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She blames the woman and feels good but the truth's misunderstood She didn't give him what she should She bears the blame She blames the woman and feels fine In anger sees him wine and dine How did he let "her" cross the line... He bears the blame the blame must rest where blame is due Integrity's not something new If truth is what she really knew She'd blame her man Eileen Manassian Footnote: If your man sniffs up someone else's skirt Yank on his collar Don't blame the woman for smelling sweet blame the man for wanting another treat Women tend to be vicious in blaming others when their men stray. A man of integrity will not stray. No affair takes place in a vacuum. No woman can "steal" a man if the man hasn't come searching or hasn't shown a green "go head" sign. Where does the blame lie? Does it lie with Brad Pitt or Angelina Jolie who fell in love during the filming of Mr and Mrs Smith. Brad was married at the time to Jennifer Aniston....Rachel on friends. Will we ever know? Questions....questions. FYI....I love Jennifer!! I'm a Friends Fanatic.

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White Sage

Date: 1/2/2016 9:54:00 AM

there's always someone to be blamed, something obvious about blaming is that it goes to the first person you can think of, and nobody always can give reasons...nice write Eileen

Mama Bear

Date: 12/3/2015 8:19:00 AM

Some people can not face conflict so therefore it is likely that they will look for someone who gives them no conflict and lets them go on the way they have been It does not matter to them if you are hurting as long as they feel OK Shallowness on their part and best to let them go They can not make you happy so let them stray and do not blame the other woman since happiness with this person is impossible. We are self indulgent creatures with no thought of others Love and hugs Edith

Laura Breidenthal

Date: 11/29/2015 9:13:00 PM

"the blame must rest where blame is due" Wise words. Another great poem to reflect upon tonight Eileen. Always, Laura

Paul Callus

Date: 11/23/2015 4:16:00 PM

In the tv programme "Cheaters" blame is often put at the door of the betrayed persons...for lack of attention, love, sex and understanding. To me it is mostly lack of dialogue. A big percentage of married couples have problems, but instead of walking off with somebody else, they try and work things out. // Found your footnote of interest! Hugs // paul

Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/24/2015 2:08:00 PM

Thanks, Paul. Relationships are complex things. Going for counseling is not a bad idea. Reading books like Making Love Last Forever by Gary Smalley...He Wins/She Wins....5 Love Languages...etc are all useful, but if is not a commitment on BOTH sides to see it work....it is bound to lead to infidelity. We were created to be loved....that is a fundamental need. Thanks for the lovely comment, dear. I'm doing better. Will respond to your mail tomorrow after my classes. Hugs

Richard Lamoureux

Date: 11/23/2015 9:22:00 AM

I think there is enough blame to go around. Yes the woman who tempts does have some responsibility and the man who welcomes the advance. I agree with Becca that sometimes the wife can do everything right and still some men are just dogs.

Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/23/2015 9:26:00 AM

Thank you, Richard. I still maintain that women are ruthless to each other...when it is the man who bears the blame. He can make his woman secure, or he can run after others. I think it gives a woman sense of false security to blame the "other woman" and not think of the deeper issues involved in the relationship. THIS...according to psychologists. I said...these things don't happen in a vacuum. Some need isn't being met there. Of course, the woman who actively works to wreck a relationship has to answer for it. That doesn't absolve the hate and venom women spew out at other women, when it should be directed to....as you mentioned...the DOGS. Interesting that this poem is bringing such strong language as slut and dog to the forefront. Very interesting. Thanks for the post.

Arthur Vaso

Date: 11/22/2015 7:53:00 PM

Beautiful. In any relationship, in times of hardship one or the other often looks outwards, instead of looking inwards to repair a love that once was and still can be! Life is never easy or black and white and love well is even harder to understand at times! Hugs!

Arthur Vaso
Date: 11/22/2015 8:20:00 PM

You summed it up right there! I am full of , oh yes wisdom! LOL how nice of you, it seems I am wise until it comes to my own life, oh well live and learn as they say!!!!! Hugs! :)

Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/22/2015 8:06:00 PM

Thank you, dear one. You are full of wisdom. :) I appreciate your insight into this. Relationships are not easy...but as you said, there needs to be work on BOTH sides to make it work and to prevent infidelity. If needs aren't met...continuously, unwanted results will ensure. Hugs!

Jerry T Curtis

Date: 11/22/2015 7:12:00 PM

Eileen, I really like your work here, But what's love got to do with it---Please remember Eileen, I said I really like your work here----------lol

Eileen Manassian
Date: 11/22/2015 7:17:00 PM

What's love but a second hand emotion....Love Tina Turner. Thanks for the visit to this write, my dear. Hugs