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Weddings Used To Be Solemn

Weddings used to be solemn. Reverent. No one spoke as they entered the church. It was like a funeral only less flowers. Super respectful air of silence. Solemn occasion. We took it seriously. Even the children entered quietly. If there was a peep, people looked. The rites were serious. The priest or minister walked up and we could not hear their shoes. Beautiful music was played. Groom and best man walked up first. No grinning or talking. We watched in silence. Bridesmaids walked up a certain way. Flower girl laid down petals in silence. Ring bearer dropped the rings and no one laughed. Reverent. A solemn occasion When the song came on, we all stood for the bride. No one stands for the bride now. Bride and groom are pulled in on a sleigh with their children Wedding held in a pub. Everyone laughing, guzzling beer. Minister got his license sending in two crackerjack box tops and five dollars. If he is not funny enough, some guests leave. Mountain oysters are on the bar. Yucka Yucka. Marriage is over in three months.

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Gershon Wolf

Date: 8/19/2019 4:40:00 PM

This is a very educational write for me. I have never been to a non-Jewish wedding, and didn't realize how solemn the ceremonies used to be... (Orthodox) Jewish wedding ceremonies are fairly short, and have their quiet moments, and everyone stands for the bride (and the groom) and the others too---but once that glass is crushed, it's a wild, fun ride. . Thanks for the education. :) gw

Caren Krutsinger
Date: 8/19/2019 7:54:00 PM

You should come to some of the weddings I have attended. One was held in a beer tent. I wish I was kidding. Most have their friends marry them now. They can get ordained online filling out an application and sending in a five dollar bill.

Kim Rodrigues

Date: 8/19/2019 12:34:00 PM

Wow! Sad, indeed! My father-in-law’s second marriage done by an Elvis impersonator...that didn’t last either. Fave

Kim Rodrigues
Date: 8/20/2019 5:48:00 AM

Hmm...a wardrobe malfunction! My ex sis-I-L was taking shots in the catholic church bathroom before the wedding...I was shocked! You notice I said ex. I was married by a Justice of the Peace but took the wedding very seriously (my vows still to God)

Caren Krutsinger
Date: 8/19/2019 2:33:00 PM

The ones that kill me are the ones where the audience is in a beer tent drinking beer during the ceremony! At one of those the groom's pants fell off during the ceremony.

Ann Foster

Date: 8/18/2019 7:43:00 PM

A solemn occasion... so true. People think, "wow" lets do it... and then Divorce!!! Even thinking in this manner makes mpy grammer go nuts. People make promises they never intend to keep. So very sad. While others, do their best, and still the sails fall short, and all find themselvs lost on a sargosasa sea...?!? Start first with two or more... gathered... then maybe... Hugs. Ann... (drinking a bit less coffee).

Caren Krutsinger
Date: 8/19/2019 6:33:00 AM

They do not even have to wait for a blood test now.

Sandra Adams

Date: 8/18/2019 6:21:00 PM

I have been to a few catholic weddings like this...we didn't dare make a sound and we all stood, but most weddings these days are not in churches, they are outdoors or at the same place as the reception...sad, maybe if taken seriously like back when they would survive longer...good write! :) hugs

Caren Krutsinger
Date: 8/19/2019 6:34:00 AM

Thank you Sandra. I just know they are not the same as they used to be. Just a big party now where the bride and groom sometimes barely speak to each other.

Arturo Michael

Date: 8/18/2019 11:14:00 AM

Those day are over...might as well have some fun...after the honeymoon the wedding's done...

Caren Krutsinger
Date: 8/19/2019 6:35:00 AM

Right. Exactly, only some of them have had the honeymoon for years before the wedding.