The dilemma of not knowing can be the best dilemma of all. In "not knowing" - the unexpected becomes a surprise for us to pine over. Joy becomes more obtainable when we live without expectation. In expectation, one is always trying to figure out outcomes. Then, when a chosen outcome does not take place, frustration and depression take the place of peace and happiness.
Learning to live and let others live is not always easy, especially when one has held on to dependency. Dependency can become the walls to one's prison, not allowing freedom to come and go. Dependency to people, places, and things can become an addiction that only gets stronger with time. To resist dependency is to learn independence - everyone's freedom. Independence is not isolation. Independence allows the freedom of self with a healthy interconnection to others.
We all need independence, but cannot live wholly without interconnection to others. Interconnection forms community. Community forms populations. Populations form movements in history, both good and bad. In being aware of our independence, each one influences their histories.