Just Because

When a loved one commits suicide NO ONE wants to talk about it
Not about the person, the pain, the act,
they avoid it like the plague

Just because my son took his own life,
does not mean he was not a special person
HE was a kind, loving, giving human being

Just because he took his own life does not mean
he does not deserve to be remembered-
He does deserve for his name to be spoken 

Just because he took his own life, does not
mean that I don't miss him with every fiber of
my being, I do and I wish it could have been different

Just because he took his own life, it does not mean
that I wish the situation were the same as when he was
alive, I do not, he was suffering from extreme illness and 
I only want wholeness and peace for him, which I believe
he has achieved.  But I will NOT avoid talking about suicide
and trying to DO SOMETHING about it, because it is a 
painful terrible thing and it will not be stopped until
people talk about it and DO SOMETHING!
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Goldsmith Avatar
September 15, 2026 at 11:30 AM
Congratulations on your POTD win. I enjoyed reading your powerful "Just Because" write. Yes, in life painful terrible things happen. I will add you to my Soup prayer list. Have a blessed day with your wonderful win...............
Alex Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 7:20 PM
"Just Because" is deeply moving, and courageous confessional poetry. It's an emotional manifesto against the stigma, silence, and isolation that frequently follows a suicide loss. "avoid it like the plague," "NOT avoid," "DO SOMETHING," - Beautiful. Congratulations!
Hassall Avatar
September 15, 2026 at 5:24 AM
Thank you, Christuraj!
Nicole Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 6:32 PM
Dear Kathleen, I'm so sorry for your loss, and you are right that these emotions do need to be set free. I can feel your heart within, my dear friend. I see these words have been chosen as Poem of the Day. My best to you. Hugs and blessings. ~ Brandy
Hassall Avatar
September 15, 2026 at 5:25 AM
Thank you, Brandy!
Cunningham Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 8:42 AM
So sorry for your loss Kathleen, this is a verse from your heart, well done for bringing this into the open. Only by doing so and talking about it will more people take notice and things put into place to prevent more heartbreak. Congratulations on your well deserved POTD honour Tom 🌹
Hassall Avatar
September 15, 2026 at 5:27 AM
Thanks Tom! I am still completely amazed that it was chosen POTD!
Rodgers Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 6:25 AM
Dear Kathleen, Congrats on a heartbreak POTD that cuts right to the heart of one of society’s most painful taboos of disenfranchised grief, the agonizing isolation that occurs when society’s discomfort with a tragedy causes people to look away or fall silent. As a counselor, I recognize how brave and honest you are, and the crucial truth you carry. Deeply moving and important work, Kathleen, my heart breaks for you. Blessings, Daniel
Hassall Avatar
September 15, 2026 at 5:27 AM
Thank you, Daniel. I appreciate your insight and response!
Smith nee Howarth Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:29 AM
This is a deeply moving free-verse piece, its repeated “Just because” structure serving as both a defence of her son’s dignity and a firm refusal to let silence erase him. The direct, unembellished language makes the grief feel immediate, while the closing insistence on speaking openly turns personal loss into a compassionate call for understanding and action. Hope your POTD helps get your message out.
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:36 AM
Thank you Piscera! I am amazed it was chosen POTD!
Lawless Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:29 AM
Kathleen, I once saw a sign that read "BE CAUSE" It caused me to consider the depth of its meanings....This poem has reopened that field of wonder, causing us, or at least me, to reflect. A painful poem stirring the silenced waters of life.
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:37 AM
Thank you, John! It was written in a moment of anguish, but it means a lot that it did cause reflection. I am still amazed it was chosen POTD.
Elliott Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:24 AM
Hi Kathleen, my deepest condolences in the heartbreaking loss of your beloved son. My youngest brother committed suicide three years ago. I will always remember him as a beautiful and innocent young boy. My heart goes out to you in losing your precious son. 🕊️
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:28 AM
Thank you, Regina!
Rodrigues Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:42 AM
My nephew, Peter, killed himself too. He died 5 years ago. Likewise in constant anguish. Glad you wrote about something that no one wants to talk about. Congrats on a noteworthy and heartwrenching POTD. My heart breaks for you.
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:45 AM
Kim, thank you for sharing your heartbreak with me. I can't believe it was chosen POTD. It was hard to write and is also hard to read, but it needed to be said!
Edmonds  Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:41 AM
Sorry to read of your loss Kathleen, there should be help out there for those in despair. Congratulations on your Poem of the Day award… Beryl
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:46 AM
Thank you, Beryl. Yes, I am getting help as I need it. It was written in a moment of anguish, and I am amazed it was chosen POTD.
Etgen-Baker Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:33 AM
such an intense poem with a timely and powerful message. congrats on your potd designation.
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:38 AM
Thank you, Sara. I can't believe it was chosen POTD.
Kitchin Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 3:54 AM
Kathleen, a powerful poem that brings to light suicide and how it effects ma lives and should not be a taboo subject. I am so sorry for your loss. Congratulations on POTD.
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:39 AM
Thank you, Tania. I am amazed that my moment of grief was chosen poem of the day!
Jones Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 2:08 AM
This is a powerful write! So important to share this message. I can appreciate the fact that your son was hurting and despite your love he felt lost perhaps. I feel God’s love healed him as well as you at least enough to write about it. Love is forever and a mother’s heart is always open to that love despite challenges. May your poem be as a prayer lifting up your spirit with this important potd. Hugs
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:56 AM
Thank you, Karen. I do think he is healed and whole. The loss is still hard, though. I appreciate the hugs!
Andresen Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 1:55 AM
- Suicide is still a taboo topic, unfortunately... it's important to be open about mental health - Congratulations on your p.o.t.d., Kathleen - hugs
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 4:57 AM
Thank you, Anne-Lise.
Seeker Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 1:15 AM
Medication helps in many cases as does counselling. Extremely unfortunate when such a thing happens. Sadly, we don’t see or maybe ignore the signals before the final tragic act.
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:03 AM
Thank you, Unseeking! His mental health journey was long and hard.
Scragg Avatar
September 13, 2026 at 1:39 PM
Sadly too many forget that suicide is the ultimate last resort. Nobody really wants to die, they want to escape. Escape from the pain that leads to this heartbreaking tragedy. Hurting souls need love and deserve to be remembered in tenderness not judgement. So sorry to hear you lost your son this way. Its so hard to comprehend just how devastating this is for a parent. Sending warm tender thoughts and feelings Kathleen 🌸🌹🌸🌹🌸
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:02 AM
Thank you, Natasha!
Gibbons Avatar
September 13, 2026 at 1:02 PM
Honest, tender beautiful write ✍️ needed to read this today. Have been heartbroken this week with news of a beautiful,kind caring lad 23 yrs old committed suicide this week. 😭💔 he suffered with mental health today I honour Brad love and will never stop talking about him. He's at peace now like your son. Answer is talking agree with you. I wear a hoody says you are enough on back dear person behind me. If it saves even 1 life or get someone to talk hugzzz 🫂🦋 fav this thank u
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:01 AM
Thank you, Dorothy!
Rolland Avatar
September 13, 2026 at 4:54 AM
your words are precious and helpful, thank you so much
Hassall Avatar
September 14, 2026 at 5:01 AM
Thank you, Yann!
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