Marriage

I woke up for the 6th time tonight to the cry of the babe sleeping in our room
The mum tired, sleepy turns to breastfeed this lil monster

When I was in campus, the word companionship came without any responsibilities
It meant holding hands, passing winks during class, a push to the bus stop, late night texting and a kiss goodnight.

Later in life, I met mum. She knows marriage like the back of her hand.
She says, its about responsibility, agendas and purity.
Every 1st Sunday of the month, in that daycare class
We sit under her and bask from knowledge.

Today, 
Right now,
I know different.
Its not about the adrenaline that keeps you awake at night texting and giggling
Its not about leaving your life behind in search of bliss and escape
Its quite the contrary.

Marriage is waking up 6 or 7 times in the night to breastfeed the ever thirsty new born who got the hours wrong
For them, day time is sleeping time and night is play time
Its waking up early enough to make sure he wakes to find warm water, a hot cup of tea and ironed clothes and a clean house
Its going to the office fresh and ready to thresh the day
Its putting a smile and encouraging other sisters in the hood

So forget romance,
Forget danger, ecstasy
Quit escaping
Because marriage is grounding.

What am I doing today to becoming Wonder Woman
How about getting my life together
Being disciplined
Doing stuff even when I don't feel like
Washing dishes before bed
Showering before sleeping
Trying out that recipe
Eating Healthy
Praying and live according to His definition of life
Choosing purity
Probably saving up bucks
Start my own business
Buy my own house
Travel 
Attend gatherings of believers
Saying No! to that delightful and desired fruit in the garden
 
He put these desires on the inside of me
So strong they push humans to move out of their homes
From their mothers hut and comfort
and cleave to strangers they met on Facebook
What kind of madness is this?
-marriage.

Copyright © Lyn Ngesh | Year Posted 2020

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