Becoming Me

When I was married, I ceased to be.
A mother , a wife, a lover I became.
I lived a life where I no longer knew my name.
It wasn't too long before I forgot me.

My existence revolved around his life.
I forgot what I used to like, used to be,
But I loved him and thought I was happy, you see,
And I was no longer me. I was only his wife.

When he decided that we'd grown apart,
I was wounded, was hurt, scared and afraid.
It was now gone, this life that we'd made.
And though I didn't want to, I made a fresh start.

I could now walk barefoot and read in bed at night.
I worked on my crafts on the kitchen table.
With nobody to annoy, now I was able.
And then...oh then..I remembered I could write.

The next thing I did was to change my name.
I wasn't his wife now, nor even his friend.
That temporary identity had come to an end.
Now I was free, into my own I came.

Once I realized that I was just me
And didn't need someone else to make me whole, then,
At the age of thirty-nine is finally when
I realized how happy I was being me.
Copyright © | Year Posted 2010

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Onclaud Avatar
July 26, 2011 at 7:16 AM
*loving*, how can i type better?? :(
Onclaud Avatar
July 26, 2011 at 7:15 AM
so glad you are locing life, francine.. pure joy this is! ..special KUDOS to you for superb win!...huggs
Dietrich Avatar
July 25, 2011 at 9:36 PM
wow, amazing story. I kind of envy you, Francine, in some ways. I long for the independence to just go off on any vacation I would like to take!! YOu are still young too if this happened not long ago? VEry nice to know this. Congrats on your win!
Horne Avatar
July 25, 2011 at 3:47 PM
So glad you found happiness. Many congrats on all your wins, Francine : )
Brown Avatar
July 25, 2011 at 8:27 AM
Congratulations on your win in Tracie's "Getting to know you" contest Francine. Love, Carol
The Rogue Rhymer Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 11:02 PM
Francine-Congrats. to you-I enjoyed reading this-very well written
Guzzi Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 8:08 PM
so many of us walk the same road, I think it's because it's what's necessary to "nest" when we decide to have a family we begin to run on roles and instincts. Glad you got to re find you Francine! ;) Congrad's Light & Love
Kearley Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 6:45 PM
I'm happy, that your happy :-) Now stay that way!...lol Dan
Long Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 5:12 PM
this is awesome and something I think everyone goes through.. congrats on your win. cory
Onclaud Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 2:45 PM
freedom of self-love rules, francine... a round of sparkling cheers for your great win! :)huggs!
Sweetheart Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 1:59 PM
Congrats Francine on a sweet win with this insightful poetry about u luv..enjoy...
Ramage Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 1:16 PM
Beautiful poem and glad you found yourself again. Lee
George   Avatar
July 24, 2011 at 10:11 AM
Awesome, Francine. You go girl! Many congrats on your SUPER WIN. lainie
Johnson Avatar
July 24, 2010 at 9:00 PM
Congratulations on finding yourself and telling about it in this inspired winning poem. Joyce
Lacey Avatar
July 20, 2010 at 1:33 PM
congtrats on being able to be yourself :)
Brown Avatar
July 19, 2010 at 7:38 AM
Congratulations Francine on your well deserved win in Dane Ann Smith-Johnsen's contest "Being Trapped and Breaking Loose". Love, Carol
Guzzi Avatar
July 18, 2010 at 6:09 AM
wow are we twins LOL read Precious Fare...I didn't change my name though and I feel I got what I wanted at the time and it was not my ex's fault I lost me. It was mine..but I too have me back!" Light & love
Sweetheart Avatar
July 17, 2010 at 11:30 AM
Congrats Francine on your winning poem in Dane Ann's contest with this remarkable write and awesome win for u to so enjoy.. with luv..
Akinsoyinu Avatar
July 17, 2010 at 10:22 AM
there is nothing like been free,when your heart is made up and your mind is in the right places...it's beautiful.
A   Avatar
July 16, 2010 at 9:59 PM
Nice one, enjoyed your write..P.D.
Gorelick Avatar
July 16, 2010 at 9:52 PM
This is a fine piece..there are some fine lines in it...the last line will speak to many of us. BG
Babcock Avatar
July 16, 2010 at 9:18 PM
It is so funny how we conform to another person and can lose our own identity. Excellent write. God Bless Phyl
Brown Avatar
July 16, 2010 at 9:17 PM
A sad tale. Good wishes.
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