As I sit here waiting for you in our favorite corner of Chai Java
I can’t help but ponder on why the falling occurs.
I see them: the people in-love; the people who think they are in-love and
the people who are clearly not in-love
The question reformulates in my mind
Why would someone fall for the ‘wrong one’?
I hold my second cup of coffee
Thoughts turn and turn in my head
And at the bottom of the cup a shadowy reflection occurs
Finally, I conclude this way:
There is no such thing as loving someone else…(cue in the chilling music).
Love is a reflection.
Every human being, by virtue of their being human being is born
with this capacity/emotion called love.
As one matures, the capacity expands, transforms, or simply dims.
But as all such things in this universe, anomalies occur –
Cue in the psychopath (the ones born without capacities except the most revolting
capacity – the capacity to imitate capacities).
Now here’s where it gets tricky part– the argument behind the argument:
I can hear the uproar
No! This can’t be!
Love is a chemical reaction! It’s all about pheromones, right?
But ask yourself
Can there be a chemical reaction without all the chemicals present? Doubtful!
But the love experts would tell you, distance makes the heart grow fonder.
If love is a reflection, what does this mean?
It means the love inside of you needs a reflecting surface – that is all love EXCEPT
one kind of love.
Think of the love inside of you an immovable force –
one that hits a reflector and bounces back onto your heart;
the breathing organ that makes you feel.
Your love goes out as love in-general; it finds a reflector
(a human surface capable
of throwing the love onto your heart) and reaches your
heart as a certain kind of love.
Alone the cup still stands
But when it finds its saucer – it beams, it basks in beauty
A cup with a saucer that ill fits is not a pretty sight you’ll agree.
The size, the pattern, the make must agree to achieve that perfect synergy.
But of course some people try to force the issue.
Now bring out the critics: a love that gets distorted in the course
of bouncing onto your heart leads to anomalies (think pedophiles).
(Note to self: more thought is needed on
what would distort the love reflection)
Because you feel the love reflected back to you – the reflector
becomes meaningful to you –
You’re drawn to them
Soon you say ‘I love you’ but in essence this should be
‘You reflect my love’.
As can be perceived not all human surfaces can reflect love – hence the
limitations of the different types of love
(Another note to self: more research is needed on what makes
some surfaces reflect while others don’t)
But herein comes the psychopath – the one who is able to reflect all
types of love EXCEPT one –
Agape love – a love that does not depend on reflection;
A love tempered by justice – the doing the right
thing because it is right kind-of-love.
Think again: why would you fall for the psychopath?
Answer: because the psychopath has the capacity to bounce back your love
Remember: the psychopath cannot reflect agape love – it simply is not
in them to practice justice
In conclusion: lesson learnt: when you’re in the vicinity of someone,
forget about romantic love; forget about
all other forms of love:
Stop making up excuses for questionable actions:
Delve inside you – reach inwards and stand before them
with your agape love and see what happens.
There you are bouncing in your self-assured way; late as usual
Walking in like you own the world
Finding an empty cup, two empty seats and a dull ring
Funny thing is: You’ll never understand why I had to say goodbye.