love can hurt

Hi Duke, most of my poems regarding my dear wife are on Familyfriendpoems, I'm also a moderator on there.

John, your wife was probably a wonderful companion, and my heart hurts for that loss. It's certainly painful, but you can tell me some of the things she did and what she was like...and I would listen and appreciate. If you have any specific poems about her, also please point me to those. I definitely am a quiet Beatles fan. I still play some of the songs I consider favorites during the day and sometimes before I go to sleep. BTW, sounds like you live in a nice area! FYI I am in my 70's. Hope you are well!!

Arlo, yes it can be a bloody game if we go swimming. Hard to know what's in store sometimes, but we risk it for the possibility of something special...or maybe just to satisfy our animal desires if we are like the sharks. I prefer kindness at every depth. Smiles!!!

Great point Jennifer. We want to avoid feeling badly about what was in the past and use anything learned back then to have a better present and future. Your comment is on target and makes me smile!

Andrea, glad you are OK. Your poetry is really convincing so I was wondering...just glad you are OK! Smiling!

Thanks Karen. We sometimes get carried away in matters of the heart. Especially when young. It leaves some pretty significant recurring memories.

Thanks Mike, I think it's something that happens to sensitive people with a certain personality type. Not really a bad thing. Just part of life as an advanced ape. Hope you are well, sir!!

So glad to hear dear Duke. I too say partner! 15 years.

Anaya, I also see politics everywhere. My mind can't escape it so I know what you mean. Since we deal with emotion and quirks of fancy in poetry, we can't help notice that certain candidates have weird mental disorders and need to be institutionalized. The guitar line in the video has some subtleties other than the uh oh, but it takes a careful ear to listen to what they did. I find it unusual. You are very kind and I am one of the luckiest people on this planet since I do have a great partner--almost 47 years now. It's really nice. We may have disagreements, but discuss them and compromise or adjust--like normal people (KH or TW) would do with their partners.

Andrea, you are kind. I am enjoying reading your work. You have (as I may have said) wonderful style and the ability to look at the duality of life. Hope you are well and not too stressed!!

Hello duke, Oh, thank you for telling me about memories of the paat that are annoying at times. This is good advice for everyone Duke. My friend. enjoy your weekend. My friend. /Darlene/

Thanks Darlene, I am well. The memories of the past might be annoying at times, but there is a way to brush them aside when they interfere with the present. It takes a lot of mental processing to try to reorganize one's outlook! Smiling and sending smiles your way!

Kim, yes a very wise idea. We need to know what we are getting into for sure. There are certainly many novels, short stories, poems, and films about relationship troubles!

Nette, you are very kind to say that. Yes, life does not give us everything we want. I think how we respond to disappointment reveals a lot about our character. I'm thinking there are some people who have not learned this lesson, and that's too bad for them really. You're making me smile.

Daniel, you are so very kind and thoughtful. I am glad your daughters escaped the awful bite. I picked a shark as an example since it acts without thought and just through instinct. We hope to be better than that!!! I acted like a shark when I was young...with a well meaning heart, and I didn't see I was setting myself up for serious trouble. Our minds and thinking patterns may not suit us well for situations we encounter, but they give us an opportunity to learn how to be normal and civil going forward.

Aysha, if we can smile we're way ahead of a lot of people from an emotional standpoint. We are really so very lucky to have the ability to analyze and reason the way we do, but looking back, I think I did some pretty crazy things. That's all part of gaining experience and becoming the person we are now. Your smile is making me smile.

Thanks Tom. A complement from you means a lot to me. Yes, help is the best thing we can give sometimes. It can make a huge difference to someone who needs it. It's a sign of the love in our hearts. Take great care sir! Smiling and appreciate your widsom very much.

Thanks SO, I just read your, “I need your love” poem, which is wonderful. I always worry about the balance between reasonable need and too much need. Love is such an interesting topic. You have so many great insights. You’re making me smile internally. Really thanks!!! My goodness. I would find the dating scene fascinating today, but I am committed to wife fortunately. She’s super!!!

Thanks Sara, things wonderful can also have an unpleasant side. I think it depends on how we use what we have. You’re making me smile!

IE, you are very insightful. You make me smile. Love and attraction are wonderful when it’s a mutual construction. However, there are some dangers when one-sided, and for those who lust and pine, it could do strange things to our brain. I was never diagnosed with OCD, but I believe I have it. So this comes from my own unwelcome feelings and experiences. It’s all a strange thing that happens…in my own case, the person became a TV personality and that just adds to the intrusion. It seems crazy to me. Lol!!!