Audra Cady To Daughter: a Spoon River Poem

I didn't always adhere to the warnings of the experts who declared nothing beyond time-outs should be used to correct a child’s behavior—that parents must not, even temporarily, take away a toy or a privilege OR use “psychologically damaging” responses like “What you just did was bad”! When you, as a teenager, fought me at every turn, when you despised me--or seemed to-- the experts' words came back to haunt me. Still, I continued on my chosen path and tried not to reveal how defeated and helpless I felt. While the renowned psychologists were saying, "The teenager's privacy must not be violated," I was watching you, not always from afar. When, in spite of me, you began accomplishing a degree privacy at the tender age of 14, you hid from me, opting to use that freedom to forge risky relationships that alienated you from those who really cared. Over time, something beautiful happened. You metamorphosed into a fine young lady. As a parent, you have neither punished severely nor spoiled your children. You've limited their privacy and kept hold of the reins. As they sneer at you and rebel, you wonder, as I once did, If you've taken the wrong route. I can't verbally assure you that you haven't. I can't give you an encouraging embrace. Perhaps I did enough while I was there. January 1, 2019, entered in Emile Pinet's Free Verse Style Poetry Only contest, placed 2nd February 4, 2019, entered in Chantelle Anne Cooke's Favorite Free Verse Contest