Defining a Man ( a Letter To My Daughter ) Prt 1

Defining a Man ( A Letter to my Daughter ) What is a man in these modern day attitudes and parlances of our times harder now, I think to define a man than maybe it was but then maybe not, considering how much we all have learned Rather it should be easier for a man to define himself, as a man, in these days, than it was in the past, but this seems not to be the case. Ever it seems, men, cling to the ideas of “The Macho Man” ( which if you think about it is so Gay.. trying to prove to everyone that you are not Gay, by being a “Man”….. how gay is that ? ) Any “Man” that conforms to a stereotype, or the stereotypically accepted view of what a man is “Is not” a man But a mere shadow of one Who by acceptance has agreed in his own conscience “not” to think past or beyond a cultural definition of what he is And therefore has not explored to any depth the idea of maleness and all its qualities of personality They have, to say, accepted a definition of themselves which is a blanket and an easy excuse to explain what they are and how they behave. I can count the number of men I have met in my life on the fingers of two hands but I have encountered an innumerable group of brainless masculine gender defined people in their thousands…. Firstly a man is or has the courage, “not” to define himself by stereotype he becomes a wolf instead of a sheep and so to some degree an outcast. ( and so many sheep call themselves wolves that it is laughable considering their obeisance to acceptance ) A man, does not use self-centred egoism as an excuse for truth or a replacement for truth He will contend with any rationale that challenges his idea or view of his life or world until it can or has proved itself to be better than his own In which case it becomes his own rationale. A man does not, by the use of any force, verbal, physical, emotional or mental, make any person submit to his will, in order to prove that he is right. ( erroneously or not ) A man will use his physical strength to defend, not attack.