Granted there are instances in which children have been reared in an atmosphere of inconsistency where value training of any kind was entirely missing; but even in these cases, it is the lack of loving guidance and structure rather than the lack of punitive retribution that has triggered the behavioral manifestations of delinquency. In a high percentage of court cases, there is evidence that the child has met with punishment that has not only been frequent but in many cases excessive. In fact, one of the sources of the child's own inadequate development is the model of open violence provided by the parent who has resorted repeatedly to corporal punishment, usually because of his own limited imagination. This indoctrination into a world where only might makes right and where all strength is invested in the authority of the mother or of the father not only makes it easy for the child to develop aggressive patterns of behavior but makes him emotionally distant and distrustful.
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All this class of pleasures inspires me with the same nausea as I feel at the sight of rich plum-cake or sweetmeats; I prefer the driest bread of common life.
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Errors to be dangerous must have a great deal of truth mingled with them. It is only from this alliance that they can ever obtain an extensive circulation.
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It was a little bit of a shock to lose Anita and Sydney, but I knew the other girls would still do well. But they actually are doing better than I thought. The other girls had to step up, and they progressed quicker than expected.
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He had occasional flashes of silence, that made his conversation perfectly delightful.
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A nation grown free in a single day is a child born with the limbs and the vigor of a man, who would take a drawn sword for his rattle, and set the house in a blaze that he might chuckle over the splendor.
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If the devil could be persuaded to write a bible, he would title it, You Only Live Once.
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Have the courage to be ignorant of a great number of things, in order to avoid the calamity of being ignorant of everything.
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Most people are mirrors, reflecting the moods and emotions of the times. Some people are windows, bringing light to bear on the dark corners where troubles fester. The whole purpose of education is to turn mirrors into windows.
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I wonder what language truck drivers are using, now that everyone is using theirs?
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It resembles a pair of shears, so joined that they cannot be separated, often moving in opposite directions, yet always punishing anyone who c...
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Scotland: That garret of the earth - that knuckle-end of England - that land of Calvin, oat-cakes, and sulphur.
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The object of preaching is to constantly remind mankind of what they keep forgetting; not to supply the intellect, but to fortify the feebleness of human resolutions.
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There's no point in burying the hatchet if you're going to put up a marker on the site.
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A great deal of talent is lost to the world for want of a little courage. Every day sends to their graves obscure men whose timidity prevented them from making a first effort.
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Manners are like the shadows of virtues, they are the momentary display of those qualities which our fellow creatures love and respect.
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We have not passed that subtle line between childhood and adulthood until we move from the passive voice to the active voice-that is, until we have stopped saying 'It got lost,' and say, 'I lost it.'
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It is the greatest of all mistakes to do nothing because you can only do a little. Do what you can.
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He not only overflowed with learning, he stood in the slop.
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Ninety per cent of the world's woe comes from people not knowing themselves, their abilities, their frailties, and even their real virtues. Most of us go almost all the way through life as complete strangers to ourselves -- so how can we know anyone else?
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Man's unique agony as a species consists in his perpetual conflict between the desire to stand out and the need to blend in.
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Middle Age is that perplexing time of life when we hear two voices calling us, one saying, Why not? and the other, Why bother?
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The most important tactic in an argument, next to being right, is to leave an escape hatch for your opponent, so that he can gracefully swing over to your side without an embarrassing loss of face.
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I have, alas, only one illusion left, and that is the Archbishop of Canterbury.
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The reason that truth is stranger than fiction is that fiction has to have a rational thread running through it in order to be believable, whereas reality may be totally irrational.
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There is one piece of advice, in a life of study, which I think no one will object to and that is, every now and then to be completely idle - to do nothing at all.
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As long as there are human beings, there will be the idea of brotherhood -- and an almost total inability to practice it.
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Nobody can be so amusingly arrogant as a young man who has just discovered an old idea and thinks it is his own
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He not only overflowed with learning, but stood in the slop.
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Find fault when you must find fault in private, and if possible sometime after the offense, rather than at the time.
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