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Hi everybody, my name is Vera as some of you already know, and I am the wife of Peter Duggan. I came on this site to cheer Peter on, and also to read some poetry which I do enjoy at times. I have made a few friends on this site and correspond with some, and a few of them have asked me to write something. Now I have never done anything like this before, but I decided to humor these friends any way. I could not really think of anything to write about, but then I thought of a subject dear to both myself and Peter; the transformation that he has gone through in the last five years. This might be of interest, and indeed some help to others who are having problems within their relationships with others. We married in London in sixty five, Then emigrated to Australia in 1967 and our marriage was going very well, filled with love and laughter. But then Peter decided to join the army, and volunteered to fight in Vietnam, because he wanted to do something to repay this wonderful country back for letting him live here. When he came back to Australia, this was when it all went pear shaped. Peter started to change; he become very aggressive and Psychologically cruel to myself and our three children and was like a keg of dynamite just waiting to explode. He would argue about everything and anything, and got involved in many very nasty fights. No one could tolerate him for very long, and myself and the children often felt like we were walking on eggshells whenever he was around. He turned to alcohol, and cannabis, and he was always off his head on any one of those drugs. Having said all this, Peter was never physically aggressive to me or the children. Anyhow, this all came to a climax, when he suddenly walked out on us all and decided he wanted to live like a bum. Said he wanted his freedom. This was the last time I saw him for a year. When because I loved him so very much, I asked him to come back to us again. He came back, but nothing really changed, in fact I told him he would never change, and I honestly thought our marriage was beyond repair. He had done so much counselling, read every book on self-help, and tried religion [all the major ones], but nothing really helped. Then one day about five years ago, Peter was perusing through the net, desperate to find someone to help him get rid of this evil that lurked within him He came cross a man named John Sherman, who claimed that he could help people with this simple little action, that he gave Peter to do. In his desperation Peter put his whole life into this simple act. He never strayed from this path, and after a month or two things started dropping away. Each day he seemed to get more, and more happy, so happy in fact that he seemed to bubble with happiness. His anger started to drop away gradually until it diminished completely. He still loves to argue, but he never has to be right all the time and treats it all as a game. How anyone can change so dramatically, is completely beyond me, but the miracle happened; the evidence is before me. If I ever won the lottery, I would donate half of it to the Sherman foundation, and would be totally happy to do this. But the only thing that we can do Is spread the Sherman’s work any chance we can get. We both owe them so much. Anyhow, this is my first write, and I hope that many people might gain something from it. Peter and I are now the the happiest couple that ever walked the face of the Earth. I thank all of you that chose to read, this. Whether I’ll ever make a second attempt one never knows. But I surely enjoyed writing this. Peter helped me to arrange the words, as I had no confidence in my own abilities…..Vera

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Date: 1/4/2018 10:34:00 PM
WOW Mrs Duggan! When one writes from the heart is truly a delivering poem/message. And yes, you have given me a great advice about marriage. Your love for your husband is pure and has conquered all... And here you both are 52 years going strong. I am totally in awe and envy you dearest Vera... Thank you for sharing this truthful and caring poem with us... Hugs and smiles :)
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Vera Duggan
Date: 1/5/2018 6:56:00 PM
Akkina, well I thank you so much for this wonderful comment, yes I do love my husband very much, in fact I would be lost without him and writing this piece helped both of us through a difficult time, you can get through anything if you try and I really think most couples do go through bad times in their lives, how sweet you are to read my poems, I thank you from the bottom of my heart, take care my dear friend.......Vera x.
Date: 7/6/2017 9:42:00 PM
Wow Vera, this is a beautiful gift this little write, I say little, but like the Tardis is little, and too it has a door opened to boundless possibilities. I am so glad to have found this. You are wonderful. Thank you! xomo
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Date: 1/5/2018 6:51:00 PM
Maureen I am so sorry I didn't answer your comment from way back, I don't usually go back on my poems, once I have written them I forget them, please forgive me and thank you so much for the comment, take care......Vera
Date: 10/24/2015 11:57:00 PM
Hello Vera, thank you for reading and liking my Mystified poem .... This is a great personal story , I keep mine in my diaries " I turned 60 on Oct 7th, 55 :). I've read Peter's poems a few times. Maybe you might like to read my first poem Fall From Grace :) I'm glad you made it thru the storm <3
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Vera Duggan
Date: 10/26/2015 10:48:00 PM
Debbie thank you for reading my story, actually by writing it I seemed to get a load off my chest, I was told if you do have problems etc. it is good to write about it, yes I will read your poem, thank you very much, take care my dear..............Vera.
Date: 5/31/2015 9:55:00 AM
Yes please Vera, thank you. Sorry for the late reply. I was out and just got back an hour ago. Hugs! Kim.
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Date: 5/30/2015 8:15:00 PM
Hello, Vera. This so powerful and I'm so moved! You've given a clearer picture of the words "Love conquers all". This not being a poem does not lessen its impact on me, as I'm sure on others who've read this. More than ever, we see the all too destructive effect of war that people who gain much from it try to dilute - the psychological trauma to those who are directly in the battlefield and their families and who knows, may affect the younger generation too. Thank you for being you. Hugs! Kim
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Vera Duggan
Date: 5/30/2015 11:45:00 PM
Kim my dear thank you so much for taking the time to read and comment on my very first and thank you so much for the lovely words. Would you mind if I Soup mailed you as you sound like a very nice person. take care my friend.............Vera.........
Date: 10/1/2014 3:40:00 PM
Good - more people should try their hand at poetry! What is the secret of John Sherman that was so effective? Peace & Love Matthew Anish
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Date: 10/2/2014 7:52:00 PM
Matthew thank you for reading this little story of part of our lives and for commenting. If it wasn't for John Sherman helping Peter god knows where we would be, Peter was quite messed up. Check John out on justonelook.org you may find him interesting. take care my friend...............Vera.............
Date: 10/1/2014 5:09:00 AM
this vera is such an excellent write never giving up on love always shines so true in the end i pray the angels forever look over you both always your friend liam bless you both
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Date: 10/2/2014 8:16:00 PM
vera i pray and hope so too because it always brings lots of light filled with deep beauty you also take care smiling
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Date: 10/2/2014 7:49:00 PM
Liam thank you so much for the lovely comment, love may go astray at times but deep down it is still there and by the years separation we found that we were more in love than ever, it is a wonderful feeling, I hope you have love in your life, take care my friend..........Vera............
Date: 9/20/2014 2:39:00 PM
Well, I finally went back to see what started it all.... Great revelation that answers some questions... I knew Peter exhibited all the characteristics of a good and upright person. Now I can add this one to all the stories about the loyal and loving women behind the success of mot men.... I rejoice with you both... Sometimes marriage takes work in order to succeed.... The result is always a God send..... Love you guys... Jake
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Date: 9/20/2014 9:42:00 PM
Jake my friend I can't believe you went right back to my beginning, thank you so much, yes Peter went off the rails for a while there but as you can see we got through it, if I hadn't taken him back he would probably still be on the streets, he was at the stage where he didn't care about himself, but as they say love conquers all, Peter and I love you and your work Jake so please take care.................Vera.............
Date: 5/13/2014 11:02:00 PM
Vera.. I am so glad I read this.. it is wonderful.. full of hope and love for your man... I am so amazed you never gave up on him.. and he found his happiness.. this is wonderful and awesome.... hugs dear one. you wrote this just perfect.. and I hope the world get to read it .. may be it will help someone else.. many blessings to both of you' Brooke
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Date: 5/15/2014 1:12:00 AM
Brooke my dear thank you so much for the comment, no I never gave up on him, he was my husband for forty odd years and no way was I going to give up on that, I loved him and when you love someone you just don't throw it away, thank you so much and take care.......Vera...............
Date: 5/13/2014 9:46:00 PM
Hi Vera and Peter, I'm very proud of both of you for going thru this with one another. Most people would not have worked or care to work thru it. You are both to be commended. Vera you wrote this so eloquently. No frills straight from the hip which is the only way. But You were also tender . I think that there are only good reasons your both here. I'm honored to have met the both of you and very graced to have met the sweet people I have met here. Love and Peace, Deborah
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Date: 5/15/2014 1:09:00 AM
Deborah thank you ever so much for that comment, I knew Peter was going through something at that time, but I loved him and I wasn't going to give up on him, we had seen to many years together to just give up, he was away for a year and when he came back it brought us closer together and now we are happier than we have ever been so lovely to meet you, you take care and once again thank you for taking the time to read...........Vera...............
Date: 5/9/2014 2:06:00 AM
It is nice to see you writing, Vera. And from what I've read so far, you have a great talent for it! I hope that you will continue to write....When I started writing, I never had any kind of confidence in myself, either. It is amazing what a little encouragement can do.
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Date: 5/10/2014 7:29:00 PM
Thank you so much Kelly, I really don't know about talent, like you I haven't got much confidence and yes I get quite a lot of encouragement from Peter so I will continue to write, how often I don't know, but I will get there, Take care my dear..........Vera..........
Date: 4/25/2014 8:25:00 PM
Vera; I always wondered why you didn't write. Now I know. This just proves that nobody knows what the other person has gone through. Miracles do happen. Welcome and God bless you both. Always... Lucilla
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Date: 4/26/2014 12:50:00 AM
Thank you ever so much Lucilla, yes I did go through what I call hell but as you can see we got through which I believe Love conquers all, thank you and God bless you................Vera...................
Date: 4/21/2014 6:56:00 PM
I beieve in you two my friend, Vera your not alone, i barely graduated from high school, I'm self taught and it took me along time to get to where i am, and i'm still working things out, if you need anything at all just write and let me know ok. Take care of our big mountain man lol
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Date: 4/22/2014 12:27:00 AM
Thank you ever so much Cheryl for reading and commenting, I do take my hat off to you for teaching yourself and I'd say you have done an excellent job, you write such lovely and great stuff and thank you I will keep you in mind if and when I need anything. Actually my daughter is home schooling her 11 year old son and he is doing a lot better than he was at school, once again thank you my friend.......Vera.............
Date: 4/18/2014 1:17:00 PM
Wow Vera! Straight from the heart - you are so brave to write about what happened in the past and I am sure you found great strength in getting it down on paper - I too tend to wear my heart on my sleeve on here sometimes - not always - i dont know where some of the inspiration comes from! Best thing I ever did joining here and making some fantastic friends like you and peter. i want to see more more more Vera poems. Hugs Jan
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Date: 4/20/2014 1:34:00 AM
Oh! Jan at last I did it, with Peter's help of course and yes it did make me feel good and we seem to get a lot off our chest. Don't know when the next one will be but I do try and think of different subjects, can't guarantee when the next one will come along, but you will soon know when it does, mind you the other one was just mine..........Vera................
Date: 4/18/2014 11:12:00 AM
Hi Vera! So good to see YOU on here at last :) I must admit that this long write kept my attention to the full...was sort of sorry when it came to the end. // I have only known Peter for the last 2 months (since I joined Soup) but I can tell that he is amongst the best around. // Congrats to you for being so understanding and ready to stand by your man :) God bless! // paul
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Date: 4/20/2014 1:26:00 AM
Thanks for that Paul, I could go on and on as we have had quite an interesting life but no I won't bore you with anymore and anyway I only did what a woman in love would do, once again thank you so much for taking the time to read, take care...............Vera..............
Date: 4/18/2014 8:23:00 AM
What a moving write Vera. I am glad you both found each other. Through Peters writing I can see he has a good heart. Now through your writing I see why he came back to your loving arms. This is a moving piece and I thank you for sharing it with us. My mom who never wrote poetry is now writing on the site, look up Mama Bear.
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Date: 4/20/2014 1:22:00 AM
Thank you Richard for taking the time to read my work, yes Peter has got a good heart and it is only the PTSD that made him do what he did, but we have got through all that now and things are better than they ever were, we have a very happy life, I hope yours is the same and yes I will look up your mothers work, thank you take care...........Vera................
Date: 4/18/2014 3:47:00 AM
Indeed Vera your first write is a very powerful one, and it shows how love conquers all. You have stuck firmly to your vows that you made and these days that in itself is a miracle. Why man is still waging war is beyond me we should spend the money on feeding the hungry instead of wrecking the minds of our soldiers in conflict.. Great write Vera....Andy
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Date: 4/20/2014 1:18:00 AM
Thank you so much Robert, it's true love does conquer all and there are so many marriages gone wrong through silly little incidents, but as you know Peter has PTSD and I wasn't going to throw my marriage away because of an illness, thank you so much for reading.......Vera............
Date: 4/18/2014 2:09:00 AM
Wow Vera: Thank you for sharing this amazing story. I am a fan of Peter's poetry and now , admiring your openess have become a fan of yours. Keep writing because it is only by writing we become better with words. Hugs, SuZ
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Date: 4/18/2014 2:31:00 AM
Thank you for commenting on this write SuZ, I had a bit of encouragement from Peter but I managed and to remember parts of my life gets harder with age but we got there in the end, that is only a fraction of my life......Vera..........
Date: 4/17/2014 8:43:00 AM
speechless... I left my soul hung in a bliss... I always thought that my life is a mess... that there's no bright future awaits for myself... But when I read this... Oh my... my world have changed!!! ... I thank you,Vera for sharing us your wonderful story, journey as a wife, mom and woman... I used to walk on the same path right now... And b'cos of her write.,.. I know now what to do.. and where my feet will turn .... I'm so inspired.. Thanks Peter and Vera!!! :O))
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Vera Duggan
Date: 4/18/2014 1:10:00 AM
Thank you Aiyah for commenting on my write, I am really in awe of all these lovely comments, I did like writing that story, mind you that is only part of my story, can't fit in my whole story as it would take so many pages, but I am so glad you liked it, once again thank you so much for taking the time to read it..........Vera............
Date: 4/17/2014 8:11:00 AM
Your words show the strength of your conviction Vera. The two of you have presented a well written piece, congrats.
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Date: 4/18/2014 1:12:00 AM
Thank you scott for your lovely comments, I couldn't have written it without Peter's help, not only did he help me but it was more or less about him, thanks for taking the time to read it..........Vera............

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