The Things You Helped Me Unlearn

You didn’t ask me
 to forget the past.
You didn’t pretend
 the scars weren’t there.
You just stayed
 long enough
 for me to start
 to unlearn.
Unlearn
 that love means waiting
 for the moment it turns cold.
Unlearn
 that being chosen
 is something temporary.
Unlearn
 the habit of bracing myself
 every time I speak
 like my words might push you away.
You helped me unlearn
 the way my heart learned
 to apologize for existing.
Because you love me
 in ways that feel steady.
Not loud promises
 that disappear tomorrow.
Just quiet proof
 over and over again.
You wake up
 and choose me.
And somehow
 that simple thing
 is rewriting everything
 I thought I knew about love.
You help me unlearn
 the idea
 that I have to shrink
 to be loved.
You help me unlearn
 the fear
 that every good thing
 is about to end.
And slowly
 my heart is learning
 new things too.
Learning that love
 can feel safe.
Learning that I don’t have to run.
Learning that sometimes
 the right person
 doesn’t just love you—
they stay
 long enough
 to help you unlearn
 all the ways
 you thought you didn’t deserve it.
Copyright © | Year Posted 2026

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