Children and Bears

We are talking about traumatized children and how to hide their trauma, they tend to overreact, get out of control, and disrupt a class. We also talked about how some stress is important. If you see a bear in the forest, we want you a bit stressed so you can play dead and live, not run and be chased down and eaten. But in school we do not need any threatening adults a.k.a. bears As they shut down not only the traumatized child, But other traumatized children in their rooms. Why did you do that? The worst question ever. It shuts down the child, because it is accusatory, and they do not know why they did it. Why did you do that? Should be replaced with what happened? And what can we do to help you the next time? The trick is getting the exasperated school-teaching-bears on board. Teacher- bears sometimes want punitive things to happen to the out-of-control-children. They want them dragged out, locked up, and they want the keys to be thrown away. Not all teachers, but some. The crazy part is, that currently the bears are the ones Who get stuck with the out-of-control children because it is Thought by some that they can control them. This is the sad reality; a growly angry, shaming, accusatory bear will shut the child down and re-traumatize them over and over, And the victim’s behaviors Will get worse and Worse. We have To do things differently, Folks. We have to learn To listen to the bears and The victims, so we can help them learn to get along and become A working community. We have to get rid of the prisons and the jails. Locking people up and throwing away the key has not worked anyway, right?