Abdulhafeez Oyewole Poet Free verse

The Bitter Truth

~Heart opens, Legs close~

If only 'lover' of nowadays could actualize 
What real love is and not that type they play second fiddle to.
If they could stand on their toes to solve relationship puzzles
By being rational in their approach (to it).
Then they would have found out
The true meaning of love
And would as well be able to 
Distinguish it between its counterfeit.

Real love is true love.

With love at first sight 
You can love more than once
And be heartbroken on several occasions.

Love is not sex and Sex is not love.
You can have sex and not necessarily be in love.
You can be in love and not necessarily engage in sex.

Using sex to manipulate a man will eventually fail,
Cos a man may hate you and still have sex with you.
It is self deception to think that 
Giving man sex will make him love you.

True love will never force you to engage in sex.
A man who doesn't love you,
Will not change his mind because of sex.

True love comes from the heart and is often unimaginable and unexplained.

If man tells you to prove your love by having sex with him,
You should know he is only using you as (may be one of) his toy.
And if he is attracted to you because of his titillating figure,
Sooner or later, 'better sex' will take him away from you.
Submitting yourself to him as his sex slave is a great mistake and an act of foolishness.

True love will never shame or degrade you.

If a man truly loves you, he will understand your feelings and will listen to you. 
He will respect and stand by you. 
He won't want you to get hurt
 And he will be ready to hold back his sexual desire
Until that holy night.

Be wise!

 For: Russell Sivey's "Enlightenment, hope and harmony" Contest.
23rd March, 2013

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Poet Destroyer A May 1, 2013 at 6:49 PM ABDULHAFEEZ, :-) I love the sound of "Enlightenment, Hope, and Harmony." Congratulations in Russell's contest. ~LINDA

Mandy Tams The Golden Girl May 1, 2013 at 6:05 AM Many congratulations Abdulhafeez xx

Therese Bacha April 30, 2013 at 9:46 PM Congratulations young man, your poem is to be treasured by the young and old human beings, because it is beautifully penned. Love Terry xoxo

Olusegun Arowolo April 30, 2013 at 4:48 PM Wonderful and enlightening piece,AO..Congratulations on your well deserved win in this contest...

Painted Hunter April 30, 2013 at 10:55 AM Well said, Abdul...its a lesson many young people need to hear.

Richard Lamoureux April 24, 2013 at 7:26 AM Self control is a true gift of an enduring love. Well expressed and wise words. I hope you are in the winners circle so tat many people come to read these wise words. I only differ on one part, I met my wife 22 years ago and it was love at first sight, I fall in love with her daily.

Sara Kendrick April 24, 2013 at 5:31 AM Reads like a winner..Good advice to all women of the world..Enjoyed reading this morn..Thanks for stopping by.Sara

Timothy Hicks April 23, 2013 at 11:35 PM You said a lot, and doused it in truth, poet! We are coming into an age where things are getting more "lose", where constant shifts in relationships is a normal thing - as well as intercourse being what they call "casual". Some might call you old-fashioned, but I call this the golden standard of what relationships SHOULD be like. Best of luck on the contest!