Heterosexual Sex ( Explicit) (No Offense)

I have found little in this and none in that I am a women but have yet to have a positive reaction to sex at least to the heterosexual kind I'm becoming more curious about what exactly it is next door that I will find. I don't particular think thrusting in and out is a good image in my mind. Why does pain first have to ensue for pleasure to unwind? I guess I just haven't caught the right fish yet and until than my vagina will continue to feel dispassionate unless my fingers are inserted