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He sits quietly in the corner of the room and dabs his face removing the blood that still gently trickles down his cheek. Flinching from the pain he tries to be more careful. He wants to ask but doesn’t dare, so he wonders, What did I do wrong? Running his trembling fingers through his grey hair, he remembers, I only wanted a glass of milk. She grabs a rag and starts cleaning off the counter. As she wipes down the cupboard she is still cursing under her breath. “Why did we have to take him, we can’t go out anymore because we’re stuck here with this eighty five year old man who can’t even pour himself a glass of milk without spilling it. With that she throws the rag loudly in the sink. He wants to get up and go to his room, but he’s afraid. It didn’t used to be like this, she used to laugh with me and we’d talk about when mom was still alive. How many times we took the children so they could go away. Now she doesn’t even look at me anymore without frowning. Maybe if I just sit here quietly she’ll forget about me. Maybe if……. Oh no, here she comes. She puts her hands on her hips and as if he was five years old she scolded him over and over again. She’s so tired of telling the old man the same things, but he just doesn’t get it. She asks herself why the father she loved so much had to go and get Alzheimer. She notices how he’s shying away and protecting his head with his arms. He runs into his room afraid she could slap him again, thankful that his door still has a lock. He hears her yell, “Just ask me when you want something.” He stands leaning on his door and slowly he slides to the floor where he curls in a ball. Glancing around the strange room, tears fog his eyes as he asks, “Where am I?" Written by Brenda Meier-Hans 12.14.2014 Cyndi MacMillan Contest Name I CAN'T BREATHE: A peaceful Protest, An Anthology of Powerful Poems

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Date: 4/18/2015 6:30:00 PM
Brenda, this is powerful, it was nice seeing Cyndi's "I CAN'T BREATHE, generous list." Hope you enjoyed the showcase of this powerful contest theme, thank you for sharing the message. XOX ~LINDA~
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Date: 4/16/2015 9:38:00 AM
very moving Brenda congrats on win hugs 7
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Date: 4/16/2015 8:55:00 AM
Hi Brenda, stopping back to congratulate your for your win on this amazing poem. Hugs, Sandra
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Date: 12/18/2014 3:50:00 PM
A moving poem indeed. My late Father passed in 2003 with Alzhiemer's disease; it's not an easy disease to deal with and communication is very difficult. It's not just about forgetting. Sometimes, it's just better for all involved, if you pretend to live in their world; no matter how bizarre it may be.
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/18/2014 8:11:00 PM
This is so true. Playing in their world makes them feel secure and that is more important. Thanks for taking the time to read this.
Date: 12/18/2014 8:47:00 AM
oh so sad misting the eyes some human beings this i relate to as my sister is mentally handicapped deep powerful pen brenda i pray this world changes so many ugly faces of hate bless them i pray
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/18/2014 8:08:00 PM
Yes Liam, we all just need more love and compassion.
Date: 12/17/2014 5:07:00 AM
Hellish reality when love is absent from the heart! Powerful and well constructed dear, Brenda! Good luck!
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/17/2014 7:17:00 AM
Thanks Demetrios
Date: 12/16/2014 10:13:00 PM
A very compelling write that you addressed compassionately. My heart goes out to the many seniors that live in fear, not only from their care givers but also from Alzheimers, which steal their memories. Excellent write. Hugs
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/17/2014 7:16:00 AM
Thank you Cecilia.
Date: 12/16/2014 9:28:00 PM
wow, Brenda, this is VERY powerful. I really like it. Truly it reflects how people must feel and act in their homes. My mom lived years with my stepdad when he was this way, but as far as I know, she never acted like this with him, thankfully. she did not even want to let him be put in a nursing home. My mother is so good. I wonder if I could be as good as her in a similar situation!
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/17/2014 7:15:00 AM
Thank you Andrea. It must of been a very hard time for your mother. I hope she had support from loved ones.
Date: 12/16/2014 3:37:00 PM
I could barely read this poem Brenda it made me cringe. As you know I care for my Mother as I did my father before he passed in the hospital. The thought of any one laying a hand on them makes me litterally ill. What you wrote here is very important. A Fav for me!
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/16/2014 4:05:00 PM
Thank you so much. I cringed as I wrote this Maurice. When I hear such things it breaks my heart and I can't believe this goes on but it does and therefore I have chosen to speak out for the elderly and others that depend on people to care for them. They deserve love and respect.
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/16/2014 3:59:00 PM
Thanks Sara. Yes it is very hard but here in our countries you can get assistance and places that can help support you. What kind of egoistic people have we become that we can't lovingly take care of those who provided and cared for us for so many years.
Date: 12/16/2014 3:20:00 PM
Whoa!! A good one that is emotive and expressive..I am sure that this happens many times here in our country and in other cultures as well..It is also very hard being on the other side as a care giver..A very difficult task caring for the elderly..Thanks for the visit to my page..This one reads like a winner to me..Way to go..Sara
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/16/2014 4:00:00 PM
Sorry I answered you under Maurice.
Date: 12/16/2014 8:44:00 AM
Wow...Brenda, your amazing poem filled me with so much emotion of sadness and anger because there are so many poor, old and sick elders that must face this abuse every day. You expressed it so dramatically leaving a powerful image of this abuse. 7 +Fav, Hugs, Sandra
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/16/2014 11:32:00 AM
Thank you so much Sandra. I brought my 81year old mother to live with me one year ago. I couldn't imagine slapping her or pushing in any way. I do have to smile when I have answered the same question ten time. Mostly she does really well and if I get upset with her, she'll give it right back lol.
Date: 12/16/2014 8:09:00 AM
Oh, Brenda, this one brought tears, so much truth in this write. I always pray that I am not a burden to my children that I can take care of myself until the day I die. A 7 dear friend, Blessings and have a very Merry Christmas with your family
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/16/2014 11:27:00 AM
Thank you Eve. I wish you a blessed Christmas also. XXOO
Date: 12/16/2014 8:08:00 AM
It's extremely painful to read but true. Love Brenda>>>>rajat
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/16/2014 11:26:00 AM
Thanks Rajat
Date: 12/15/2014 2:46:00 AM
I love the way you ended this emotive piece Brenda. It tells it all, how confused and fearful that disease can make someone. My daughter is a nurse in a convalescent hospital and she is very kind to her patients. She has told me that some of the staff don't like constantly repeating themselves, but she tells them, these patients are hearing you tell them this for the first time because they don't remember. I want that kind of nurse when my time comes. Great choice for your protest!
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Brenda Meier-Hans
Date: 12/15/2014 7:13:00 AM
Thank you Connie. That is beautiful that your daughter is so kind. It breaks my heart when I think there are caregivers with no understanding for this and other diseases. are they not being trained properly or have they chosen the wrong career? Thankfully there are also very loving caregivers out there.

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