I Wish We Had Married a Woman Too

My husband often says to me “I wish I’d married a woman”.
I am usually sitting spread legged in a chair, scratching at the time.
Or I am pointedly not picking up a huge mess for two weeks.
I always roll my eyes, knowing what he really means.
He means “I wish we had married a cook, cleaner and maid.”

I am none of those things. Sure, I used to pretend to be.
Since this incarnation God poured my soul into a female body.
Not my idea, believe me! I resented this from childhood.
When Danny H always got by with yelling out the answers.
Without raising his hand, but if I did it, I got lambasted by the teacher.

I knew better than to point this out after the sixth or seventh time.
She was a mean woman, and partial to boy bodies, not girl bodies.
Then menstruation happened, which was more horrifying.
Boys never have to deal with all this blood and inconvenience.
Being a girl was not my goal in this lifetime believe me.

I feel we are neither male nor female, rather spirits who rent.
Some lifetimes we rent female, other times we rent male.
How I got this wrong this time, I do not know but….
I hate cooking, cleaning, vacuuming, dusting, and doing the dishes.
Luckily, my husband knows this. He is doing the laundry now.

He is also buying the groceries and running the dishwasher.
I think it is fair. I am thirty years ahead of him.
I used to do all the housework and the yardwork.
He would work his measly forty hours and rest.
I am resting now. It is my turn since we did not “marry a woman”.
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De Beaulieu Avatar
March 22, 2022 at 4:15 PM
Hello Caren, wow! Wow! Is all i can say. Hugs.
De Beaulieu Avatar
March 23, 2022 at 8:31 AM
Hello Caren, Hugs. Enjoy your day my friend.
Krutsinger Avatar
March 22, 2022 at 6:29 PM
Thank you Darlene
Miller Avatar
March 22, 2022 at 2:12 AM
Excellent poem and so true.
Krutsinger Avatar
March 22, 2022 at 6:30 PM
I agree Terry
Hankins Avatar
March 21, 2022 at 5:37 PM
Hooray and a Yippie-Ki-Yay for you! Whatever works; whatever makes both of you glad you are together. Deb absolutely hated housework and never did it, period. She told me the one requirement to marrying me would be that she would always have a housekeeper. She said she was a teacher. She was busy. Home was her place to rest! I believed her. I still do. You are absolutely right.
Krutsinger Avatar
March 22, 2022 at 6:30 PM
I know that Deb and I had a great deal in common Hank
Baker Avatar
March 21, 2022 at 4:55 PM
I like it. Equal, workout the lame things nobody likes to do. Split it up, that's what Sara and I do. We share life together, best friends and lovers, But most of all equals. Thanks for sharing your thoughts with us, Caren. I personally like the way you think. Bill
Krutsinger Avatar
March 22, 2022 at 6:30 PM
Thank you Bill I appreciate it
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