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My Little Soldier Boy

Gary, you are my little soldier boy, who died on Veteran's Day. ('83) My sunny, golden-haired soldier boy, that I still miss in every way. You had just turned 13, getting interested in girls. When CF took you from me, my heart, like a flag, unfurled. You fought CF with every breath. For 13 years you tried. And four lung collapses later, after each one, I said, "Son, you will survive." Oh, how I lied! Now, no more hugs and kisses, No more birthday wishes, I watched you go and please God know, Heaven, receive my treasure. Author Note: This poem was written in memory of my son, Gary, who died of Cystic Fibrosis at 13, in 1983. I honor my soldier who so valiantly fought his fight on the battlefield of a life threatening lung disease, which fills the lungs with sticky mucus and makes it difficult to breathe. With all CF children, they struggle with every breath they take just to breathe! My son eventually started to have lung collapses. He had four before the last one took his young life on Veteran's Day weekend in 1983..(Read my poem "A rainbow Glitters") I wouldn't be a poet today, if not for my son. He was diagnoses at age three. As I sat by his hospital bed crying, I reached into my purse for a tissue, but instead, I pulled out a pen. I thought to myself, "Ok, God, I get the message. You want me to write and not cry." So I wrote my first poem that night, "Not MY Son!" Which eventually got published in Elizabeth Kubler Ross' Book "On Children and Death." Later, I wrote humorous poems to entertain my son, who was often to sick to go to school. And I'm still writing my poems today.

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Date: 7/28/2015 5:56:00 PM
Have just re read this Darlene - brought a lump to my throat to read it again:-) hugs Jan xx
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 7/29/2015 12:04:00 AM
It's a very emotional poem. And thanks for you wanting to reread it. ~~~Hugging you back, Darlene
Date: 7/26/2015 5:17:00 PM
My friend Darlene, i read this poem several x's and with read a tear dropped. You are a strong woman and mother. God bless you
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 7/27/2015 8:59:00 AM
This poem is still very emotional for me to read. Still fresh! As if he died yesterday. Thanks for your compassionate response. ~~Darlene
Date: 5/25/2015 7:14:00 PM
Yes, Darlene, writing IS good therapy. Your short poem is incredibly beautiful -- so much said in such few words. Toward the end, that's exactly how I felt about Bob. No need to reply. We understand each other.
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Date: 5/25/2015 6:30:00 PM
Darlene, A very moving poem. You and I have something in common. I also lost a son, in 2013, from a very rare cancer, Neuroendocrine. He was 45. He inspired so many people with his attitude. Grown men who worked with him were weeping. My only comfort is that he is with the Lord now.
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 5/25/2015 6:55:00 PM
Yes! Arlene, we definitely have the loss of our sons in common. I am so very sorry for your heartbreaking loss. I have found that writing is good therapy and I hope that is true for you, too. I thought you might like to read this short poem I wrote when Gary was close to the end."You've picked so many flower's,God, must you have them all!/ Daisy, my Daisy, I watch the petals fall." Anger at God is something you have to deal with, too. But I'm sure you know that.
Date: 4/27/2015 12:54:00 PM
First time i have wept in a very long time . . . there are no words i can say other than thank you . . . God bless you EM
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 4/27/2015 7:41:00 PM
Thank you, Edward, for your empathy. Expressing your caring heart in this way means a lot to me. God bless you back, Darlene
Date: 12/20/2014 3:56:00 PM
Well words fail me Darlene, I feel it all here, 'however' I am thankful for your words and understanding of this time, good will not go unnoticed by the Lord I believe.' who holds time and all things in his hands God bless..'
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 12/22/2014 1:47:00 AM
Thank you, Joe, for your words of wisdom. God helps us through our tough times. Happy Holidays, Darlene
Date: 12/10/2014 12:49:00 AM
Awesome poem, brought tears to my eyes !
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 12/10/2014 7:06:00 PM
Thank you , Debbie, it is an emotional write. And there is nothing wrong with tears being shed. It just means you are an emotional person and have compassion for others. I appreciate that so much.
Date: 11/29/2014 4:38:00 AM
a heart breaking poem Darlene never should we outlive a child I feel for you dear friend this is a wonderful tribute to Gary hugs 7
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Date: 11/29/2014 10:59:00 AM
Thank you, Shadow, for your compassion. And for your generous 7
Date: 11/13/2014 3:23:00 PM
Hello Darlene, Congratulations on Poem of the Day!! At least with receiving this honor, it has given wider currency in the community to this most wonderful poem and tribute to your son Gary. I am so sorry for your loss. Time may go by, but one can never forget. But through your most heartfelt words and actions, the warm memory of your son will live one. You have many in our community who truly love your poetry (including me!!!). I know I'm proud and very moved by your poem. God Bless You!! Gary
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 4:45:00 PM
Thanks, Gary! Your compassionate words warm my heart. And I was so shocked today to know my poem had been picked for this honor. And in turn, honoring my son as well! That is so uplifting! Thank you for reading and liking my work, and to have you say others are reading and liking my poems, as well, is an added incentive to keep writing. My best to you, Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 1:14:00 PM
Oh a mother's love. There is nothing greater Congratulations on POTD and giving us the chance to share with you and your loss. As Richard says you will meet again and you have learned to share your loss and finding healing. I am fortunate that I still have Richard in my life. Blessings and love to you Edith
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 1:22:00 PM
Thanks, Mama Bear, Thanks for the congrats. So good of you to visit my page and read the tribute poem about my son. Richard is lucky to have you! Yes, I'm finding out that sharing a loss is helpful and it also lets others know that if I can survive it, they can, too! Please don't be a stranger and come visit me again, and I will do the same. Hugs, Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 12:47:00 PM
I am touched by your words and heart. You have taken the unimaginable and used it to strengthen yourself and those around you. A fitting choice for poem of the day. I am sorry for your loss. As a believer you know there is a hope beyond this temporary existence. Hugs Rick
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 12:57:00 PM
Thanks, Rick, your comments are deeply appreciated. And yes I know there is beyond this life for those who believe in our Lord and Savior. But thank you because during the sad times we need to be reminded of this. And hugs to you, also! Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 12:01:00 PM
I am back to congratulate you but I also want to say that all your poetry is excellent. You are one of my favorite poets here. I would gladly assume a little of your pain if I could. Lighten your load. God Bless and Always Love.
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Date: 11/13/2014 12:10:00 PM
Now you are making me cry, Maurice, by offering to share my grief and lifting my load! May God always send blessings your way, my friend. And for you to say I am one of your favorite poets is so rewarding to hear. Thank you, Darlene
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 12:04:00 PM
Thank you, Leon, yes, I agree, poetry can be a healing outlet, as God taught me when I was crying by my son's beside that night and pulled a pen out of my purse instead of a tissue. And I got HIs message that my outlet would be poetry. Blessings, Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 11:48:00 AM
Dear Darlene: Congratulations on your piece being selected POTD. Yes, very often something very heartbreaking can connect us to our soul self. Keep writing. I am sure you know that poetry can be very healing. I think so. All the best then, Leon.
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Date: 11/13/2014 11:31:00 AM
a beautiful tribute from a brave mother to her brave boy...thank you for sharing. I'm so happy your poem is potd, otherwise I would have missed it. Love and blessings, Rhonda
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 12:13:00 PM
Thanks, Rhonda, and I am so happy that you did not miss this poem and that you liked my tribute to Gary. Blessings, Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 11:30:00 AM
Sad, poignant I feel for your loss but admire your perseverance. Many would have replaced the pen and found the tissue. Congrats on your Poem of Day
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 12:26:00 PM
Thanks, Dave for your congrats and kind comments. And if I had chosen the tissue that night, I believe God would have persevered until I took up the pen. Because God never gives up on anyone!
Date: 11/13/2014 9:50:00 AM
Tears, words, groans, laughter and prayers . . . they form a road for use to travel . . . you are a master traveler and your sharing has cleared a path for us to follow . . . you have given me hope to continue the journey.
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 12:21:00 PM
David, how wonderful that you received hope for your journey through reading mine! Please take God along on that journey with you. He will uplift, encourage and strengthen you. And I pray He will also give you all healing and support through out your life journey. Take care, my friend... Blessings, Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 8:55:00 AM
Congrats on Poem of the day Darlene :) Well deserved dear friend. Have a superb day :) Hugs "B"
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Date: 11/13/2014 1:57:00 PM
This truly is a touching story.one day we will meet our loved ones again. I live to see my dad one day also.for now we have to stay strong. Always here if you need a shoulder dear friend. Lots of hugs and love. "B"
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Date: 11/13/2014 1:56:00 PM
 I agree 100%.Remember God give His tougest battles to His strongest soldiers and He promise that He know the plans He have for us , plans to prosper us and not to harm us. We don't always understand the why's but God will never forsake us.Stay strong dear. Big hugs "B"
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 12:29:00 PM
Thank you, "B", my new friend, for caring enough to comment. Every day is better with God in it, don't you think! Hugs back at ya!
Date: 11/13/2014 8:24:00 AM
Darlene, what a treasure to remember your son in a poem. Death is so devastating when it's your own child. LOVE & HUGS eve
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 8:33:00 AM
Thank you, Eve, for reading this tribute to my son, and for your kind, compassionate words. I think most of us have been touched by a beloved family members death or a friend's.. Death is devastating to those who get left behind. Hugs back at ya! Darlene
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 8:28:00 AM
I can tell you are a compassionate person, Adebusola, Thank you! And yes, I will keep writing for the people who like my style of poetry. Full of emotion and feeling. Blessings, Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 8:01:00 AM
What a treasure! I am sure heaven rejoices you let him go cause he does deserve heaven...I am moved to tears Darlene. Gary lives on in our hearts. Keep writing.
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Date: 11/13/2014 6:35:00 AM
Salute your parenthood! He dwells in this poem with pride and honour
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 7:32:00 AM
Thank you, Rakesh, for your very intelligent comment.
Date: 11/13/2014 3:07:00 AM
- Congratulations "Poem of the Day" .... well deserved Darlene !!!! - oxox // Anne-Lise :)
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 8:07:00 AM
God made us all different.Isn't that wonderful!You express yourself in your own way. Different from anyone else. As for me, what you see is what you get: an emotional person who puts it all out there, what's on my heart. And what I'm feeling at the time I write my poems. If others cried over what I wrote, maybe they were experiencing their own losses and their tears helped to cleanse their souls So in that way,I pray I helped them. Bottled up emotions and feelings must come out or we can get sicknesses from them.They affect our body as they did mine.So I am learning to not get bottle-necked again.Thanks for your comments.
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 7:35:00 AM
Really! Me! I haven't checked it out yet. Thanks for letting me know.
Date: 11/13/2014 3:00:00 AM
Though written in the most pathetic tone it gives hope bowdlerise pains, at least as i see it. like it! Peace to your lovely son
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Date: 11/13/2014 2:55:00 AM
Hello Darleen. I am so moved by your poem for your son, "My little soldier boy." I cannot imagine having to watch Gary suffer to breath for the short time he was on this earth. My mother's heart goes out to you. My son Rodney passed away 3 years ago and the pain is still so overwhelming and fresh. I will pray for you my dear. ~Sharon Peeples
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 8:19:00 AM
And I will pray for you, too, Sharon, because some people do not understand that there is no distance in death. I miss Gary, like you do your son Rodney as if he died yesterday! Isn't that true! And I am so sorry for your loss. When we cry our tears it helps us let those feelings out. I know you understand what I'm saying. Blessing, Darlene
Date: 11/13/2014 2:46:00 AM
Simply heartbreaking to read this tribute poem Darlene - I used to be a volunteer/presenter on the wards on a hospital radio station in the UK - I still vividly remember a young lad - Mark - who had CF who I used to play with on the wards - gosh you have brought back so so many memories. I only started writing when my hubby had cancer surgery last year - amazing what brings us all here but it is the most incredible time in my life:-) into faves for me Hugs jan xx
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 8:38:00 AM
So happy to hear that, Jan, and may God give you continued peace and health in all your future journeys .
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Date: 11/13/2014 8:30:00 AM
yes he's doing really well and got the all clear Darlene in fact its a year Saturday since he had his surgery - oh what a journey we have both been on! Hugs Jan xxx
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/13/2014 8:24:00 AM
Jan, I know my tribute poem was sad, but thanks for reading it. Mark, the little boy you took the time to play with, showed you what CF was and you had empathy for him and know what he was going through. I pray your husbands cancer surgery was successful. And may God be with you and your family and continue to send His healing and blessings. Darlene
Date: 11/12/2014 4:40:00 AM
My dearest, Darlede, I am so sorry to read this tragic story. Losing a child is the worst thing that ever could happen to a mother. For thirty years I console people who lose loved ones, especially mothers and I understand to a great degree what you went through and what you are going through. I have written many poems on death and you can find them here at poetrysoup. The shortest is the following: DEATH, A celestial pillow upon which the soul rests for a while, dreaming of the life to come!
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Darlene Gifford
Date: 11/12/2014 6:15:00 AM
Thank you, Demetrios for your compassionate comments.I will read your poems.the death of a child leaves an ache that never heals.I know Gary is in a better place and free now from pain. But at such a dear price!Separation ..separation.. the human physical part: The talking, hugging, holding, being with, sharing life with. Sharing hopes and dreams, loving each other. All this and more. Feeling he got short changed, cheated out of his share of life, while others waste theirs on drugs, throw this precious gift away (healthy people) committing suicide, and ill ones dying. Give those that want to live life, and let others go that don't. Life, so crazy. I would go join my son in a heartbeat if I thought that was right But I know better.God still has work for me to do here.Sorry I ran on.out of space.
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