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Integrity

Blog Posted:3/10/2012 11:18:00 AM
Integrity: adherence to moral and ethical principles; soundness of moral character; honesty.

A PoetrySoup definition: Doing what is right when no one is looking. Doing what is morally right in spite of what others do or how others treat you.

Examples of Integrity
  • After the U.S. Civil War, General Robert E. Lee (1807 ~ 1870) was offered $10,000 a year to become President, in name only, of an insurance company. He declined the offer with these words, "Excuse me, sir; I cannot consent to receive pay for services I do not render."
  • Here's the second example I promised. Bobby (Robert Tyre) Jones (1902 ~ 1971) was a lawyer and amateur golfer. He was also the first to achieve the Grand Slam - winning in a single year the four major tournaments. From 1923 through 1930 he won 13 championships in those four annual tournaments. His record was unmatched until 1973, when it was finally broken by Jack Nicklaus. The above attests to his athletic skills; now let's move on to a testament of his integrity. In a national championship, he drove his ball into the woods, and accidentally nudged it. Although no one saw him move the ball, he penalized himself one stroke, which caused him to lose the game by that margin. When praised for his integrity, he said, "You might as well praise a man for not robbing a bank."


Now that we have some examples of integrity in action, it's time for an example of what integrity is not. Lance has much to like about him. He's energetic, curious about life, and an avid reader. But others think he is obnoxious. You see, although he's interested in self-improvement, his focus is on OTHERS improving themselves. He loves to be 'brutally honest', with the emphasis on brutality and the neglect of honesty. He doesn't hesitate to tell others any of the following: "You're too fat and need to lose weight!" "I have never heard of such a stupid idea; you're completely wrong!" "Sick? You're not sick; it's all in your mind!"

When asked why he is so hurtful to others, Lance simply replies, "I can't help it. I'm honest and say whatever is on my mind. If others can't handle the truth, it's their problem, not mine." Integrity is noble, Lance's behavior is not. Integrity springs from the desire to do what is RIGHT. Lance's conduct is an attempt to prop up his falling self-esteem. Unable to think of something good to say about himself, he points out the 'weaknesses' of others with the hope it proves he is superior. Integrity inspires others; Lance's actions demean others. Integrity is about honesty. Lance is not honest because he lies when he says, "I can't help it." Of course he can help it, but he chooses not to change because bolstering his ego is more important to him than freeing others from the pain he inflicts.


Content taken from...http://www.personal-development.com/chuck/integrity.htm




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Date: 3/12/2012 2:02:00 PM
But, at times, a response is NECESSARY. And not riddle-speech or rhetoric. Honest, blunt response CAN and HAS fixed conflict. It can also add to the conflict, that I'll give you. But I've never been a fan of those who talk out the sides of their mouths or close their blinds when something SHOULD have been said, PLAINLY. The rest is just lawyer directed bluster-talk that is unwilling to take a stand. I agree with Debbie. The world is full of hurts. But when we allow others to kick the innocents we ARE the demons.
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Date: 3/12/2012 6:30:00 AM
So true Soup..controlled RESPONSE, thoughtful RESPONSE is always best we do not know the demons others struggle with.
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Date: 3/11/2012 10:00:00 PM
@Cyndi - The problem is that you cannot "fix" other people. You can only control how you respond.
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Date: 3/11/2012 10:54:00 AM
I mostly agree with what you are saying, but I would add that the FIRST step in stopping injustice is having integrity. ACTION IS A PART OF INTEGRITY. Watching some neo-natzi attack a Jewish person verbally and staying quiet about it, but not doing the same thing is NOT HAVING intergrity. It is being a closed mouth coward!!! When you turn away from seeing oppression, but do not yourself oppress, when you ignore prejudice, though you yourself are not prejudice, then you are NO DIFFERENT FROM THOSE WHO COMMIT ATROCITIES! So your poster needs reworking! If its not right, FIX IT! If it's not true, SPEAK YOUR TRUTH! Zipped lips have led to concentration camps and genocide. If you're only talking about Soup--say so plainly next time. Cyndi
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Date: 3/11/2012 9:02:00 AM
thank you TPS for this much-needed ref;ection.. i do hope i can post more, but my pages and sections are still blank from some technical soup glitches.. hope we can fix it.. :)
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Date: 3/11/2012 7:27:00 AM
Very well said, Team PS
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Date: 3/11/2012 12:11:00 AM
I enjoyed the thoughts, TPS. I think true integrity is a very difficult thing. Like those that give up many things for others without ever letting their benefactors know it was them. Or admitting something like that golf example you gave. I think we find very little of it in the world today.
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Date: 3/10/2012 8:48:00 PM
"with the emphasis on brutally"... Thanks, Poetry Soup
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Date: 3/10/2012 7:17:00 PM
The only exercise some people get is jumping to conclusions
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Date: 3/10/2012 6:24:00 PM
The intent of the action should be taken in to concideration as well people often get hurt by what aperson says to them because of something in their own background that the perrson talking tto them knows nothing about..all of us should remember than too..no one here really knows all of what any of uss have gone through nor will we ever..
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Date: 3/10/2012 1:36:00 PM
Very interesting. Thanks for sharing, TPS. Best wishes, Carolyn
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Date: 3/10/2012 1:28:00 PM
Well said TPS!! Bravo for this informative piece on what's been going on. Thank you. Your Poet friend Michael
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Date: 3/10/2012 1:00:00 PM
sorry about the typos.. it's my spell check on my phone...
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Date: 3/10/2012 12:59:00 PM
thank you soup... I was looking in on e-mailing you folks up there (heaven lol) anout the non-fairness of being blocked for no reason. I was more concern on how TPS, looks at situations like poets behaving like this. i know you guys have a page out there.. that shows all blocked poets.... and i sigh sigh,,sigh... over how many have me blocked for no reason.. TPS, you guys and gals up there know I'm playful like a kitty skat.. ja ja..I have my moments! none come with vengeance. I love it here on the soup. and, yes.. maybe some poets don't like the way i share what's on my mind...lol..don't know about full honesty..ha ha..even my poetry lies.... well this is a great blog, for all situations on the soup... thank you..pd
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Date: 3/10/2012 11:30:00 AM
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