Love and Marriage

When people fall deeply in love they are connecting with a person whose personality is made up of one part ideal mother, one part ideal father, one part sexual god or goddess who was in vogue when you were 11 to 15 years old and one part the positive aspects you don’t recognize in yourself and project on to your lover. Being in love is different from falling in love. As William B. Stewart says in his book Deep Medicine, being in love requires commitment, loyalty, and development and nurturing of shared goals. These things don’t have to be “worked” on. How about thinking of them as games of joy? - Jed Diamond Men's Health 9/26/2006