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7/25/2018

~Honorable Mention~ Take Care of Yourself First Poetry Contest, sponsored by Caren Krutsinger


“Take care of yourself first.” That’s what we told my mama When my daddy had his strokes. Seven long years by his side, Caring for his body, paralyzed. Fearing for her health we said: “You can’t take care of daddy Till you care for yourself first.” That’s what we told my mama, Until my daddy died in 1985. “Take care of yourself first.” That’s what I told my wife When her mom’s simple operation Became a septic laceration. As she tirelessly cared for mom I feared for her well-being. “You can’t take care of mom Till you care for yourself first.” That’s what I told my wife, Until her mom passed on in 2011. “Take care of yourself first.” That’s what my wife told me As my mama slowly wasted away, Physically, mentally, emotionally. And we willingly provided the Loving care that she deserved. “You can’t take care of mama Till you care for yourself first.” That’s what my wife told me, Until my mama left the scene in 2015. Take care of yourself first When you experience the worst, For if you fall apart, for certain You’ll be someone else’s burden.

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Date: 2/16/2021 4:32:00 AM
I did not know you then except in passing, we do not know what the friends are dealing with. God's Kingdom will set us free.
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Mark Toney
Date: 2/26/2021 9:37:00 AM
Thank you, Barbara! I thought that was you!
Date: 8/11/2020 3:59:00 PM
Very touching, Mark.
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Mark Toney
Date: 8/11/2020 8:14:00 PM
That means a lot to me, Line. Cheers! ~Mark
Date: 3/27/2019 6:03:00 AM
Hi Mark! Never saw this poem before. Caregiving is absolutely not for everyone. I took care of Mom till she passed. I was not at all crushed in the process. I grew beyond my own expectations. And would re-do my experience. Having a background in nursing helped plus knowing my health and social needs.-)) Panagiota
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Mark Toney
Date: 3/27/2019 8:58:00 AM
Panagiota, thank you for the awesome comment! We too are happy to have been there for our loved ones and would do it again. I have another poem, "Caregiver," that I posted on 5/9/2018 dealing with what can happen when a caregiver stops giving and starts taking. Thank you, again. ~Mark
Date: 7/31/2018 6:26:00 PM
Excellent entry … Congrats on the placement … Just a thought: For some people, the only way to take care of themselves is to take care of another (person). They can be selfless, wonderful folks --- who have no clue whatsoever how to take care of themselves … Again, just a thought. ~ gw
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/31/2018 10:24:00 PM
Very true, Gershon. Nice observation.
Date: 7/29/2018 1:22:00 PM
grreat write as i send you my warm congrats, toney!
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/29/2018 1:52:00 PM
Much appreciated, Nette! And warm congratulations to you too!
Date: 7/28/2018 11:45:00 PM
Congratulations, Mark, I was so moved by your stories, the last stanza is so wise-
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/29/2018 1:04:00 PM
Michelle, thank you for your very encouraging, heartfelt comment. Congratulations to you too!
Date: 7/28/2018 11:34:00 PM
Congratulations on your win. I like how you wrote this, using real situations. :)
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/29/2018 1:01:00 PM
Thank you, Susan. I appreciate your kind encouragement. Congratulations to you too!
Date: 7/28/2018 6:00:00 PM
Mark, this is so heartfelt. Your last verse hit home. Congratulations on your win.. . Hugs Eve
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Eve Roper
Date: 7/29/2018 4:32:00 PM
The contest is like being back in school and taking a test.. I was never good a test taking, but when I got a good grade it inspired me for the next.. like The little engine that could. I know I can....
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/28/2018 7:01:00 PM
Thank you so much, Eve. I finally got up the nerve to enter a contest :)
Date: 7/26/2018 12:56:00 PM
Tender sigh. I understand your thoughts completely. The Lord doesn't place more on you, than you can bear. Sometimes- it may feel like it though. I helped my mother care for a friend of the family, until she passed on Dec 20, of last year. It can take a toll on the mind and body. Taking care of oneself, is needed while caring for another. ~ Brandy
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Brandy Nicole
Date: 7/26/2018 1:42:00 PM
You are welcome Mark. I help my mother every day as I can, and I wouldn't have it any other way. I appreciate you. Take care of yourself as well. :) Brandy
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/26/2018 1:05:00 PM
Brandy, your comment is filled with compassion and understanding, which I very much appreciate. Take care of yourself :)
Date: 7/26/2018 5:22:00 AM
Mark, such solid advise!
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/26/2018 8:12:00 AM
That it is! Thanks for stopping by :)
Date: 7/25/2018 5:45:00 PM
well said, mark, with a wonderful ending! best of luck in the contest.
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Mark Toney
Date: 7/25/2018 6:19:00 PM
Thank you so much, Ilene. I enjoyed your “Coming First” too!

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