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Alcoholism and Hope

There is quilt of comfort made with silver threads. For friends and families of alcoholics, that have given up, and just shake their weary heads. You cannot ever on your own power save an alcoholic. To play God~~is a pure waste of time and frolic! Nor dare not play the superiority game. And look down on them with puffed up pride and arrogant shame. You have to stop being a codependent, rescuing them. Sobriety is gift from God, a wellness robe with a gold hem. Right at this minute from Maine to Rangoon~. An AA meeting opening doors to those in recovery in just minutes, very soon! Whilst we write about how disgusting and awful they are, We, ourselves are not perfect, no, not by far! We overeat, we overspend, use painkillers galore and yet? We are blind to our own moral inventory We get off on painting 'them' as evil, but give ourselves all humam glory? Children at the age of twelve attend AA meetings. And we....we wag our tongues with character assassination beatings. You don't have this disease! You just were blessed not to have the DNA to be one,so please with all meanness surcease! You can detach from them but love them still. You, yes you, can go to Alanon, there's a Twelve Step Program designed just for you, just up the hill! Alanon members grow strong beyond belief, They share their pain, but better, look into their own lives and stop living in endless hurt amd grief.        In Memory Tribute to my lost husband. Dead at 35 U.S.A Army Reservist Brilliant, a writer, a poet, gone! With loving memories, Panagiota "Serenity Prayer" God, grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change...the courage to change the things I can..and the wisdom, to know the difference! May 24, 2020 4pm PST Poem # 1294

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Date: 5/25/2020 3:21:00 PM
Hello panagiota, my father had to give up drinking in order to drive a car, My grandmother|father's mother| drank her self drunk so bad we were angry. She never went t aa. Have a nice day my friend. Hugs Darlene xxx-ooo.
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Darlene De Beaulieu
Date: 5/25/2020 6:24:00 PM
Hello Panagiota, yes it is hard on the familes when one member of the family gets drunk. it is not pleasant. Have a nice evening my friend. Hugs Darlene xxxx-oooo.
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Panagiota Romios
Date: 5/25/2020 3:42:00 PM
Hello, my friend! Yes, Darlene, I hear you! It's so upsetting to families worldwide. AA is having meetings on Zoom. But members faces are not shown. The meetings do help an alcoholic stop hating themselves and learn the harm they do to families and themselves. It's so hard on families, I do know. Hugs, Panagiota xxoo
Date: 5/25/2020 1:46:00 PM
I don't share your point of view. My father returned from WWII as a chain-smoking alcoholic and struggled from it his entire life, especially from missionaries trying to save his soul and the nonsense that Native Americans don't have the DNA! He never learned it is just an habit; though habits are difficult to break, especially those which relieve pain and suffering, but anyone can make their life what they want it to be! Been there, done that! Aloha! Rico
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Panagiota Romios
Date: 5/25/2020 2:01:00 PM
Thank you, Rico! Aloha~~ Panagiota
Date: 5/25/2020 11:53:00 AM
A loving tribute to your husband, Panagiota. So, so sad but all we can do is pray without ceasing for those afflicted by this scourge. Always enjoy your very insightful verse. Bob H
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Panagiota Romios
Date: 5/25/2020 12:22:00 PM
Hi...thank you for your email about my military question. Prayer and the fellowship of AA and Alanon works miracles. Alcoholism takes many lives, more than we think... internationally. For centuries, this has been going on. And what do they open during the time? Liquor stores, breweries and wineries? Slam down churches, etc. thanks, Bob This disease is looked at as a moral issue. It is out and out addiction. Robs people of spouses, families.. A tragedy....Panagiota thanks again
Date: 5/24/2020 10:56:00 PM
It is a terrible disease and only those afflicted may help themselves to get well day by day. When you relate in your poem about being a codependent, it is so true and you are harming them by being one. My brothers have this disease and I help by praying for them both. Thank you for this honest look at this disease with some helpful suggestions. I am sorry you lost your mate to alcoholism. Excellent work Panagiota! blessings xxoo
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Panagiota Romios
Date: 5/24/2020 11:32:00 PM
Connie~ I got to a point, I realized I Coukd not rescue him. So, I stopped harming him. I know you understand this well. Praying is best for your brothers, no rescuing. He rests in peace. Many recover. People just refuse to get that. It drives me bonkers. Those who have, are in all felds of life. Hawaii looked so lovely on TV today. Wow..Aloha. Thank you for expressing your thought about my loss, too. Panagiota xxoo
Date: 5/24/2020 8:26:00 PM
This is such a tragic write Panagiota, an addiction to drink or drugs is a terrible thing and unless you've been there yourself you don't understand what these poor souls are going through Lovely tribute too to your husband. Tom
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Panagiota Romios
Date: 5/24/2020 9:05:00 PM
I also think sobriety is a gift and a miracle. Many famous people in all walks of life as you know. Best pray for an alcoholic's recovery. They are something else when Clean and sober.every time I see Wine and Roses, I cry.just remember, all is not lost. Panagiota xx
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Panagiota Romios
Date: 5/24/2020 9:00:00 PM
Exactly. zero understanding but plenty of folks judging them. The alcoholic has three paths 1) live in denial saying I can control this/) get wet brain or 3) die. The best option is no drinking ever. I do mean never, withh AA fellowship it can happen. On their own hardly. Many famous Alcoholics on all professions,Tom.
Date: 5/24/2020 8:20:00 PM
This is so touching and heartfelt Panagiota. I am so sorry you lost your husband, and so young. My partner is an alcoholic too. They say "the opposite of addiction is connection", I can say that that is true. Thank you for sharing this. xomo
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Maureen Mcgreavy
Date: 5/25/2020 5:30:00 AM
Thank you. He is my soul mate. I would marry him if he could stop. I stay and I understand. The best I can do is lead by example; which is wearing off bit by bit. ~x
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Panagiota Romios
Date: 5/24/2020 8:32:00 PM
Pigeon~Unfortunatelly the damage done to his liver did him in. The last time I saw him, we were walking on Grant Street in San Francisco, he was singing a song he made up from a poem about me he wrote! Best wishes in your relationship. Alcoholics are real people with real hearts. I wish people would look into the mirror and realize they have imperfections. Alcoholics can be very lovable. And yes they have issues. Death? I never expected. The most fun man ever in my life! I loved your share! So open! Best to you both. Panagiota xxoo

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