Grief
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Having experienced a tremendous loss, losing my beloved Mother, this poem touches on the effects/repercussions of a great loss and the resulting grief. People will say, "It will get easier with time."
It's been over eleven years since I lost my Mom. She was my rock, my mentor, my hero, my inspiration, my motivation, my best friend whom I could trust her with anything and I could always rely on her to speak to me honestly even when I didn't necessarily want to hear the truth. She was a lady, modest, with strong convictions and principles, which she lived by. She had a very strong faith in God, which she relied and depended upon to get her through her struggles in life, and she had many hardships and heartaches to bear. My Mom's life was never easy, but even so, she never lost her sense of humour and her laugh was hearty and contagious. My Mom was a very strong woman of integrity and virtue and I will always be eternally grateful that God blessed me with a Mom who provided me with a wonderful example for me to aspire to live my life as she did. God couldn't have given me a better example.
But in regards to the 'getting easier' part of missing her, an unfillable void doesn't get easier. You just make adjustments to be able to bear the pain and grief of the loss better, pushing it deeper inside you so you can conceal the pain from others, because very few want to hear or know about it. Smile and the whole world will smile with you, but cry and you'll cry alone. People love to label others' pain as 'drama' until it's 'their' pain. Then it becomes 'real' to them and so, a much different scenario, no longer labeled as 'drama'.
"Drama is labeled 'just drama' when it's someone else's pain
And doesn't become a real crisis until it hits one's home domain."
~ Artsieladie Quote ♥
"There's no pain greater than the pain within,
Concealed deeply behind a put on, painted grin."
~ Artsieladie Quote ♥
"The loss of a beloved creates an empty space
That NO other can ever fill or ever replace."
~ Artsieladie Quote ♥
"When pain is fresh and raw, others will extend
Sympathy to soothe a bit but sympathy has an end.
Meanwhile, the pain lingers on, absent of relief,
And sympathy fades away but not so, the Grief."
Time may lessen the rawness and the shock, remove,
But time can't undo a loss, an empty space improve.
Memories we have made must then us, console,
But memories cannot replace the missing of a soul.
Such a void cannot be filled, no matter how we try;
Questions can't be answered, especially those of why.
Still, we must carry on as usual, as we did before,
Expected to be again okay; our former selves, restore.
Thankfully, most pain in life that we must endure,
Time helps to heal and provides us with a cure.
But then there are the pains that time cannot relieve;
That we cannot escape from, always we will grieve.
Learning to live again and function as we should
Is a task unpleasant with guilt when we feel good.
But we must come to grips with, though of us, it's part;
We must find a way to cope with a new hole in our heart.
Moving on is tough when feeling like you're standing still,
While others carry on with life and happiness they till.
In the quicksand of Grief, it's a struggle to get free,
Especially when you're left alone, others cannot see.
It's vital to remember that when it comes to Grief,
There is no specific time frame nor is the time brief.
Yes, we must live our lives but remember to extend
Our empathy to those who's Grief may never end.
The reality of a loss often comes with a period of delay
And doesn't settle in until all others have gone away.
When alone, the Grief stricken experience for real
The greatness of their loss, profoundly and surreal.
It's easy to get caught up in life, forget those in need,
Especially those who seem okay, offer not a plead,
But there is no greater pain than of the Grief within,
Masked behind the visible by careful discipline.
Though sympathy fades away, the Grief still remains
Long after the condolences, lingers still, the pains.
We must not expect others to handle as we would,
Their Grief and pain, as we think they should.
Folks handle Grief differently for reasons to abate.
Sometimes we can't understand how they do equate.
But agreement is not paramount for to take place,
Compassion and empathy, done so with grace.
Words like, "I'm so sorry", don't really solace bring;
To one grieving from a loss, they don't really mean a thing.
For such words can't bring back a cherished Loved one, dear;
While listening helps a griever to release their pain, severe.
It's best to be kind to others because we never know,
What inside they're suffering with but doesn't show.
If we try always to treat others as we would like to be,
Those with Grief suffering, we won't add to their misery.
"Remember the Golden Rule,
'Tis golden for a reason;
'Tis never out of style
Nor ever out of season."
Written by Artsieladie/Sharon Donnelly
©2017-02-01 23:45:00 (EST)
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Copyright © Artsieladie Sharon Donnelly | Year Posted 2018
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