A Stubborn Man

He’s 85 and he says he isn’t going to die.
Stooped over very badly, maybe two feet shorter now
than he used to be in his prime
and walking very slowly with his cane,
he insists on opening his own doors,
saying this while breathing heavily.
He refuses elderly care and drives a car.
He tells us he is never going to die.

Two surgeries since Christmas (nearly dying on the table);
two visits to ER this week alone;
with blood pressure so low it’s fightening,
oxygen the lowest of the low,
a pancreas with blockage, unhealthy lungs
and a heart that seems to scorn
the pacemaker recently therein inserted,
he tells us he isn’t going to die.

He says he wants to get around
to working on his beloved stained glass projects,
but they stay in his garage,
for he’s sleeping more and more.
He says he wants to write his autobiography, for
his life was fascinating; he invented things,
started up a business and had his dream house built.
Always he said he would not die.

Tonight he’s in ER having a cat scan.
He fell against his bathtub very dizzy, then threw up 
and finally decided to call the paramedics.
Doctors can’t seem to help him further.
All that they can do for him they’ve done already.
He told us lately he’s been having dreams 
about the wife he lost a year ago.
I bet he’ll say tomorrow that he’s never going to die.


(Written March 3, 2019 about a man well known by my husband and me. This year he is 86 years old and working on his stained glass projects)!
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Watt Avatar
August 25, 2020 at 2:04 PM
I know you don't put a lot of stock in POTD, but this was a powerful and deserving write. Any time someone reads something that both increases their compassion and causes them to consider their own mortality; that is the power of poetry. Awesome. Belated congrats ~ John
Dietrich Avatar
August 25, 2020 at 2:19 PM
thanks so much, and a year and a half later he lives on; meanwhile, his life insurance company to which he has been paying money for years so his disabled daughter will have an inheritance when he dies is going to be cut off. I did not know they could legally do that, but that is what he tells us. They basically told him "die by February"
Knowlton Avatar
March 2, 2020 at 3:09 PM
Just reading this now Andrea…So good i`d like to write a senryu with your permission.
Romios Avatar
March 30, 2019 at 11:38 PM
Congrats on your POTD. I like people like him! We younger ones may feel uncomfortable around such a being. Not me! I admire people who give the finger to death. Anyone one us could get a concussion and die. My mother had enough inner soul to not fold early. She lived to be 88! Panagiota Many die way younger
De Beaulieu Avatar
March 29, 2019 at 8:19 PM
Hello Andrea,everyone time comes sooner or later. his will to, ready or not. have a nice evening my friend.
Dillard Avatar
March 28, 2019 at 9:05 PM
Andrea, This poem could fit in with my Final Days series. I enjoyed reading it and remembering those struggles at my father’s demise. You have such a talent. RAY
Mcferran Avatar
March 8, 2019 at 7:26 PM
This is so touching... a perfect character study of a tenacious man clinging to life! Excellent write!!
Gauthier Avatar
March 8, 2019 at 2:20 PM
Back for another read. No wonder I FAVE'd this the first time, Andrea.
Kitchin Avatar
March 5, 2019 at 4:38 AM
A well penned poem, congratulations on POTD!
Roper Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 11:48 PM
Wonderful write and congratulations on POTD and luck in the contest.
Marcum Wong Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 9:38 PM
Back to congratulate you on POTD Andrea. This piece is so well written and deserving of the honor! : ) xxoo
Nicole Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 9:14 PM
The fact that he is so determined, so positive- being in a frail condition. Says everything about his character. Amazing beyond words. My eyes are misty. Congratulations Andrea, on Poem of the Day. ~ Brandy
Godwin Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 8:17 PM
I freaked for a mere sec - concerned this was about your Father! Realized it wasn't him, but not surprised it is fact based; the details were so varied. The reiteration lit the drama burner underneath his denial beautifully. I just had a thought though - his denial is a bit diff, but still I often wish that like my cats, we didn't know about dying until its time tweaked some instinctive behaviors! Very well done. Love, CayCay
Y. Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 6:43 PM
Hi Andrea, What a well written poem on the contest theme.I see a man that has a zest for life. This was a very engaging and captivating story. I wish you the best of luck in the contest.Congratulations on getting the poem of the day- Alexis
Krutsinger Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 5:47 PM
Congratulations on POTD my friend! I loved this one and I still do. It is wonderful!
Pigeon Tart Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 1:46 PM
Captivating, both the poem and the character. Fantastic write Andrea, congratulations on POTD! (& good luck in the contest :) xomo
Proxenos Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 12:02 PM
Andrea my friend what an honor to be bestowed with POTD. A wonderful poem Andrea and a very strong willed old man - reminds me of my father in law who lived alone in a flat (the block of flats belonged to him so he always had neighbors popping in) - he died at the age of 93 - his last two years he spent with us. Love and poetry hugs Andrea, Jennifer.
Andresen Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 11:17 AM
- Congratulations on your great p.o.t.d., Andrea :) - hugs // Anne-Lise :)
Cunningham Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 10:40 AM
Congrats on POTD Andrea. Tom.
Wanter Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 9:46 AM
One must keep going in order to keep going. I remember the line "If I knew I would die tomorrow, I would plant a tree today." He knows what he is doing, I'll bet. Congratulations!
May Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 7:26 AM
He has kept the grim reaper at bay with sheer willpower...Congrats on POTD Andrea..
Pandit Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 7:01 AM
Back with congrats on poem of the day, Andrea.
Smith Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 6:48 AM
Congratulations on your POTD honor, well done...
Warrior Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 6:20 AM
Congrats!!! on POTD dear Friend...my 84 yr old dad is very similar...love & light...^WW^...{*J*}
Fairchild Avatar
March 4, 2019 at 3:20 AM
Some people just give you that feeling, that they will never give up, never-never-never-never-never! Even when you know they are on their way out, they will never believe it! What a vivid picture you painted! Wonderful!
Krutsinger Avatar
March 3, 2019 at 9:50 PM
A wonderful character sketch of a real character, Andrea. Good luck in the contest. He seems real to me!
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