Gazes

Leong's watching TikTok on her laptop (as always) and she asks Lisa (an NYC girl) “Are you familiar with the the “downtown girl” aesthetic?” Lisa’s dismissive, “Yeah, it just looks like Urban Outfitters grunge to me.” Leong explains, “It includes headphones and it’s supposed to be a Lower Manhattan style.” “Yeah,” Lisa snorts, “Because Greenwich Village and the Lower East Side are SO cohesive.” Lisa considers herself an Uptown girl (like the song) even though 59th Street, where she lives, is the border between Uptown and Midtown Manhattan. I’m learning that these distinctions are culturally key to New Yorkers. “And,” Lisa adds, “why would someone wear, and lug around, giant, clunky headphones when you can use AirPods??” “Amen sister.” I proclaim and even Leong nods in agreement. “Later, Sunny, Leong and I are on a study break, eating salads and talking about who we hope Yale invites to the next “Spring Fling” concert. We aren’t being realistic; we’re covering who we wish would come. I’d named Charlie Puth, “Kat-Tun!” Leong squealed (A Japanese boy band - apparently Chinese girls LOVE their boybands) and Sunny countered with Ed Sheeran. “I don’t like Ed Sheeran,” I mumbled, making a yuck-face. “Why no Ed?” Sunny asks, with a shocked gasp (She’s a big Ed fangirl). “I don’t know,” I shrugged, “he’s a star by all measurable metrics,” I admit, “but,” I fade out. “You want my theory on Ed hate?” Sunny offered, “He’s beyond talented vocally - whoever your favorite artist is, Ed’s probably not that far behind. He’s a stellar song writer and he’s making hit after hit; do you want my theory?” “Too basic, too popular?” I guess. “No, he’s not appealing to the gaze,” Sunny states. “The gays?” Leong questions, stepping back into the conversation. “No,” Sunny corrects, “the gaze - G-A-Z-E, he doesn’t try to look pretty all the time.” “Ha!” I snort, “Gaze, I thought you meant gays too,” as Leong and I chuckle together. “No,” Sunny laughs, “nothing like THAT. Ed’s just not trying to be a heartthrob, he knows that’s not his core strong point - and that’s why he’s discounted.” “Like lesbians don’t comb their hair or wear makeup and wear pajamas to class” Leong observes, “they don’t want to attract the male gaze?” “No, we’re not imbued by the male gaze.” Sunny states, “Ed just wants to lowkey.” . . Marriam Webster: Imbued: “influenced naturally”.