Many people hold onto a grudge because it offers the illusion of power and a perverse feeling of security. But in fact, we are held hostage by our anger. It is never too late to forgive. But you can forgive too soon. I am especially wary of what I call saintly forgiveness. Premature forgiveness is common among people who avoid conflict. They're afraid of their own anger and the anger of others. But their forgiveness is false. Their anger goes underground. I define forgiving as letting someone back into your heart. This returns us to a loving state -- and not merely within the relationship -- we feel good about ourselves and the world. True forgiveness isn't easy, but it transforms us significantly. To forgive is to love and to feel worthy of love. In that sense, it is always worthwhile.
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In ceremonies of the horsemen, even the pawn must hold a grudge.
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Potter is jealous of potter, and craftsman of craftsman; and the poor have a grudge against the poor, and the poet against the poet.
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Death had his grudge against me, and he got up in the way, like an armed robber, with a pike in his hand.
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what a grudge I am bearing against Death, that is standing in her two eyes, and will not call me with a word.
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The writer has a grudge against society, which he documents with accounts of unsatisfying sex, unrealized ambition, unmitigated loneliness, and a sense of local and global distress. The square, overpopulation, the bourgeois, the bomb and the cocktail party are variously identified as sources of the grudge. There follows a little obscenity here, a dash of philosophy there, considerable whining overall, and a modern satirical novel is born.
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To carry a grudge is like being stung to death by one bee.
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I've had a few arguments with people, but I never carry a grudge. You know why? While you're carrying a grudge, they're out dancing.
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Leviticus 19:18:
'Do not seek revenge or bear a grudge against anyone among your people, but love your neighbor as yourself. I am the LORD.'
(NIV)
You shall not take revenge or bear any grudge against the sons of your people, but you shall love your neighbor as yourself. I am the Lord. [Matt. 5:43-46; Rom. 12:17, 19.](AMP)
Thou shalt not avenge, nor bear any grudge against the children of thy people, but thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself: I am the LORD.
(KJV)
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He never bore a grudge against anyone he wronged.
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If I can catch him once upon the hip, I will feed fat the ancient grudge I bear him.
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Heaviest thing to carry -- a grudge
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People often grudge others what they cannot enjoy themselves.
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