Rylands Raves ... what makes you stronger - Ryland Matthews's Blog

What Makes You Stronger?

the small things ... the little things, all of those things that we all fight about on a daily basis, that seem insignificant. only after the fight is done, is when we actualy realize that the fight that we think we had was not actually a fight but "a growing experiance" ... a way of "knowing" you and me on a more intimate level.

we think that because he said this or she did that that it is a personal affront, but it has nothing to do with the persons involved, and it has everything to do with the "person" that we are, our insecurities, those dark places within our own minds that we can not know (because we are to frieghtened to look there) but we know them none the less, they are .... US!!

two friends of mine ... TWO VERY GOOD FRIENDS!!!! recently had an argument about something that i thought was simplistic .... easy to solve, but to them it created a chasm. on the one hand MALE it garnered frustration, and the other FEMALE it created restlesness to the point of gathering smaller things that would fit into bigger things and putting them away into corners of a bigger room that they were originally in.

LOVE!!! is what you have ... and yes ... fights on a scale that you have not dreampt of that will come to pass ... stagnent ... lays the relationship that never fights (i promise you this, its part of a relationship that actually grows) where you both walk away crying and do not talk to eachother for days perhaps ... but what you truly have is a thing to stand the ages, to test the temper in the fire of every forge ... you will feel pain and you will feel sorrow in this thing that you have ... but most importantley, and above all that you will feel .... and i DO MEAN THAT YOU WILL ... feel this thing called "love"

so to my friends, please ... fight when you need to, love ... because it is you, and forgive .... because "you" are not the same without them. ... we all are connections that we would not be the same without!!

again this has been annother edition of Rylands Raves ... Thanks for reading

Debbie Guzzi Date: 4/30/2011 5:44:00 PM Do not react, respond, no matter what someone else says or does TRY to be true to the person YOU want to be, do not let their actions make you react in a way you can not be proud of....Light & Love Login to Reply

John Freeman Date: 4/30/2011 5:20:00 PM Yes, sometimes fights do turn out to simply be things that need talked about. Agape, Moses Login to Reply

Veronica Joseph Date: 4/30/2011 2:28:00 PM unconditional love makes me strong. Having someone who "sees" me is a gift. Login to Reply

Sara Kendrick Date: 4/30/2011 12:33:00 PM Very good psychology..When is it okay to call it quits?...What criterior does one use to call an end to the relationship or say that there is no hope?Sara Login to Reply

Andrea Dietrich Date: 4/30/2011 7:34:00 AM Good blog, I am thankful that I have never had problems like this. I talk things out with everyone in my life whom I truly care about and want to maintain relationships with. I did have one very good friend from another culture. i said something she totally misconstrued. After bending over backwards to make it right, I could see she would never stop harping on it and we went in Email circles for days and days over it until one day she said, "let's take a breather" I wrote her back and never heard from her again. I think there is no room in our lives for a friendship in which one person is not willing to compromise. LUv, andrea Login to Reply

Linda-Marie Sweetheart Date: 4/30/2011 5:24:00 AM My faith makes me super strong Ryland.. and so good to see u back and blogging my friend.. a great blog .. excellent expressions.. happy weekend luv.. Login to Reply

Constance La France Date: 4/30/2011 5:21:00 AM I recently read in a book on the concept of "surrender" it is now instilled in me, just let life flow "surrender to it" don't try fighting upstream against the current, just float, it will be what it is.. once you grasp this concept nothing will bother you ever again. this makes me a stronger person.. Arguments, depending how serious are warning signs... small, let it go, big, perhaps the answer is to float on by to a happier place and better friends and lovers, that is my rave, Ryland, great blog~~ Login to Reply