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Grief is Grief is not

Grief is not something we “get through”…
you “get through” a bad day
Grief is not something we “get over”,
“you ”get over” a cold”
Grief is not something we “move on from”
you “move on from” a bad relationship”
But Grief is… a companion we “move forward with”,
learning from and growing, with each agonizing step.
Grief is… a heart-wrenching process, not bound by time,
But sets us on a “lifelong journey” of finding truth and meaning…
Grief is not a crutch we hold onto for pity
It is not a lack in character
It is not a weakness that needs to be strengthened
Or a problem that needs fixing
It is not an enemy to be slain
Or like a wild animal, to be caged
YES! that needs “time”… “A LIFETIME”
Grief is… an acknowledgement of true love shared
and true love lost
Grief is… a love we hold so deep within our souls
That our tears fall to caress the pain…
“God given tears”, full of purpose and meaning
For each one carries with it a piece of our heart
grief hugs us and holds us close
to a great love we can no longer touch…
grief is… our friend for without it
our lives would have been a lie.

Grief is…purely and simply a journey of love
It is a friend, to those of us who mourn
A friend who sees what we need and allows us to be us
Grief is a release of unimaginable pain…
a release of a great indescribable loss…
Grief is… the bridge that crosses repentant oceans,
spans desolate canyons, and fear filled mountain tops.
that we may cross over this tragedy to a renewed heart 
by means of the love we shared and continue to share
through the love of our Almighty God
Grief is…
A pain we can use, to broaden our hearts
and the hearts of all those around us
it is… a road we must travel to gain wisdom.
A level of wisdom you will never achieve by playing strong.
For only when we sink to the bottomless pit of grief
Will we be awakened by the light of truth.
Do not judge it… for it contains Gods secrets
Secrets you can only hear by listening
through the blare of the pain.
It is a sacred contract to be in awe of and inspired by
To learn from and grow from
To gain compassion and understanding from
It is a journey that holds a sacred contract
That will be signed by each and every one of us
Who has the strength… and the courage…
to love with all your heart and all your soul.
It is not a journey I would wish on anyone
But now that I am here I will walk it with honor
And purpose, with my head held high and my feet in stride
For at the end of this road there you’ll be,
waiting to take me home.

Copyright © | Year Posted 2013

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Date: 10/13/2016 4:28:00 PM
a great writing-mesmerizing-wow-
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Date: 2/8/2014 2:37:00 AM
This poem resonated so deeply with me, it was consoling, freeing, validating and simply mesmerizing. I have added it to my favorites. Thank you so much for sharing this. I deeply empathize.
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Date: 5/6/2013 2:11:00 PM
I am so sorry to hear that it was true what happened to the love of your life. It's very understandable why you write of grief here. Very nicely done.
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Date: 4/22/2013 7:11:00 PM
I came here first to thank you for your comment on my video poem, but this poem caught my eye, and I am moved by it.Recently having had a loss in my family,I know of what you write in this grief is the hardest journey..but one that everyone must take sometime.I recently poured out my heart on this same subject for the tissue box contest..and the words came as a flood of emotion that I hardly knew were there.Your poem really struck a nerve.I hope it isn't a personal journey for you.:)
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Date: 4/16/2013 12:57:00 PM
What insight you have to the feelings of grief. No one could write these words if they had not experienced the overwhelming feelings that grief gives us. I am in awe of your thoughts. Betty
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Date: 4/4/2013 11:41:00 AM
continued~~ Bernard, can I keep this poem. *add it to my favorite poems* Maybe when my daughter is ready I can share this poem with her. Maybe it might make sense to her as it made sense to me. Many lines in your poems, brought tears to my eyes. I never sought of grief in this way. ((Grief is… a heart-wrenching process,)) <--- this is where I'm stuck at. Bernard, May I use your poem and post it on one of my upcoming blogs. I feel your poem, and wish to share it with other soup poets. xox~ Linda
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 4/5/2013 11:46:00 PM
What an honor and priveledge it would be for me that you use this poem in anyway you feel would benefit you and your daughter. And to anyone else from your blog. Thank You Linda and God Bless. I will be soup mailing you
Date: 4/4/2013 11:32:00 AM
Bernard, :-(, maybe I should have not read the poem :-( I can not express my thoughts right now. I'm sorry, your poem moved everything inside me. I know you did not mean to move my tears. But, everything inside me is still very fresh, and grieving is something I haven't stop since I had to watch my grandsons stillborn birth. I do not know the secrets God has over this matter. I tried listening to the strength inside. But, can't find the right journey.
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 4/5/2013 11:51:00 PM
It is so soon and fresh for you Linda, I am sorry the poem brought you to tears. Ido believe it is too soon for you or your daughter to hear these words. It took me several months to be able to write or listen to these words.I hope it does bring you both some peace oneday. Bless you, hugs
Date: 3/28/2013 12:31:00 PM
Oh my Bernard, you have written this the way i am thinking, I am grieving at the moment , why i chose to click on your name i dont know, to read your words were just what i needed. Thank you...Seren
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 3/29/2013 1:00:00 AM
Hi Seren,I am so glad you feel that it has helped you in some small way, that means the world to me. My heart now goes out to the grieving as I know what a painful lonely journey it truly is. My condolences on your loss, Bless You and Hugs
Date: 3/25/2013 7:06:00 AM
P.S. I have added this one to my favorites.
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 3/25/2013 3:59:00 PM
WOW! Truly an honor!
Date: 3/25/2013 7:04:00 AM
I am profoundly moved by your words. This is no ordinary poem, this poem should be read from the rooftops. You have no reason to be shy about sharing your work. You have a strong voice that has weight and you are a man of faith. The world is in desperated need of men of faith. Blessings to you my new friend.
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 3/29/2013 12:54:00 AM
Your welcome rick, Truly my honor
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Richard Lamoureux
Date: 3/25/2013 7:37:00 PM
So far my Lord has blessed me in all the ways that truly matter. Thanks for extending a hand of friendship.
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 3/25/2013 3:57:00 PM
Rick, you have touched my heart with your encouraging words. Bless You my new friend, Bless You!!!
Date: 3/21/2013 3:43:00 PM
Wow! That gave me the chills...I think you need to fully open your heart and experience grief to understand the full beauty of your poem. Grief did not come with a clock....time may move while grief waits for you. Thanks for your comments...xx Holly Moore
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 3/25/2013 4:01:00 PM
Thank You Holly, I know you know... (((Hugs)))
Date: 3/21/2013 9:54:00 AM
Truth words!!!!!!! - I agree with every line. - Very well written Bernard! - oxox / / Anne-Lise :)
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 3/25/2013 4:04:00 PM
Hi Anne-Lise, Thank You very much, hope to see you around
Date: 3/20/2013 2:35:00 PM
Bernard I think you have conveyed this feeling quite eloquently as difficult as it is, well done...David
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Bernard Colasurdo
Date: 3/25/2013 4:03:00 PM
Thanks for supporting me David, always something good to say. Bless You