alexis Y.

Date: 8/7/2016 8:36:00 AM

Hi Jan, You have penned such a touching and heartfelt write about a horrific disease. It may not be your personal story but you expressed your thoughts very well on such a sensitive issue. I could sense the sadness, frustration and unconditional love with in this write. A big seven:-)Alexis

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 2:10:00 PM

Thanks Alexis I know that people who struggle so badly to try and continue looking after their partner, it must be so heartbreaking to live with this awful condition:-( hugs jan xx

Cheryl Hoffman

Date: 8/7/2016 8:25:00 AM

Touching and heartfelt write about a debilitating disease of the mind! (My poor uncle died from this horrible disease!)Hugs-Che

Jan Allison
Date: 8/7/2016 8:29:00 AM

Thanks Cheryl - it is a terrible disease and it must be so difficult to live with someone who is affected - my mum lives in a care home she has memory issues but not full blown dementia but it can be so draining just being with her:-( hugs Jan xx