The Beauty of I Statements

Teaching I statements is worthwhile you do not start with a pointing finger Or a mean look An I statement is not an accusation It is an expression of your feelings I felt sad when…. I felt upset when…. I felt disappointed when.... Expressing your feelings does not put people on the defensive So much better than pointing fingers, angry looks or nasty accusations. “You made me angry” is silly. “I felt angry when you….” Makes a lot more sense. “You made me hit him.” I am not even going there. How can you accuse someone else of taking your free choice away? The more you practice “I” statements The better you will be able to stand up for yourself You will be able to retain your power. If “You” is the first word you think to use, when someone upsets you, Practice your “I” statements. Retain your power.