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It Only Hurts When You Let It

It only hurts when you let it. I used to be the living example of the words to Shania Twain's song: "It only hurts when I breathe." I'm becoming stronger. I need to be. It's called self-preservation...and I need to survive. It only hurts when you let it. Will I be liked by everyone? NO! That thought in itself used to KILL me. The need to please and be liked by everyone would make me unable to say no to things people would ask of me. I didn't want to lose face. I didn't want to disappoint. I didn't want to offend. I'm still like that....but I'm working on it. It only hurt when you let it. What others think of me....doesn't define who I am. It used to. That related to my poetry as well. I'd try to write what's kosher. In particular, my sensual writes were and are a source of torment at times. Judgementalism still stings. It only hurts when you let it. Yes, it only hurts when you let it. I will TRY not to give anyone the satisfaction of bringing me down through their criticism, prejudices, and yes, even through their neglect. If I'm not read or congratulated or applauded, I won't let it get to me because it only hurts when you let it. This is a big step for a sensitive soul. However, I'm taking that step. I'm tired of letting it hurt me, but here's the thing: It only hurts if you let it! :) Eileen M

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Date: 12/4/2014 8:40:00 PM
your pen always flows beautiful eileen in deep truth almost left here a couple of times myself bless you pal
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Date: 12/1/2014 8:12:00 PM
Ah, the fear of disappointing others...one of my own perfectly developed and well practiced aspects! I used to call them flaws, but as they say, beauty is indeed in the eye of the beholder, even if you're beholding your own perfect reflection in the mirror. :) Anyways, you always have a fan in me, Eileen.
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Date: 12/1/2014 2:15:00 AM
A great reflective piece, and so much truth. The same is true on the opposite side of the spectrum - you can choose to be happy, by sheer willpower. It's not always easy, but for sure possible. Elegant as always, Miss Eileen - may your writings never torment, only delight :)
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 12/1/2014 5:47:00 AM
You are a dear, Timothy. I'm so glad to have you as a friend. Oh...I have my highs and lows. Lately...I'm just continually drained. Having some blood tests done, and we will see how that goes. Hopefully I can regain some of strength so I can deal with my depression better and CHOOSE to be happy. :) Thanks for being such a dear. Sending you hugs.
Date: 12/1/2014 2:05:00 AM
Eileen, you a strong lady who just decided to take it to the next level. I'm excited! What a power poem and even more powerful decision. We decide our confidence level. We decide who and what will effect us. I'm just blown away thrilled for you girl!!!
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 12/1/2014 5:48:00 AM
:) Thank you, LM. This is a delightful post. I'm grateful for your encouragement. Hope that it is a decision I can actually follow through on. Take care...
Date: 11/30/2014 11:20:00 PM
Yes sweet sweet Eileen..Its not easy,but let us be happy with those who loves us for who We are and ignore the fools!:.)Hugs
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 12/1/2014 5:49:00 AM
Oh baby, what important words. I'm trying to cut out people from my life who aren't genuine. It isn't easy....Thanks for the sweet comment. Hugs
Date: 11/30/2014 10:21:00 PM
Good write, Eileen, and yes it only hurts when you let it, but of course our emotions get in the way to some of us. blessing dear friend 7
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:30:00 PM
Yes, my dear. In a sense, this is ALL TALK! ;) No...I really am trying to be stronger. My lack or strength has affected my heart and health. I can't go on this way. Thanks ever so much or your lovely visit and kind words. :) Hugs
Date: 11/30/2014 3:31:00 PM
beautifully said, eileen! great advice but not so easy to follow. i wish you success on your path. you'll never get any hurt from me, though...
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:31:00 PM
Don't I know it! No, it isn't easy advice to follow...but follow I must if I hope to survive. I know you would never hurt me. You are a sweetie pie. Hugs to you, my dear.
Date: 11/30/2014 12:56:00 PM
criticisms, prejudices, slanders. neglect all are useless in anybody's life if one sticks to God's path. What we call life is wholly different from the period we live between birth and death. True life is immune to negativism. Buck up.Love XXX rajat
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:32:00 PM
:) A lovely thought, Rajat. I would be lying if I said that I have never criticized...I guess it is human nature. Though, that need not be an excuse. Yes, God's path is free of harm. The Golden Rule remains the best rue. Do unto others, as you would have them do unto you. Thanks, and many blessings.
Date: 11/30/2014 9:45:00 AM
A great ode to yourself and our Canadian Daughter Shanai. My only judgment is I judge you as fabulous!
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:41:00 PM
If you but knew the weight your judgment has in my heart! :) Your good opinion and favor are things I carry with me through the day. Thank you, Richard. Bless you.
Date: 11/30/2014 7:23:00 AM
Just be the best "you" you can be...if others can't see that then it is on them....you rock Eileen.... Hugs Tim
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:41:00 PM
:) Thank you, Tim. You ROCK ROCK ROCK!
Date: 11/30/2014 5:33:00 AM
If one tries to be everything to everyone he is nothing to himself! Better therefore it is for someone to be true to himself first and then he will see who his real friends are! Introspective writing with a broad message! Well done, dear Eileen!
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:42:00 PM
My dear and wise poet. As always, you bring to play philosophical concepts mixed with kindness and you alleviate my mood. Thank you, for being who are! Blessings!
Date: 11/30/2014 4:43:00 AM
Take life in your stride, Eileen. It is YOUR life and whatever others say, it is finally down to you to do what you want with it. What you state above is the correct attitude. It means being positive. You will still get hurt, but hurt grows or diminishes according to how much rein we give it. You have the ability...don't let it go to waste! God bless and hugs // paul
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:44:00 PM
Hurt grows or diminished according to how much rein we give it....True. I'm trying to be strong. :) Your support and kindness add to my strength. Thank you, Paul. Bless you.
Date: 11/30/2014 1:23:00 AM
So happy for you Eilleen my dear friend. Yes, just be yourself and a strong poetess. Don't let anyone or anything define you, make you feel inadequate or less because that's not a fact not who really are. Be yourself and let you pen flow from your heart and write what you like to write about, the rest who cares! A 7 for me! Have a lovely Sunday! Fly and soar! :) love and hugs! xxx D.
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 10:49:00 PM
Fly and Soar...a beautiful dream for me. I feel very earthbound at the moment, but your lovely post is the wind beneath my wings. Thank you, my dear. You are kind and sweet and these don't go unnoticed or unappreciated by me! :) Have a wonderful day/night? Whatever it is....Hugs
Date: 11/30/2014 1:09:00 AM
AMAZING POEM, EILEEN, You are who you are and it takes a mighty soul to admit, and realize, it takes one step at a time. ~SKAT~
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Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/30/2014 1:14:00 AM
WOW! Thank you, Skat. So so honored by your visit and kind words. Thanks ever so much. Blessings.