Rhymes For Shared Times

RHYMES FOR SHARED TIMES Maintain shared possessions - clean, tidy and in working CONDITION Share responsibilities, or allocate them in a fair and balanced PARTITION Keep your promises and earn TRUST Be as truthful as possible and do not tell lies, at least avoid those that are harmful or destructive, IF YOU MUST Try to do your BEST Recognize that the other may also be trying , even if theirs is not as good in vying with yours, nor ALL THE REST When the other one fails, you do not have to ignore it; but temper your rebuke or REPROVAL - According to the gravity of the fault and the intentions of the wrongdoer, IF YOU WISH FOR ITS REMOVAL Treat each other with respect. Do not use persistently abusive WORDING. And do not shout and swear for a long, nor use or threaten to use force more suited to CATTLE HERDING Respect the other's beliefs. With both willing, it may be alright to discuss the rights and wrongs of their SELECTION But it is tricky, and deep seated beliefs may not be a matter for DISSECTION Recognise the right to an opinion. An opinion is just that, and mostly it isn't absolutely right nor UNTRUE “This music is awful” or “is awesome " Neither one of these assertions make sense unless you add: "To me" or "TO YOU” Nevertheless statements of fact may be of valid or invalid HUE In disagreement, stay with the subject; do not bring in old, unrelated failures and matters of DISPUTE - where the only connection is that it is something else that you consider the other party did, that you choose again to REFUTE Argue, don't FIGHT If you wish to bring LIGHT Discuss the subject; don't attack the PERSON. Use facts and reason or the relationship may WORSEN Aim at truth, not winning the debate; unless that is the agreed purpose to exercise the LEFT BRAIN If a valid point is made, acknowledge it; don't immediately change the subject then come back later to the same point ALL OVER AGAIN Don't be afraid to be wrong on one point, thus NOT THE WINNER It doesn't mean that you are wrong about the main argument, nor about everything, nor are you an IRREDEEMABLE SINNER Acknowledge and apologize for the above or failures THEREON When an apology is made, accept it, don’t relish the blame but MOVE ON Penitence may be considered insincere by one party; but one can never know exactly what is in the mind of the SPEAKER This may be resolved by having the contrition repeated without obvious flippancy or shrugs; then considering it honest by a TRUTH SEAKER Still the penitent should allow time for recovery of your UPSET FRIEND Don't expect it all to be immediately fine just because you have said 'sorry'; and you may need to make AMEND. All faults are not equally serious; bear this in mind when judging remorse or INFRACTION Accept that it may take time to get over an upset, and show understanding and compassion. The heat of the moment and the degree of upset should allow some emotional REACTION Do not tell the other party what he/she is THINKING Only he/she really knows, and they may not be entirely sure, but nobody else has more than an INKLING When one partner confesses a fault, failure, misdemeanor or crime, and with regret they TESTIFY Realize that this confession may take candor and courage QUITE HIGH Do not use the information given to punish a 'sinner' who eats HUMBLE PIE Few would confess to a crime if they thought the confession would lead to their being shot; in fact most would LIE Avoid and suspect words like 'always, never', or 'everybody'. They are seldom VALID. Lest you find yourself in an intellectual desert ARID The world is not black and white, nor is human nature; both have colours and tones of difference. Changing from black to white goes through shades of grey, no matter the GRIME Improvement is made little by little. Perfection is desirable and to be aimed at; it may one day be achieved; it may take TIME