Defining a Man ( a Letter To My Daughter ) Prt 1

Defining a Man ( A Letter to my Daughter )

What is a man in these modern day attitudes and parlances of our times
harder now, I think to define a man than maybe it was
but then maybe not, considering how much we all have learned

Rather it should be easier for a man to define himself, as a man, in these days, than it
was in the past, but this seems not to be the case.

Ever it seems, men, cling to the ideas of “The Macho Man” ( which if you think about it is
so Gay.. trying to prove to everyone that you are not Gay, by being a “Man”….. how gay is
that ? ) 

Any “Man” that conforms to a stereotype, or the stereotypically accepted view of what a
man is “Is not” a man
But a mere shadow of one
Who by acceptance has agreed in his own conscience “not” to think past or beyond 
a cultural definition of what he is
And therefore has not explored to any depth the idea of maleness and all its qualities of
personality
They have, to say, accepted a definition of themselves which is a blanket and an easy
excuse to explain what they are and how they behave.

I can count the number of men I have met in my life on the fingers of two hands
but I have encountered an innumerable group of brainless masculine gender defined people
in their thousands…. 

Firstly a man is or has the courage, “not” to define himself by stereotype
he becomes a wolf instead of a sheep and so to some degree an outcast. ( and so many sheep
call themselves wolves that it is laughable considering their obeisance to acceptance )

A man, does not use self-centred egoism as an excuse for truth or a replacement for truth

He will contend with any rationale that challenges his idea or view of his life or world
until it can or has proved itself to be better than his own
In which case it becomes his own rationale.

A man does not, by the use of any force, verbal, physical, emotional or mental, make any
person submit to his will, in order to prove that he is right. ( erroneously or not )

A man will use his physical strength to defend, not attack.

Copyright © | Year Posted 2009



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Date: 1/29/2011 10:41:00 AM
One of my boys is, how did you put it stuck in the gayness of the macho definition of manhood. His heart however loves deeply and speaks truth. Society can be so confining. Maybe if the wisdom is taught to our daughters the wisdom of women will mate with the truest of men your definition of a man will easily seen in society and you will need more fingers. Love you Col
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Date: 9/6/2010 4:16:00 AM
I totally agree...on to read part 2
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