We see this person every day, at work, at the grocery store ….. Wherever, and for some reason that only “we “can know …. We think their interested, we “misfactualize” the actuality, that they are just our friends, and will always be “just our friend”. There is nothing inherently wrong with that concept …. “Friend” …. But we give it a demonic meaning when we are talking about a person that we are interested in in a romantic way, and only when “the other party” is not romantically interested in us. We say things like, “she told me that she thinks of me as a brother”, or something like this “she said that she just wants to be friends”.
MY GOD!!!!!! What have we as a species come to when someone can tell you that they want to be your friend and we ostracize them for it, we set them aside as we would a broken vase, and why? “Because they didn’t share the same feelings as you” …. Get over it. If someone calls you a friend, feel blessed. In the world that we live in today a “friend” means something. It means that they are there to stand by you, to help you when you need it, and to have your back when it seems like the rest of the world is out to get you …. So what if they don’t feel the same way that you do, go on with your life, meet new people and eventually you will find someone that feels the same as you, and you know what …. In the background, after you have said your vows with that one special someone …. The one that you thought you wanted, you know the one. The one that said that he or she just wanted “to be friends” will be the one clapping the loudest, and cheering the most boisterously when she or he sees you happy.
So there it is, instead of forgetting the ones that you thought you wanted. Remember them and keep them close, because eventually they will be the ones that mean the most to you. The ones who say that they want to “be your friend” … probably mean it. The definition of “Friend” is this: a person you know well and regard with affection and trust, the key word there is trust, don’t set it aside because you feel betrayed over a perceived slight that has nothing to do with anything other than your ego. A friend is just that, a friend ….. Feel lucky that you have them!
This has been another edition of Ryland’s Raves ….. Thanks for reading