[adj] free from what is tawdry or unbecoming; "a neat style"; "a neat set of rules"; "she hated to have her neat plans upset"
[adj] suggesting taste, ease, and wealth
[adj] made pure
[adj] used of persons and their behavior; cultivated and genteel; "she was delicate and refined and unused to hardship"; "refined people with refined taste"
[adj] freed from impurities by processing; "refined sugar"; "refined oil"; "to gild refined gold"- Shakespeare
[adj] showing a high degree of refinement and the assurance that comes from wide social experience; "his polished manner"; "maintained an urbane tone in his letters"
civilised, civilized, couth, cultivated, cultured, dainty, debonair, debonaire, debonnaire, delicate, elegant, finespun, genteel, gentlemanlike, gentlemanly, graceful, gracious, ladylike, mincing, neat, niminy-piminy, overrefined, polite, prim, processed,