I Do Not Do Confrontation Well

My daughter says to get mad at me is like getting angry with Mary Poppins. I do not understand hostility, I want to talk with them, and I want to sweeten the situation with sugar. Confrontation is something I do not do well. I rapidly spring from passive to aggressive. I never learned how to be a grown up after my feelings are hurt. I am much more like the hulk. From zero to 160 in a few green seconds. I am trying to be a grown up, I truly am. But it is nearly impossible after sixty eight years of doing it incorrectly.