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2026-05-02 Mingle Poetry Contest.     Sponsored by Constance La France.

Mingle

The loss of a partner can be devastating but they wouldn’t expect you to stop living your life to the full.
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I was a seventy year old widower and I'd given up on life
I'd sit at home all day thinking of my dear departed wife.
A friendly neighbour called and said "John you need to live,
you're mobile and healthy, you've plenty more to give".

“There's a club for seniors with many widowed or single,
please come out with me and have a good old mingle."
Reluctantly I decided to accompany her to the church hall,
had visions of oldies sat around but it wasn't like that at all.

Most were seniors quite alert and were having a good old chat,
there was plenty of laughter, lots of jokes, a lively place at that.
With plenty of smiles and handshakes, they all welcomed me,
and for senior and lonely single folk, it was the place to be.

Three happy hours soon went by, and I felt I was back on track
I couldn't thank my neighbour enough for getting me my life back.
She said "I know your wife would want you to live and be happy",
I said "Yes, she often told me that and in my heart she's still with me".
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bard Avatar
May 24, 2026 at 1:51 AM
Cunningham Avatar
May 24, 2026 at 2:31 AM
Thank you Douglas, as the saying goes life isn't over until its over. Hope you're keeping well, been travelling again since my spinal op two years ago there's no stopping me. Enjoy your weekend. Tom
bard Avatar
May 24, 2026 at 1:52 AM
good day Tom Great to read your cheery poem Blessings Douglas
Winter Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 9:14 PM
Dear Tom, I really liked reading this poem. One can never forget their true love but you are right they wouldn’t expect you to stop living your life to the full. A brilliant write! Best, Anne
Cunningham Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 11:53 PM
Thank you Anne, I've told my wife many times, carry on living when I'm gone. I'm pleased you enjoyed it. Have a lovely weekend. Tom
Dietrich Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 7:20 PM
This is so so nice, Tom. Just mingle!!
Cunningham Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 11:51 PM
Thank you Andrea, I'm happy you enjoyed it. Enjoy your weekend. Tom
Loving Iii Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 3:41 PM
Forgot to say how much i liked it. I was very entertained. I liked the rhyming.
Cunningham Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 11:49 PM
Thanks again John, tried many forms since joining soup but always come back to rhyme. Tom
Loving Iii Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 3:39 PM
Could I would i ? To me i am a widower. Besides that men cheat anyway.
Cunningham Avatar
May 15, 2026 at 11:48 PM
Thanks John, sorry to hear that.
Kamoonpuri Avatar
May 14, 2026 at 12:40 AM
Yeahh yayy man middle aged snd oldies need social life too and should not be isolated. This is such a great wonderful heartwarming poem to read in fab rhyming delightful. Kudos!!
Cunningham Avatar
May 14, 2026 at 1:20 AM
Thank you Zaynab, sadly many think their life is over when they get on in years, I'll keep burning the candle at both ends whilst I'm able lol. Enjoy your day... Tom
Kitchin Avatar
May 13, 2026 at 6:55 PM
Tom, such a sweet and touching poem. Best for the contest.
Cunningham Avatar
May 13, 2026 at 9:33 PM
Thank you very much Tania, it's only as you get older that you start thinking of these things. Tom
Maverick Avatar
May 12, 2026 at 9:12 PM
Hmmm? Yes its good to mingle and once we are older, there is less pretention i see Tom..Being more self Aware and aware of others..A great shame we have the government we do In 2026 that views all humanity in a bad Light especially the very young and old.' I hope you're well.)
Cunningham Avatar
May 12, 2026 at 10:03 PM
Thank you Joe, I agree ,once we retire the government thinks the elderly are a soft touch as we can't take strike action, they forget we paid our taxes during our working life, shame on them, the young too, tax the super rich if they want more income, even billionaires have said it too, a few pence in the pound wouldn't hurt them. All good Joe hope you are too. Back from my travels again. Tom
Messina Avatar
May 12, 2026 at 3:18 AM
I agree, Tom. To sit around after a loss of a spouse only makes one age quicker, which is often and understandably the case. But more times than not the widow or widower would much rather the spouse try to enjoy the rest of their lives happily and actively rather than keep mourning them for years or possibly decades. Great write, my friend. Charlie
Cunningham Avatar
May 12, 2026 at 4:28 AM
Thank you Charlie, I've often told my wife if I go before you, carry on living and be happy. Im lucky my three daughters live quite near so would keep an eye on her. Nobody knows the day or the hour, hopefully not anytime soon. Hope your week is off to a good start. Tom
Empress Avatar
May 11, 2026 at 1:36 PM
Awwn the ending, dear Tom, the cadence and the storytelling and the concept and theme of grief and loss youv touched here in such an engaging manner is truly poignant and remarkable! I must say as always your rhymes are on point! And the soulful rhythm of your words did really hit me deep! Pleasure reading you always, Best wishes! Sending you light, always! And this is a fave for me cus its so very touching! And the message youv somehow sent out reached me. Live life when you can amidst grief
Cunningham Avatar
May 11, 2026 at 11:21 PM
Thank you very much IE, it's sad when one loses a partner and they feel like their life is over ,but with a little help from family and friends they can find a way to enjoy life again. Thank you also for faving it. Hope your week is going well. Tom
Crandall Avatar
May 8, 2026 at 9:27 PM
I agree with the sentiment of this poem. Keep living. It reminds me of my retirement community where there are so many friendly people out there, and lots of events to meet and chat with them.
Cunningham Avatar
May 8, 2026 at 10:59 PM
Thank you David, many who have joined communities after losing a partner have said how it gave them some purpose again. Enjoy the weekend. Tom
Rodgers Avatar
May 7, 2026 at 9:15 AM
Hello Tom, It is the truth you only learn by living long enough. I like how you show the shift from isolation to connection without forcing it, just a neighbor’s nudge, a room full of laughter, and the slow return of color. The ending is honest, holding grief and gratitude in the same breath. Now that I am retired, I wish I had the wisdom I have now back then. Blessings, Daniel
Cunningham Avatar
May 7, 2026 at 10:39 AM
Thank you Daniel, sadly a few cannot move on and they' just give up on wanting to carry on with life, dying of a broken heart is a real condition. I'm with you on the wisdom but its only something we gain when we reach a certain age. I'm travelling again whilst my health allows, hope your week is going well. Tom
Legros Kelley Avatar
May 6, 2026 at 3:50 PM
I love this Tom, it is such a delicate and precious topic not often spoke of, but I am so glad you have in your perfectly skilled and sensitive poem. I love it. A fave for sure.
Cunningham Avatar
May 6, 2026 at 11:29 PM
Thank you very much BJ, nobody likes the thought of getting on in years and sadly when one passes the one left behind is reluctant to carry on, I suppose we all deal with grief differently and would feel guilty enjoying life. Thanks for the fave. Hope your week is going well. Tom
Canerdy Avatar
May 6, 2026 at 9:52 AM
Tom, I really love this moving--also skillfully-composed--poem! Janice
Cunningham Avatar
May 6, 2026 at 10:15 AM
Thank you very much Janice, I'm happy you enjoyed it. Tom
Buhagiar Avatar
May 6, 2026 at 1:36 AM
Oh, I loved this mingle poem, Tom. Perfect idea. I had no idea what to write about, really.
Cunningham Avatar
May 6, 2026 at 7:14 AM
Thank you Victor, must admit I was scratching my head when I saw the contest prompt so went with this one. Tom
Sheehan Avatar
May 4, 2026 at 2:22 PM
Wonderful rhyme. It rings of truth. Very uplifting and positive. Thanks for sharing.
Cunningham Avatar
May 4, 2026 at 9:32 PM
Thank you very much Frank, sadly many give up after losing a partner. Some struggle with grief but with help can live again. Tom
Bauer Avatar
May 4, 2026 at 12:49 PM
A very touching poem, Tom, with an uplifting message, for sure…
Cunningham Avatar
May 4, 2026 at 1:12 PM
Thank you Ilene, sometimes people need a bit of help overcoming grief,I think they feel somewhat guilty for carrying on with life without one they've lost. Tom
Lane Avatar
May 4, 2026 at 7:42 AM
Tom, maturity has taught us that there's always something we can look forward to, and you've clearly shown that in your hopeful lines. All that's needed is an open mind to except the hands and smiles of others.
Cunningham Avatar
May 4, 2026 at 7:57 AM
Thank you Lin, when one loses a partner many give up on life and sometimes all it needs is a gentle nudge in the right direction from friends or family to start living again. Tom
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