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"I'm sorry", Two words that mean so very much.

Especially when your words or actions have hurt someone who loves you very much.Sometimes people see or hear things that they misunderstand and then they retell what they THINK they sawor heard. When this happens people often get accused of things they never really said or did.And often nothing they can say or do in their own defense is believed. This often causes a rift that cannot be repaired.

When we say or do things in the heat of the moment we often make mistakes that deeply hurt others and it's necessary to apologize if we ever want that person to feel the same about us again.When we refuse because we know our intentions were good, that just doesn't cut it because all it does is cause the pain to go deeper.

Why?

Because we show that person that we really don't care if their feelings were hurt because we said or did what needed to be said or done. Right or Wrong. The we think we can go along and act like nothing has happened and in time they will get over it. If they don't we accuse them of holding a grudge.

Well they aren't so much holding a grudge as realising that they mean little or nothing to you. That knowledge changes things a lot. A Word To The Wise:

If you love someone, ACT LIKE IT.

Their feelings should be just as important as yours are.

Only those you love can really hurt you;
For those you do not love can't reach your heart,
So when they say or do things that can cut you,
The pain can pierce your heart just like a dart.

Things like this aren't easily forgotten.
When remembered wounds seem fresh again,
Apologies sincere are like a bandage,
That helps to heal the wound, assuage the pain.

When we attack someone in heat of anger,
And say things that we really shouldn't say,
"I'm sorry", is the order of the day then,
So hard feelings that will staycan be allayed.

Even if you think that you've done nothing,
That you should feel ashamed or sorry for,
If in your righteousness you find you've hurt them,
A simple word can halt a closing door.

Why sit back and say,"Let them get o'er it.'
'I will not crawl to them on bended knee."
If you've hurt someone who loves you, you should forfeit,
The pride that keeps your stubborn cruelty.

Copyright © | Year Posted 2017




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Date: 12/11/2017 7:30:00 PM
The last line of this poem is brilliant!! Absolutely brilliant!! Great wisdom!! Great Eloquence!! Bravo!!
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Date: 10/5/2017 7:37:00 AM
Thanks for the good advice.Once again excellent poetry,
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Date: 9/21/2017 1:28:00 AM
Ouch Judy ouch. I did it in the heat of the moment and did apologise but they wont forgive or forget. My poem These lips ,is about that. You brought clarity to my situation and also some comfort. Thank you
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Date: 9/20/2017 3:56:00 PM
Well said Judy.. life is too short too hold grudges...
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Date: 9/2/2017 9:25:00 PM
An excellently expressed poem Judy. Your message, which is so important, is presented to the reader gift-wrapped in your lovely poetic words of wisdom. An amazing write. Thank you for sharing! :)
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Judy Ball
Date: 9/11/2017 5:51:00 AM
Thank you so much Susan. Glad you like it. God Bless, JB
Date: 8/30/2017 7:18:00 PM
Such a powerful write Judy and so true...if apologies are not said the wound grows and the heart grows cold...a fave
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Judy Ball
Date: 9/11/2017 5:42:00 AM
Thanks so much Joseph. Glad you agree with me. God Bless, JB
Date: 8/29/2017 5:12:00 PM
WEll said, Judy. My problem is honestly I do not know if I Have offended someone because sometimes what I like people to say or do is different from what THEY like. I have noticed this with people who have personalities very different from mine. Later down the road, I will discover they did not like something I had said! Anyway, with family at least, we KNOW what they do or do not like.
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Judy Ball
Date: 9/8/2017 7:04:00 PM
Thanks so much Andrea. I know exactly what you mean. I have had the same experience. God Bless, JB