The journey started over forty years ago. That was the day she saved me!
my blue eyed blonde with the smile that lit up a room, an overwhelming
personality and the dirtiest laugh anyone could possibly hear. We never
planned the journey, it just… lead us, we happily followed, trusting our gut
feeling and God. Along the journey there have been lots of up’s and down’s,
three children, seventeen house moves, two fish, (Gill and Fin) no dog’s or cats
not that anyone actually owns a cat! Then thirty two years ago, just after the
birth of our third child, my wife was diagnosed with RA, our world fell apart,
I was in full time employment and she was bedridden for two years, so in that
time I got the kids up and ready for school each day, dropped them off went to
work, came home at lunch to feed my wife and carry her downstairs, where she
would sit in the chair until I had left work did the shopping, picked up the kids, cooked
an evening meal, played with them, put them to bed and read to them then carried
my wife upstairs bathed her, sat with her and just talked and laughed, nothing got us down.
It was what we promised in our vows, through sickness and in health. Then the first
of the new super meds came along and she was selected for them, the BBC wanted to film her progress and it was like Lazarus all over again, so much so, that the following year she was climbing Sydney Harbour Bridge. Our journey had taken a new course and again we just followed. Steadily through the years the meds would begin to fail and each time they did, she would get worse, until they found the next suitable one, and so it went for most of our married life. This time is a little different, as The Destination draws nearer, I spent so much time at her bedside I had lots of time to think, and I realised that the one thing that had always been missing was, in those times I sat alone in the many hospitals, I had no-one to talk to, the kids were too young to understand and we lived far away from her family. This time it was different, I had you guys with me all of the way, and that made it a whole different ball game. I had time to thank God for all of the pleasures we have had in our lives and how our love has grown from day to day, we have no regrets, it is what it is….life.