In Love and War

You've heard it said? All's fair in love and war! Well, most ethicists, even war-mongering philosophers, disagree with the "All's fair in war" part, As do just everyday Earth-patriotic folks who loyally prefer not to be bombed and automatically rifled just because some crackpot(s) in the nearest capital city plutocracy decide to make war, using our kids and tax dollars, instead of love, co-passion, solidarity with Earth's pro-life health. All ethicists, and folks who find compassion to responsibly risk vulnerability of a loving relationship, disagree with the "All's fair in love" side of this unmindful equation. Fairness, equity, of powers to freely say Yes or No to another's invitation into passion is a prerequisite to love, grace, mutual integrity of thought and feeling, regardless of how short- or long-term projected. It would be more valid and validating to observe, All is at risk in both love and war, but, unlike violent acts of hate and fear and anger and greed, and even everyday impatient risks of love are often fairly balanced with opportunities for growing healthy cooperative resilience patiently communicating together, and certainly not warring unfairly apart.