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"Two people can stand under the same sun and
cast different futures
for every generation rewrites desire
ours just added more exits."

- Poet

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Field Guide to the Summer-Mediated Mating Call

we learned to live on breadcrumbing
to orbit without return

haunting for love

a kittenfisher smiled
through borrowed summers

a catfisher built an entire moon

we endured benching
cushioning
roster dating—

hearts lined as spare chairs
after the guests had gone

I practiced love bombing
you future faking

the skilled preferred negging

one small faultline opening under load
and a place to live inside it

we drifted through situationships
through talking stages

through the annual migration
of ghosting, zombieing and hoovering

a hard launch
a soft launch

then pocketing

banksying taught us
how to leave without leaving

ghostlighting taught us
how to return without arriving

meanwhile the wildflowerers
flowered

the slow daters
kept their own time

every exclusive
promise
stalled at a DTR
 
frozen at the lip
of the relationship escalator
 
watching the steel teeth
flatten and disappear

red flags
snapped in the wind
 
green flags
semaphored
 
beige flags overgrown
in the yard

one night the throngers
argued hot takes beneath the stars

I felt the ick

you went delulu

someone else shrekking at last
laughed with their whole strange face

and for a moment

nobody was performing

just two people
standing outside the slang

while every
label we had worn
blew past—
 
confetti and bleached receipts
a failure to launch
breaking open in beach grass
Copyright © | Year Posted 2026

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Empress Avatar
June 16, 2026 at 8:01 AM
Iv seen alot of this modern dating culture, the negging, the love bombing, the fear of real intimacy, the avoidance, the ick the delulus! Hah! Youv used so many modern day dating culture slangs in such an impressive way! I hate the most the breadcrumbs, and ghosting, but I understand why some do what they do, and your poem here touched so many elements in such an exquisite manner dear Daniel! You are impressive and so very versatile in how you express and touch various subjects! A fav this is! Pleasure not missing this one and reading this! Sending you light always
Rodgers Avatar
June 18, 2026 at 5:20 AM
Dear Empress, your note made me smile, you always read with both intuition and fire. This whole modern dating vocabulary is wild, isn’t it? Half comedy, half anthropology, and somehow still shaping how people move through longing. I love how you caught the emotional undercurrent beneath all the slang, the breadcrumbing, the ghosting, the ick, the delulu, all those little rituals that say so much about fear, desire, and the strange ways we try to connect. Thank you for seeing the craft inside the chaos. Your presence here is always a gift. Blessings Daniel
Bayles Avatar
June 14, 2026 at 7:04 AM
Such a wild virtual journey in the world of virtual dating. It is virtual, but you make the scenes around the beach seem so real. And what is real in the world of virtual dating?
Rodgers Avatar
June 16, 2026 at 7:15 AM
Hello Mike, thank you for stopping by and for your thoughtful read. It is a strange world, this virtual landscape where everything feels both real and unreal at the same time. I’m glad the beach imagery grounded it a bit, that was the hope, to let something elemental hold all that digital drift. I appreciate your words. Blessings, Daniel
Winter Avatar
June 13, 2026 at 8:06 PM
Dearest Daniel, I love the new writing style of your poem. The new vocab made me smile. Dating apps and catfishing go hand in hand. To be honest, I really don't like the concept of dating apps even though I've never used them. I enjoyed reading your poem. Best, Anne
Rodgers Avatar
June 16, 2026 at 7:17 AM
Dearest Anne, your note made me smile. You always read with such openness. The vocabulary of dating apps is wild, isn’t it? Half-serious, half-satire, and somehow still shaping how people meet. I’m with you, the whole idea feels a little foreign to me too, but it’s fascinating to watch from the outside. Thank you for being here. Best always, Blessings, Daniel
Parker Avatar
June 12, 2026 at 7:22 AM
interesting poem as if you were watching a play from a distance yet engaged in the scene as a participant, like yoyos tossed away on a string to be wound back...my first thoughts Daniel after reading
Rodgers Avatar
June 16, 2026 at 7:17 AM
Hello Frederic, I love how you described it: watching a play from a distance yet still caught up in its motion. That’s exactly the tension I was trying to hold. These modern rituals of connection feel like yo-yos, as you said, tossed out and reeled back in. Thank you for reading with such a perceptive eye. Blessings, Daniel
Wolf Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 7:37 PM
Hmm. I am not going to label this one 'Vintage Daniel Henry Rogers,' but enjoyed it anyway. Thanks, gw
Rodgers Avatar
June 12, 2026 at 5:50 AM
Hello Gershon, It is funny that several weeks ago, I was reading an article about Dating Apps, and the fact that they have their own lingo seemed worthy of writing a poem with a philosophical bent. I suppose we can call this more of a catalog poem. Thank you for reading and commenting. Blessings, Daniel
Anaya Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 3:32 PM
Never say never, a dating app may come in handy someday, so I will enjoy this edgy, pyscological character study, & new dating lingo, as I stopped at undateable & catfished. It's kinda cool to live by dating protocols, & not meant for all, it can hurt deeply those unprepared. Such great sets of metaphors, Daniel, I shall try to interpret. Always a good read. T.C
Rodgers Avatar
June 12, 2026 at 5:58 AM
Dear Anaya, yes, never say never. I am old enough now that every generation has its own lingo, and it seems interesting how we take words and give them new meaning. I remember my era terms such as five-finger discounts, bean wagon, peggers, grody, boob tube, peace out, etc. I guess we are always trying to separate ourselves from the prior generation. Thank you for your comments! Blessings, Daniel
Dietrich Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 3:15 PM
Ohh love that beach grass at the end. I did not quite understand every single slang term in your poem but I caught your drift. I am just glad I married half a century ago and don't have to navigate all the ridiculousness of today's world
Rodgers Avatar
June 12, 2026 at 6:01 AM
Dear Andrea, thank you, my friend. It is funny how each generation has to find ways of distancing itself from prior generations. Even more so, each area of interest now has to be separate from other areas. I guess that is what makes them cool and groovy. Peace Out, Blessings, Daniel
Kendrick Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 1:44 PM
Interesting lines penned, but I don't think I understood any of it. LOL..A little dense, I guess. Thank you for sharing your work with us. Way to go. Sara K.
Rodgers Avatar
June 12, 2026 at 6:04 AM
Dear Sara, Several weeks ago, I was reading an article online about Dating Apps and how users have developed their own lingo. It seemed funny to me until I thought about how our generation created its own lingo and slang. I am a product of the '60s and '70s, and we certainly created all kinds of meaning. Blessings, My Friend, Daniel
Lane Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 12:20 PM
Daniel, not to make light of the revealing truths you've written about dating apps but the beach grass being littered with their mementos is a great metaphor for the collection of things SHE usually has that mean nothing and are trashed. Computer dating and AI have invented the need for a new dictionary of terms. I'm thinking I won't be needing one.
Lane Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 12:41 PM
lol Daniel, I'm not sure if I should take credit for how my mind works or not. It's not always headed in the right direction.
Rodgers Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 12:30 PM
Dear Lin, you always catch the human truth tucked under the metaphor. I smiled at how you saw the beach grass as the place where all those little tokens end up, the ones that meant everything to one person and nothing to the other. You’re right about the new dictionary, too; the whole landscape has changed, and not always for the better. As I said to Tom when we were young and dating, there was no such thing as an app, although we did have our lingo of the day. I love how your mind moves through a poem. Blessings, Daniel
Cunningham Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 9:51 AM
A thought provoking verse Daniel, my wife and I have different views and interests but we always manage to compromise, 40 odd years later we're still together, still compromising. Tom
Rodgers Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 10:25 AM
Hello Tom, I am glad you and your wife have had as many years as my wife and I, and we will be celebrating our 44th anniversary on June 26th. I wrote this poem around those who use dating apps searching for the right person, or in today's world persons. There is a whole lingo that goes with online dating sites. When you and I dated our wives, nothing like that existed; we just were in the right place at the right time. Although it is funny, we had our own lingo, which is humorous. Blessings, Daniel
Goldsmith Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 9:17 AM
What a wonderful write/beach picture/quote. It all comes down to "just two people." Great line.... Have a fun day writing away..........
Rodgers Avatar
June 11, 2026 at 10:27 AM
Dear Paula, I hope you are well and having a great kick off to your summer. Thank you for your notes; they fill my heart. Blessings, Daniel
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