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Who Is This Woman I Love

She was beauty, softness and she was grace.
She was loves maintained, ever giving face.
She was forgiveness in gesture soothing pace.
She trimmed my self-worth with maternal lace.
She was my one dependable home place.
Forever, I will gratefully bear her trace.

Since her late fifties, she has shown much change.
No longer is joy or logic found in her campaign.
She clutches bitterness to allow its reign,
as though bitter be her only lifetime gain.
She seems to fist, produce and seed blame.
She taints the past with cruel words that stain.

How I miss and desire the woman I knew!
She guided me as I grew and after, too.
I long for the laughter that would ensue
whenever we gathered alone, just we two.
I cry for the woman I always turned to
whenever I was joyous, confused or blue.

She is my beloved Mother, and she is not.
My best attempts fail as her remedy sought.
I break in dark pieces seeing her so caught
in the bitter web of resentment’s sick plot.
I know not if karma fated her this distraught
or what spirit truth might loosen her knots.
Copyright © | Year Posted 2016

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Ashley Avatar
September 28, 2025 at 11:12 AM
Dear CayCay, I was immersed in the heartache of your poignant portrayal of your mother and your emotions regarding how you "miss and desire the woman I knew!" So very sad. Such a soulful, intimate piece, composed from a raw place, yet refined by your emotive poetic finesse. Congratulations for your success in Mark's contest. Warmest wishes, my poet friend.. ~Susan
Radice Avatar
September 25, 2025 at 4:53 AM
So well written but so very poignant Cay Cay. Having worked in mental health I often saw cognitive decline in people and experienced upset first hand in those who were nearest carers to them - pining for a loss in someone who is still living. I often wondered (still do) who cares for the carers? Your poem remains real and raw; a catharsis of sorts. Congratulations re Mark's contest. Cheers - Gary
George Avatar
September 21, 2025 at 9:34 PM
This change in a mother is hard to accommodate and is soul hitting. Words coming from the heart. Is your mother still alive? Hope she is back to her former self. Congratulations Cay Cay on your win.
Godwin Avatar
September 21, 2025 at 10:27 PM
I appreciate the congratulations, but I'd give up all poem attention to have successfully 'brought her back.' Yes, she is alive but now 88 so it's over, no reason for me to try any longer to resuscitate her. Currently, she's a gentle rather than bitter presence, still knows her children but her face is stuck in a scowl rather than the wrinkles of someone who lived a faith filled life. Thank you, Valsa. Poetry hugs ... CayCay
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September 21, 2025 at 9:02 PM
You dug this out of your heart. Beautiful. Congrats.
Godwin Avatar
September 21, 2025 at 10:15 PM
Yes, from my heart, brain, prayers .... very much a therapy spilling type of write. Thank you, Maclawrence. Poetry hugs ... CayCay
Toney Avatar
September 21, 2025 at 2:53 PM
CayCay, this exceptional poem pulled at the heartstrings. Congratulations on your top 10 win on Mile 17 of my 2025 Poetry Marathon Contest. Keep your running shoes on, because Mile 18 has already started.
Godwin Avatar
September 21, 2025 at 7:01 PM
Because the poem is true, it pulls my heartstrings every time I read it, too. Thank you, Mark. Poetry hugs ... CayCay
Dietrich Avatar
September 21, 2025 at 11:50 AM
Way to go, Caycay. I thought this one could win. Now I need your help again!!
Godwin Avatar
September 21, 2025 at 7:02 PM
I'm here, about to do just that. Thanks, Sweetie! Poetry hugs ... CayCay
Dietrich Avatar
September 16, 2025 at 8:53 PM
A great description of the relationship between you and your mother. I see that Connie favved this one. I really love the picture. You look divine. It is so sad that she changed but didn't you tell me things improved , since you wrote this poem? I am going to soupmail now to tell you s few things
Breedt Avatar
December 12, 2016 at 5:14 AM
Oh what joy to read those lines in clear honesty. I marvel at your words. You take after her. The eyes are the same. Yours softer.
Marcum Wong Avatar
December 10, 2016 at 11:14 AM
You both look lovely in this picture CayCay. This is an intimate look into the complex relationship of mother and daughter, written with so much empathy and compassion and love. It reveals l s much about the lovely person you are. 7 ; ) a fave
Wolf Avatar
December 3, 2016 at 12:09 AM
Always remember them as they were in their great days! Well, that's what I do. A very heartfelt poem! When the mind and body wander over to the abyss it can be overpowering to return! Not saying that your mom has. I can't explain my thoughts right now! Haven't got enough characters on this to do so! A very touching poem, CayCay!
Dietrich Avatar
December 1, 2016 at 12:13 PM
Dear Caycay, this is so heart wrenching. I really feel your pain in this one. I think old age really does a number on some of us and it's so sad that it has to be that way. Only in my 60's now and I can almost understand what must have happened with her, because one can feel so hopeless and out of control when pain comes to them. I know you live with pain too and i pray for both of us and your mom and many others, that we an learn to survive it with grace. BIG SEven!
Gupta Avatar
December 1, 2016 at 8:49 AM
So heartfelt and compelling ... We all can relate with a heavy heart ...
Trifiatis Avatar
December 1, 2016 at 8:07 AM
A touching and glorious tribute to God's masterpiece: Mother, dear CayCay ! You enter the very soul of the reader with your masterful writing! A seven for certain! Adored it!
Onclaud Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 3:17 PM
i am speechless ohh cay... this hearfelt poem reminds me of my mom as well.. a compelling write, so preciously embedded in my being... blessings and huggs
Godwin Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 5:07 PM
I imagine watching a parent or parents age is a universal challenge. I often wish for expert advice, but can't imagine there's any where to turn that doesn't cost or guarantee true aid. Thank you for sharing about your Mom and for your comment in its entirety. Hugging you ... CayCay
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November 30, 2016 at 2:44 PM
Hi CayCay, I don't know where to begin.It was hard to this one, it pulled at the heartstrings. You penned such a sad and heartfelt piece. I agree with Chris , the woman that you once knew is still some where inside. You are a great daughter and it's evident that you love your mother so. I will be praying along with you CayCay-Alexis
Godwin Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 4:54 PM
Hi, Sweetie - You and Chris are right, glimpses, flashes and sometimes even hours bring the Mother who raised me back to me. Sometimes we even giggle until we ink, just like we used to. The winter season of life should be grace blessed and the sun should not stop shining. It is difficult. Thanks for your presence and comments ... CayCay
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November 30, 2016 at 2:34 PM
Oh dear one....what a touching poem. I hope that glimpses of who she was still shine through. I know this pain...but of a different kind. MS clouded my mother's mind...but her smile was still bright. It was hard to communicate. I know this pain. I send you hugs. Dear...you are beautiful...simply beautiful. Your mama looks sweet as well.
Godwin Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 4:51 PM
Obviously, when one's parents live long enough, adult children share the pain that you and I know. It just should not be sad, Eileen, I love elderly people whose faces bears smile lines and gentle wisdom. Maybe that is just Hallmark movies. I am sorry for the pain of your Mother's journey, but know all is as it should be, despite appearances and human pain. Thank you for the beautiful word! Poetry hugs ... CayCay
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November 30, 2016 at 2:18 PM
The poem in itself is beautiful, sad and it pulls at the strings of my heart, CayCay. It is hard to understand how a person's mind and heart work, especially in advanced age; deep down there must be reasons for it. I know how you must feel, since you are in a position to compare the then and the now. I'm glad that in the face of all drawbacks you hold on to positivity. ~ Warm regards // paul
Godwin Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 4:48 PM
Yes, I do hold positivity, even pick it up when she slaps it out of my hands. Your words and shared thoughts are warmly received and appreciated. Thank you ... CayCay
Allison Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 12:44 PM
Your words brought tears to my eyes as I can relate to this so so much with my mum CayCay - the second stanza resonates so strongly with me ... it is heartbreaking to see how she has changed - I wish I could turn back the clock and I worry for the future:-(:-( hugs Jan xx
Godwin Avatar
December 3, 2016 at 1:12 AM
No, it doesn't bear thinking about. We must not throw away today thinking about our distant tomorrow (if I say distant long enough, maybe it will seem so.) Hugs back ... CayCay
Allison Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 6:09 PM
Oh CayCay I dread the thought I will end up with memory issues like mum ... and seeing others in the care home with dementia .. oh it doesn't bear thinking about....:-( hugs Jan xx
Godwin Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 1:13 PM
It is strange how strongly I felt YOU when I posted this. Don't know what that feeling meant, but here you are and you found this quick. Me thinks you were meant to read it. If we cannot help them, despite our heart-best efforts, do you think we can at least prevent ourselves from becoming like them? Rhetorical question. Thank you, dear one, for your comments ... CayCay
Green Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 12:27 PM
Sigh, this is so sad CayCay. I have recently noticed a change in my mother but nothing along these lines. This piece broke my heart to read. The need and longing for what she had always been is vivid as is the pain and sadness of not finding what you seek. But, somewhere in there she is still her, still the mother you knew. Where does bitterness come from, who knows...maybe it is a cry for help, maybe it is just something that happens. I hope I didn't get to personal there. Nicely expressed
Godwin Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 1:11 PM
Honey, I just posted my guts and I have done so before, so NO, you cannot get too personal. I do though hope the poem itself will be viewed, not just the content, for poetry's sake. Chris, my Mom is bitter about everyone she ever knew including my grandparents, my father, her brother, her child - my sister, and everything that has ever happened. It is just as hard to be around as it is to emotionally comprehend or accept. She relies of me for companionship and trips to store, doctors, etc. so I talk with her every day. I am a positive person and try hard to turn her around while keeping my emotional mind in tact. Thanks for your comments and allowing me this therapy. You are always very kind ... CayCay
Bose Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 12:16 PM
What a skillfully written, bittersweet piece. It gives me pause, truly it does. My prayer joins yours. So nicely done, oozing with your frustration and hope. Dave
Godwin Avatar
November 30, 2016 at 12:22 PM
How I appreciate your prayers, David! Thank you for saying that, feeling that and for the other kind, uplifting comments you gave to me ... CayCay
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