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Second Guessing In To Out
Second Guessing In To Out
Sometimes, I wish… my ears to brain to mouth worked as close to normal as possible. These are the times when I second guess the communication process. Life and communication would be much easier.
I often second guess the whole process of information coming in and what I say going out. This is more prevalent when I'm stressed, in pain, or exhausted.
First, I need to determine if the words (transcript) I hear are correct.
Second, determine if I understand the actual intent of the words… Did their non-verbals match their words? Is my interpretation and summarization accurate? Did I really understand the person, and their intended message? Am I successful and they felt “heard”?
Now, based on numbers 1 and 2…what do I think? Sorting through my thoughts and feelings first. Figuring out how to “say what I mean, mean what I say, and not say it mean?”
Finally, do the words I speak match what I'm thinking?
A great deal of energy is required within seconds to process.
It gets complicated when I feel peppered with information, I don't have enough time to sort it all out. At some point, I'm unaware that I retreated behind an opaque boundary. Words are muffled and I can't clearly see the non-verbal cues to see if they match. Usually within minutes I'm back. However, I'm trying to catch up with the full conversation.
Fortunately, this happens less often.
Sherry Barton
February 23, 2025
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