Who Bears the Blame

She blames the woman and feels good
but the truth's misunderstood
She didn't give him what she should
She bears the blame

She blames the woman and feels fine
In anger sees him wine and dine
How did he let "her" cross the line...
He bears the blame

the blame must rest where blame is due
Integrity's not something new
If truth is what she really knew
She'd blame her man

Eileen Manassian

Footnote: 
If your man
sniffs up someone else's skirt
Yank on his collar
Don't blame the woman
for smelling sweet
blame the man
for wanting another treat

Women tend to be vicious in blaming others when their men stray. A man of integrity will not stray. No affair takes place in a vacuum. No woman can "steal" a man if the man hasn't come searching or hasn't shown a green "go head" sign. Where does the blame lie? Does it lie with Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie who fell in love during the filming of Mr and Mrs Smith. Brad was married at the time to Jennifer Aniston....Rachel on friends. Will we ever know? Questions....questions. FYI....I love Jennifer!! I'm a Friends Fanatic.

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White Sage

January 2, 2016 at 9:54 AM

there's always someone to be blamed, something obvious about blaming is that it goes to the first person you can think of, and nobody always can give reasons...nice write Eileen

Mama Bear

December 3, 2015 at 8:19 AM

Some people can not face conflict so therefore it is likely that they will look for someone who gives them no conflict and lets them go on the way they have been It does not matter to them if you are hurting as long as they feel OK Shallowness on their part and best to let them go They can not make you happy so let them stray and do not blame the other woman since happiness with this person is impossible. We are self indulgent creatures with no thought of others Love and hugs Edith

Laura Breidenthal

November 29, 2015 at 9:13 PM

"the blame must rest where blame is due" Wise words. Another great poem to reflect upon tonight Eileen. Always, Laura

Paul Callus

November 23, 2015 at 4:16 PM

In the tv programme "Cheaters" blame is often put at the door of the betrayed persons...for lack of attention, love, sex and understanding. To me it is mostly lack of dialogue. A big percentage of married couples have problems, but instead of walking off with somebody else, they try and work things out. // Found your footnote of interest! Hugs // paul

Eileen Manassian

November 24, 2015 at 2:08 PM

Thanks, Paul. Relationships are complex things. Going for counseling is not a bad idea. Reading books like Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley...He Wins/She Wins....5 Love Languages...etc are all useful, but if is not a commitment on BOTH sides to see it work....it is bound to lead to infidelity. We were created to be loved....that is a fundamental need. Thanks for the lovely comment, dear. I'm doing better. Will respond to your mail tomorrow after my classes. Hugs

Richard Lamoureux

November 23, 2015 at 9:22 AM

I think there is enough blame to go around. Yes the woman who tempts does have some responsibility and the man who welcomes the advance. I agree with Becca that sometimes the wife can do everything right and still some men are just dogs.

Eileen Manassian

November 23, 2015 at 9:26 AM

Thank you, Richard. I still maintain that women are ruthless to each other...when it is the man who bears the blame. He can make his woman secure, or he can run after others. I think it gives a woman sense of false security to blame the "other woman" and not think of the deeper issues involved in the relationship. THIS...according to psychologists. I said...these things don't happen in a vacuum. Some need isn't being met there. Of course, the woman who actively works to wreck a relationship has to answer for it. That doesn't absolve the hate and venom women spew out at other women, when it should be directed to....as you mentioned...the DOGS. Interesting that this poem is bringing such strong language as slut and dog to the forefront. Very interesting. Thanks for the post.

Arthur Vaso

November 22, 2015 at 7:53 PM

Beautiful. In any relationship, in times of hardship one or the other often looks outwards, instead of looking inwards to repair a love that once was and still can be! Life is never easy or black and white and love well is even harder to understand at times! Hugs!

Arthur Vaso

November 22, 2015 at 8:20 PM

You summed it up right there! I am full of , oh yes wisdom! LOL how nice of you, it seems I am wise until it comes to my own life, oh well live and learn as they say!!!!! Hugs! :)

Eileen Manassian

November 22, 2015 at 8:06 PM

Thank you, dear one. You are full of wisdom. :) I appreciate your insight into this. Relationships are not easy...but as you said, there needs to be work on BOTH sides to make it work and to prevent infidelity. If needs aren't met...continuously, unwanted results will ensure. Hugs!